Do guys fantasize about their gf's close friends and female family members?

[Anonymous]

Is this a common thing that guys do? Like when you masturbate do you think of them?

[MrOracle]

Girls need to remember that guys want to bang EVERY attractive girl, no matter who she is. And, so, yes, when we see an attractive girl, we think "Ooo, she is not. I'd totally bang her!" If we're in a place with a bunch of attractive girls, that thought may cross our minds 200 times in a day. This is just how men operate.

Having said that, it doesn't mean we DO anything about it. Most guys do exactly NOTHING about it 99+% of the time, even if they are single. Most don't even actually imagine banging her (but they probably DO imagine her naked, and what her body looks like) - they simply acknowledge that she's hot enough to bang.

When it comes to fantasizing/masturbating, any attractive girl is "fair game" for a fantasy, because it's just that: a fantasy - something the guy has no intention of coming true, or even TRYING to make come true in the vast majority of cases. Many girls don't seem to get that guys can easily separate fantasy from reality, and that what we might want in our fantasies (which are often changing) is NOT necessarily what we want in the real world, and in fact, our fantasies are often the OPPOSITE of what we want in the real world, because a 5 minute fantasy has no downsides or liabilities - when the fun is over, it's gone. There are no hurt feelings, broken relationships, lines crossed, or taboos violated. It's a FANTASY.

Guys desire VARIATION, and thousands of years ago, they simply banged different women to satisfy that desire (and in doing so, improved the chances of their genes being passed on). Today, with society rules, that's not as acceptable, so most guys satisfy that desire via fantasies, of which p*rn is a big factor today (largely replacing mistresses and brothels in every town). Fantasies hurt no one, because no real people are actually involved, so girls shouldn't be threatened by fantasies unless the guy is actively trying to make them a reality, which is the exception, rather than the rule.

[Prof_Don]

Well said dude

[Asker]

does it bother you if your girlfriends are doing the same thing about your friends, brothers, etc?

[MrOracle]

Not at all. She can fantasize about whoever she likes. Her thoughts are her own, and I certainly down own them. As long as she's not acting on them, I have no issues whatsoever.

[Red_Arrow]

It is sometimes amazing how different people can feel differently about things or one person feel differently at different times.

For instance, a guy may have such respect for his sexual partner (girlfriend or just friends with benefits ) that he will only fantasize about her while masturbating. A different guy (or even the same one at a different time) may have so much respect for her that he feels it would be wrong to fantasize about her and chooses someone else to be the sexual object for masturbation.

Her close friends could be viewed as just other girls and become the object for masturbation. It would seem a bit strange to use any of her family for that masturbation, but then for some guys or some times it may be able to separate the sexual image from any thoughts of family. I believe I have never used her close friends or family in any of my fantasies.

Of course, the question arises of what if they break up and at some point in the future he hooks up with her friend or sister? It is not just fantasy then. Does the time difference make it okay? He will be having sexual relations with a girl but can still remember doing so with her friend or sister.

[Red_Arrow]

Thank you for MH :-)

[MayGreenEyes]

I think it's stupid for guys to fantasize about their girlfriends close friends and female family members. You have a girlfriend, why fantasize about her close friends/female family members? It just doesn't make sense to me.

For those of you that do, don't get mad if you ever find out your girlfriend fantasizes about your close male friends/male family members. ;).

[melissa2]

Hahaha I'm not the only one that literally worries about this I see!

[Betwyn]

I used to date a guy that fantasized about his own sister..

[Asker]

ewwwwww!

[AidenBlue]

Guilty as charged. Not of all of them - but there are some 3 way fantasies. I have not and would not act on them - but some good dreams and fantasies. I think that's fairly normal.

[Prof_Don]

Yup we do...better than acting on it, right?

Consider it a compromise. :)

[Asker]

how is this a compromise

[Prof_Don]

Better than actually acting out on that attraction by making a pass to have sex with said female friend or family member...
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...we just fantasize about it.

[Asker]

it would be a compromise if the guy had a chance with the girl but 99% of the time he doesn't so its not a compromise. thats just you being horny and not having boundaries

[Prof_Don]

Why set boundaries in what I do in my own head? One's inner thoughts is a private place.

EVERYBODY has thoughts in their mind that they don't fully act upon for morality reasons or for some other consequence.

Keeping said sexual fantasies to oneself and not acting upon them is totally harmless.

