My ex girlfriend keeps contacting me and says she misses me.

[jda1974]

We were going out for 6 months and had a great time. We had strong feelings for each other but things were complex as we both had 2 children and work together. She had been on her own for 5 years and the sudden relationship proved to be too much. She broke up with me and said she felt smothered and it wasn't going to work. After 3 days she starts sending me notes asking about things in my life. She thought I was angry with her and said she was glad we talked in person yesterday. She then says that she misses me a lot but knows this is for the best, that she is good with her decision but time will tell. Should I take these things as a sign she is not sure what to do or is it just the process of breaking up? She said she would love to be friends with me and I could handle that if there was a chance of us getting back together. This is hard though and I am wondering what to do next?

[UrielAurora]

These are we women weaknesses, it's true. We are not strong, our heart are fragile, we need man to rely on, to support, and to console us, especially man that has been enter our life for quite long time. We have attached to them. You know I mean what we have going through together as a mate. His cares, attention, kisses, hugs, and intimacy. We remember that, for us that is so sweet and it's hard to forget, moreover if he is no longer in our life. We still remember, for us, it is hard to move on indeed. That's why she still kept asking things about your life,glad that she has talk in person with you, and says she missed you a lot. she still cares but she doesn't know whether she wants to get back or not, she's not sure but her feeling just cannot resist to phone, and to text. She can't. Otherwise, she will get nervous and became insane. She needs that emotion in order to get stable. That's why we are not strong,and that's the reason we can't get over easily. It's hard for us to move on, unless we really determine, and that is not easy as well. It kills us and we near to die. We need to be strong, we have to, and we do that by forcing ourselves to face days,weeks, months, and years until we really back to normal and enjoy new life. She broke up with you mean she gave up on you. I am sorry, I am really sorry to tell you this and she doesn't know what she's doing now because she still in emotion, she's sad, she's angry, she's care, and still she did has that feeling for you but she just can't go on with the relationship. If you understand, let her be your friend, but I think if she's continue like this, she will never move on.

What would you do? I don't know but I understand that you want a chance to get back with her. Why not you fix that? Why not you use this chance to convince her for the relationship? Sometimes when we can see the changes in our mate that we really wish too, we can change our mind. Don't rush to fix the situation, it takes time to convince us.So take it slow, if you want her back, try to be the man she wants you to be, I don't ask for change but be someone that can really make her happy.Make her smile, those confident smile on her face then you know she has convinced with you. Good luck.

[Reeses-pieces777]

take it slow. think about it. and make your decision. beign friends has it's benefits. to me it depends who broke up with who. if my guy dumped me then well, I wouldn't want to see his face again. I'd probably be hurt and not even think of being friends

but

you guys had happy memories together and I guess once you two have forgiven each other for things that happened in the past, sure be friends but definitely clarify WE ARE JUST FRIENDS and that should be alright

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

I would resume the friendship. She doesn't sound like a 'Man-Eater' (laughs). The reason for the break-up (on her part) seems completely validated. I could understand. I would still continue to see other people. But it looks like there is HOPE in the future for the both of you.. Good Luck!

[Emilymarie77]

She may be communicating with you because she is feeling guilty of how she ended it. She also may need her time to think about things but who knows. I have been divorced for years from an abusive ex and have been a few relationships after - personally, if I wanted some1 - I wldnt let them go.