Why does this female friend keep saying she misses me?

[needsanswers100]

Me and this girl have been friends since 7th grade (she is two years a head of me) but about a month ago we decided to go out on a date but after we just decided we should stay friends. But more recently right before we both were to go off to college she posted on my wall on Facebook that she missed me (along with a happy birthday wish) and just yesterday she sent me a text as well saying she missed me. I have a few female friends that I have known as long as her and none of them have ever missed me so much they felt the need to post on my wall and text me about it, so I don't know what "signals", if any she is trying to send by doing this? Girls or guys please help me out!

[jrose]

It's a bit of a tough one. I have a best guy friend and we've been to the point of becoming more than friends a few times over the years, ultimately deciding staying friends was the best idea. I'm content with it, he's content with it (I assume so anyway since he's got a pretty cool girlfriend), no unrequited/unresolved feelings there. But that doesn't mean I don't love him (I do, he's like family) the key is that I'm not IN love with him. I missed him like crazy when I was travelling in Europe for 3 months last summer and I know he missed me- we had a little bit of a tipsy confessional one night soon after I got back lol. I'm real with him in a way I'm not with most other people, so if I miss him I'll tell him.

But our friendship isn't necessarily typical and her missing you, being so blatant about it could be a sign she likes you and wants more than friends. You need to feel it out more- ask her about her friends, her life there- see if she brings up any guys. I avoid talking about guys at all costs if I have a crush on a guy. With my guy friends, especially my best friends, I don't have a problem sharing.

[needsanswers100]

I know what you mean, but what I don't understand is that this girl and I go off and on a lot talking to each other a lot and over all the years I have known her I don't think that she has ever said that she missed me and to do it twice like that (she even accidently sent me the text again), it just got me thinking. I don't know if I want to date her though because we go to different colleges.

[jrose]

Well, if you DON'T want to date her, just let it pass and she'll get the message. If you're thinking you might like to, then you need to get more information. She could also just be having trouble adjusting to college life and be missing the familiar things.

[Anonymous]

If she's pretty and use to getting guys , Because no woman will say she misses you unless she like you , Saying that is the closet way for her telling you she has strong feelings for you . No woman wants to put feelings out like that first, So the closet to it is she likes you, care for you or she misses you . To me that's the best line to use , Because she created confusion . That's what she wanted to accomplish , And look you are confused .

[duvexy]

It sounds like she likes you. Missing someone though, is not necessarily stating that they are in love with you etc etc. I miss some of my family members and I also have best friends whom I actually miss as well.

[needsanswers100]

Thanks, I just hope I guess right because this is a delicate situation to be in since we have an on going friendship...

[Anonymous]

Well this girl I met about a month ago texted me she misses me after we didn't hang out for like 5 days... then she'd tell me it again, and how she likes me and all that. But she turned out to just be wanting attention. My advice to you is to not read into it at all, because it probably doesn't mean as much as you want it to mean.

When I go to college, I miss my dog. I miss home cooked food. I miss my bed. You miss a lot of things when you don't have them for a while, but that doesn't mean she has feelings for you because she misses you.