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He sounds very immature still. Like a typical high school boy. My advice would be to really just stop giving him attention and make him come to you. He knows you like him and that is the problem. He is using this to his advantage and probably enjoys the thrill and excitement of knowing you fancy him. At his age his ego is huge and every time you give him attention his ego is very happy. If he truly has feelings for you, he'll come to you and be friends and initiate things. You've done enough now and sometimes you have to reach a point where you just completely let go and say that what should be, will be. Think about it. If someone is truly into someone why would they ignore that person and act so hot/cold? It doesn't make sense which means he probably is not as into you as you are into him. Of course we don't know what the future holds and things could change, but for now you shouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing you are crushing on him. Focus on other things for a bit.24
Being male, i agree with XRabbitHeartX. Guys think so to attract the best part of girl which she always reserve for the maximum. Take a little break; not too much. Just stay at distance but at the same time he will catch your loveable feelings that is will be the best part for your relation.14
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Hee don't even look at me he never open my message totally ignoring my existence 🥲0
How about u talk to him1
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Girl, I understand everything going on and will explain the important things to you.
Let's start with he sees you as only a friend. If he liked you, he would have asked you out, as he already knows that you like him.
Him ignoring you and not looking at you doesn't mean he is avoiding you or doesn't like you. This is evident in the way he smiles at you and pleasant when you talk. Since you are a friend to him, he treats you like one, the way he treats a guy friend. Guys may have many friends and they don't always associate with them everyday. But they are still friends and when they do associate, they act the way they always do with them (like when you and him associate). You are treating your friendship with him as if you were his girlfriend or closest mate.
"He went snappy when I went to talk to other people for a bit". He is your friend and was enjoying talking to you and you went away like he didn't matter. Still, he shouldn't have gotten snappy with you, you have other friends lol.
Any other questions about other things you don't understand, I will explain to you. I have had guy friends all my life so I understand them :)
I have though about it, but as I replied to the other comments, HE ONLY DOES THIS TO ME. We don't even talk anymore. I've literally only gotten him to say something to me like 3 times these past few months asking simple questions like, "Do we turn this in?" He agreed to hang out with me EVEN when he knew that I liked him. I totally get the whole thing about me probably "being one of the guys" but he never showed me any sort of "affection" in front of his friends.
I should also mention that he is shy around girls, and I was really one of the only ones that was sort of "in the loop" back when we actually exchanged words. I think I freaked him out. Like, if I find out if a guy friend likes me, I back off and stop talking to them for awhile. (my crush would have been a diff. story) I feel like he might have liked me too, but once he knew I liked him he didn't know what to do and just stopped communicating as I do. Does that make sense?
He sounds exactly like a guy I know. He only treated me like this (exactly what your guy is) and only affectionate to me not around his friends. He knew I liked him (my friend told him) and he started being closer to me but when I told him I liked him, he thought I was taking things too fast, even though he had acted like he liked me back. He actually distanced himself from me because it was too "awkward" to talk to me. When I approached him and asked if he still liked me, he said "i only ever
liked you as a friend". Turns out him knowing I liked him was some sort of an ego boost for him and since I'm just a pretty nice girl, he liked it very much. but as soon as I became too "serious" it scared him off.
Took forever to get our friendship back to a normal one. After a month, we broke the ice through a game.. long story... and it was still awkward to have conversations with him. We usually were very touchy and I still liked him heaps, believing I was going to somehow create attraction and that he only doesn't like like me because of his maturity level. But even though we got touchy, there were more days where he was distant from me or seemed to ignore me. I stressed countless days trying to
Get our friendship back. But after a whole 3 terms of this (I was determined), I decided to just let him go. I stopped putting in the effort. And I started focusing on me. It took forever, but I eventually realized how much an immature boy he is and he isn't the one (I thought he was perfect for me, but he isn't obviously). HE then was the one who began to miss me a bit. HE was the one coming to me to start conversations. And now, I am crushing someone else, and he and I are just mates.
You, my friend are awesome. I was smiling a lot at your last comment here... That is sort of what I'm hoping will happen. But who knows. I guess you are right that I need to start focusing on myself more and not so much on him, especially since I over-think WAY to much...
You sound so much like me, it freaked me out a bit when first answering your question. And I WAS an over thinker too, I was so obsessed about every little thing. Seriously, good luck. If he really was your friend to begin with, he will begin to miss you, I promise. It just takes time lol. :)
Hey, so I went to go watch a game to see my friends playing and guys game was next, I went to throw away some stuff and my crushes mom yelled for me so I went and sat by his family for the game and eventually to watch his game afterwords. I hadn't ever really met his sister, except she followed me on instagram a few months ago and liked ALL of my photos. (My crush doesn't even follow me!) We didn't talk much but I talked a lot to his mom and a little to the dad and I think I sounded quite pleasant and fun. But still.. I don't know and still questioning whether or not his sister knows that I like him... So, games over, I go home, and now we skip to yesterday, when I was hanging down town, I saw his sister, and she said hey to me (twice bc we ran into each other different times) but in a very happy and as if we were good friends kind of way. Like of course, lets get the crushes family to like you while he is in his little boy stage. So, what do you think this means?
What do you think what means? And did you know the family before?
No, I have only known my crush and his mom bc of school. I JUST met his sister in person at a game I was at 2 weeks ago, when I sat with his family the whole time. But when I did meet her, we barely spoke a word, but then she was REALLY nice to me when I saw her Saturday and what not so I don't know if this is my girl brain being illogical and picking up on signs that are not there, or if that was her sisterly way knowing that I like her brother, etc, etc. But as I said, if this even is needed to be said, my crush doesn't follow me on instagram, BUT his sister started di and liked ALL of my photos. So, I'm just needing a slap in the face to know if this really is nothing important and I need to stop thinking that everything is a sign, because one of my friends said maybe he had his sister do that bc he was embarrassed or something. I don't know. Help me as best as you can! lol
I know this sort of guy and if he likes you, he would make it more obvious than this. Anyway, it is highly unlikely that a guy would get his LITTLE SISTER to hint to a girl that he likes her. I don't even think he would openly tell her, normal guys aren't like that. If he has a bestfriend, he would have told him, and possibly some close mates of his. But seriously, this IS just your girl mind making signs out of nothing. He just isn't into you, he is still at that immature stage. If there is ever going to be a chance, you have to have him be the one pursuing you and not the other way round. and if he doesn't, you can't do anything about it. You can't make anyone like you, and he may or may not develop feelings for you. As I said before, work on making yourself happy without him and don't make him the centre of your universe as I know you are still doing as I did the same thing :) And I wasted so much time trying to somehow impress him. So goodluck
AH, ok you're right. Thank you, again!
Any time :)