Questions: Guy's Behavior

I'm 6' 250lbs in mostly muscle with a 22" shoulder width and people who know me in person call me a "big guy," even the people at my MMA gym call me a "big guy."

I never really thought of myself as a "big guy," I might consider myself fairly large compared to the average western man (5'9 190lbs), but not monstrously huge.

No, this isn't a post about gender identity. It's not a post about gender equality. It's a question about an experience and what it means to be male

Personally, I dont think it's great to be a guy as I hear it so often said. Everything surrounding it in this society usually comes with heavy expectations and misunderstanding. To be fair, a lot of this comes from our own gender. I feel we hold each other to higher expectations than we do ourselves. Our misdeeds are heavily criticized, our customs are expected and our behavior is moderated.

From birth, we are often told not to cry, but the we are criticized for not being able to open up. We are told to ask for help if we need it, but always told to man up when it's not there. Our insecurities are heavily guarded because, acknowledging them goes against our code. Be perfect, never fail, provide then... die?

I would go so far to say that there is an undertone of male disposability. 99% of work place accidents are male. We are 3.54 times as likely to commit suicide. And on average, live a whole decade less. However, suck it up buttercup.

In an odd way, it is rewarding to be a good man. To place others first. To protect. To be dependable and to support the ones you love at all costs.

But sometimes I wonder, is it really great to be a guy?

Leave a vote and ladies, feel free to chime in! Take care folks.

Guys, would you marry a girl/woman with no job? Why?