He says I'm too possessive

[Anonymous]

I need help. My boyfriend says I'm too possessive. What does this mean? and how can I stop being possessive? I love him very much but he says that I'm like this? help please

[authentic]

" What does this mean? "

To possess a TV, bag, car ... is fine. You can use and dispose them anyway you like

To possess a human being means you are USING him/her like a dead object. You can do whatever you want with him/her. You are dehumanizing that human being and taking his/her life away from her. Masters of slaves do that, they don't respect their slaves' privacy, freedom; if they treat/protect their slaves well, they do it for the same reason they treat their furniture/monies well, because they are still valuable.

To possess a human being is one of the graviest disrespect of a human being's life.

These masters of slaves still exists in plentiful as we speak, despite it is illegal to buy and own a slave in many countries. They have a new name, they are called control freaks. They have the same mentality of a slave master, and use the same techniques except many are more subtle. The smarter ones control through manipulation. I always suspect these control freaks are the same souls of slaves masters reincarnated. :)

If you want to know what they are up to, see this website, it will also help you understand the meaning of "possessing another human being" link

"and how can I stop beign possessive? "

Remind yourself that

1. your boyfriend's is not yours.

2. your happiness is your own responsibility, not your boyfriend's, your pets, your parents', ...

3. you do not shift that responsibility onto another human being, no matter who he/she is

[monster]

I think it can either mean one of those things:

1) You are jealous and accuse him of "having interest" in other women, when he isn't. Like that you get upset if he even just look at someone, or make any kind of comment on another girl. That is normally a big turn-off because that makes him feel that he has to worry all the time that you might have a fit when he is doing something that is totally harmless in his opinion. No one want s to worry all the time.

2) You insist that he spends most of his time with you. That means that he can't do some of the things he likes, either because he hasn't got time for it anymore, or because you don't like that and he is therefore prevented from doing it when he is with you, and basically can never do it.

3) That you somehow prevent him from spending time with the other people he likes (his friends). If you don't like them, or don't like what he does with them, then you probably put him in a situation where he can't see them anymore, which might give him the feeling of being "imprisoned".

Maybe there are other things, but this is the most usual. Try to understand what he misses, why he misses it, and how you are preventing him from getting it. Then, you can see how you have to change to give him more space, and decide if you are at all ready to do that. It might just be that you two are basically not compatible, if this is something you cannot compromise on.

[boi818]

Well.. are you the jealous type? are you controlling? like not giving him space to do his own thing?

that could be what he's referring to..

[fleeble]

Is he allowed to spend a day where he can do whatever he wants?