[Prof_Don]

I wouldn't mind a girl im dating having sexual fantasies about my friends and family.

Her said sexual fantasies are her private thoughts.

I'm not trying to control someone's mind here. That's just insane.

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

Yeah my best friend's girl friend is so hot.But of course my best friend knows it.
"Like when you masturbate do you think of them?"

No comment.That's very private to share to a stranger.

[Asker]

I think that means yes lol. Is she hotter than your girl?

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

No comment about masturbating. well im single when i got crush on her until they broken up.lol.so how about u?

[Asker]

No my boyfriends friends are ugly

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

so meaning to say you are beautiful?

[Asker]

yes i am

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

Indeed you are.lol.
But i believe your bf is a wise man.

[Anonymous]

Not routinely. But sure. Also classmates, coworkers, pretty much every female I know who isn't hideous.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. Every guy I know has fantasized about the GF's sister, cousin, mother, and her friends if they are cute or hot. Guys will sometimes fantasize a threesome.

My GF's sister is very hot and her mother is very cute. I try to flirt with them when I can.

[Asker]

when do you think about it? and why didn't you just try to date her sister then?

[Opinion Owner]

I normally think about her sister after i see her at my gf house. I met my gf first. didn't meet her sister until she brought me to her parents house. Anyways her sister won't date anyone her sister dated. I can understand that.

[Asker]

but if you could you would be with her sister instead?

[Opinion Owner]

No. I would rather be with my GF. My GF is just as hot as her sister is. But me and my GF are very compatible. I can't help it, but I have son strange sexual attraction to her sister. Maybe the feelings will pass over time. It doesn't help that her sister plays with my hair and sits on my lap.

[Asker]

wtf! she allows her sister to sit on your lap? thats crazy lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yah it is crazy. Her sister fucks with me all the time. The sister has also swatted my ass and always puts on new outfits just to ask me how she looks. Her sister knows im into her and knows she can get away with it.

[Asker]

i would kick her ass if my sister tried that

[Caliguy88]

Oh Christ. My ex had a roommate that she and I would be naked around each other. Yeah. I’d fantasize about her all the time.

[DodgersGM]

Nah I haven't done that and wouldn't do that.

[26ukdude]

Yes, what are you the thought police? So long as a guy never acts on it whats wrong with thinking something in his head that helps him achieve orgasm, something as harmless as another female he knows?

[Asker]

so you think about this while you're having sex with your gf? would you be ok with her thinking about your best friend or brother while having sex with you?

[26ukdude]

You said masturbate not having sex. If I have sex its that person and them only, but in the absence of them, if im on my own in the shower or on my bed when im wanking then why not? You simply cannot try to control his thoughts when he is pleasuring himself and you aren't around, thats insane.

[Asker]

that seems wrong. you should not be thinking of your gfs family and friends in that way. why not a p*rn star or celebrity? it sounds like the first step to cheating

[26ukdude]

What? Whats the difference between fantasizing about girl A, B or C? Guys often fantasize about girls they know in person because they have physically been around them and imagine scenarios where they are getting it on with them

[JossMetal]

hell yeah, although only if the mom/friends are attractive if not then there is no point on fantasizing. It would be the best thing ever to have a threesome with my gf and her hot friend!

[Asker]

what happens in the fantasies? do you have them when you're having sex with your girl

[JossMetal]

Mmmm I fantasize on purpose, its fun for me to think of the possibility, I just think of... a freaking threesome, not like in p*rno but rather how would I experiment if that happened, I would watch for a while of them both going at it, then join them, later take control of both of them, then let them assume control, etc. My mind flies high too easily, but nothing too extreme.

[whitespider10]

yes, especially if she's hotter than you

[Anonymous]

It's pretty common, yeah.

[Anonymous]

I had a girlfriend who had a smoking hot sister. So yeah, I'd fantasize about her a fair bit.

[Asker]

when do you think about this and how in depth?

[Opinion Owner]

It would probably happen the most right after I'd just seen her. Especially if she was wearing something that showed a bit of cleavage--she had AWESOME breasts.

[Asker]

did you wish you were dating her instead of your gf?

[Opinion Owner]

No--I never wished that. I was totally crazy about this gf and her sister didn't have a great personality. But I WOULD have liked to see her naked!

[Dallsimo]

I do! She also showed them my dick lol

[Anonymous]

Yes, I assume it is common.