What makes men undeniably attractive to women?

Question

I might answer my own question here but I want some more responses.

Money - goes without saying. There's a reason why many of us say, that money is working the best because in reality this is how it works - no matter what anybody says. You have money, you have women. No money, no honey. It's our version to be beautiful to women.

Good looks - Because ugliness hurts to look at. Clothes, hairstyle, jewels, pendants, beards, grooming and so on makes all the difference.

Confidence - Without it, there's no drive. Without it it's like women nagging about being fat while they're malnourished and hate themselves.

Strength/muscles - Strength (which we men specialize in) signals women's triune brain's department called the reptilian complex (together with money) and it is making them feel sexual. There's no arguing about it. Also synergized with good looks.

Flashy cars/homes or other status symbols - In direct association with resources aka wealth aka having the money. This serves as a physical exemplar proof of having the money.

Here's a reference also:

Everything else is most likely secondary.
Have I missed anything else?

ThiccNigro · Accepted Answer

There is no man on Earth capable of getting any girl he likes. You are correct, money, fame, power, etc. does get the attention of a lot of girls. Take Drake for example, a lot of girls say they wouldn't be into him if he wasn't rich and famous. I think physical appearance is probably the most important thing. Women can bs all they want about personality but you aren't getting with anyone if they don't find you attractive. You'll see ugly dudes walking around with hot women a lot but that's usually because the girl is broke and the dude has money so she's basically a glorified prostitute like Melania for example. Trump was way past his prime when they got married and despite not being bad looking when he was younger, at 59 yeah you're not pulling a 35 year old off good looks. It's the money and status she wanted.

Now how do you get girls when you aren't rich and hot well that's when personality matters most. Looks, money and status are a short cut (granted you probably won't like the women that come with those cuz they're shitty gold diggers most of the time). Being funny it's a great way to be noticed but don't be a goofball, it'll make you look immature. Being nice is a great way to get a girl interested. Believe me when I say this I have STOLEN girls just because I'm really caring, and I don't do it to be malicious it's just how I am. The issue with that is, if you become a girl's psychiatrist she WILL dump all her feelings on you 24/7 so be careful. Also a lot of women are opportunists, if you show that you'll give her what she wants without her putting in any effort she will use that to her advantage.

Now a lot of girls may get angry at this part, they'll claim it would never work on them and they may be right, but I'm simply saying in my experience it has. Now women like sex. They really do, just as much as men. However, women are also riddled with inhibitions and paranoia. The way I've gotten girls interested is by purposely starting off as a friend. I'm by no means hot, but I'm DEFINITELY not ugly either so that's fine. I'll deepen our relationship, yanno we become good friends but here's the thing, usually I'll slowly introduce the concept of sex into our conversations. The main thing is to not be a perv, and not be always talking about it but what this does is almost subliminally puts it in their mind that I'm not just a friend. Eventually it ramps up at a steady pace to the point where we talk about it often. The sexual jokes start getting more personal, she starts reciprocating BUT all the while I'm still there being supportive giving them words of affirmation, listening to their problems because they're a good friend of mine so they trust me. Eventually I end up with a friend with benefits.

Now I wanna make it clear this isn't a scheme that I devised. I had someone simply ask me how I got girls and honestly I didn't know what I was doing, it just happened. So I really analyzed my friendships and noticed I had just been passively doing the same thing over and over again without realizing. So then I tried it intentionally and it worked, and I tried doing something else and it didn't. Could that be a coincidence? Yeah, but the success rate is pretty high for me, so I'm leaning towards thinking it's not

So to wrap it up, the one thing you missed is experience and knowing how women operate. Will this work for every guy? No. Will it work on every girl? Definitely not, but does it work at all? Yes, yes it does

yrdady · Accepted Answer

I know if you get down to it, what the experts say is that it's just "how you make a woman feel". The things above all play a role in that, for shizzo, and you should pursue them audaciously for your own happiness, as it requires. But it is how you make them feel. Sorry short men may not as easily make women feel safe or whatever. But hey maybe they could. Maybe there are real world equivalents of Tyrion.

Anyhoo it's how you make them feel. And reputation plays a role. A bigger role for women then men. And how to sell someone on a product is based on how you make them feel, men or women but I think it's pretty clear that women are more emotionally driven than men (except for millenials and hipsters), and their minds are more associative too, so all this factors down to being very cognizant of what emotions and feelings you are inducing in them. If they were an electromagnetic field sensor they would be far more sensitive than men and their values would swing, but they swing to the same impulses (mostly), just moreso.

I am not the most epic with girls and dating but I talked to a guy on youtube (alexander grace) in a consultation and he said I 'understood' the game pretty well. And yeah what I think makes a woman feel well is attraction or chemistry but also layered on with trust and comfort. You think duh. And guys write books about this and it goes over our heads but they are bigger deals for women. Have to hammer that home. And as far as trust and security is concerned- while I hate the gamey nature of modern dating and I prefer authenticity, if you realize she can't be feeling mistrustful, or bored for that matter, if she's the one pursuing/chasing you. Getting her to that is challenging but that means her feelings are not being killed off. I believe there is a structure to things that can be learned, and I believe cultures and generations can be somewhat different in their character, but with girls they can be very sensitive so i see you having two ways- be a sensitive commemorator, or smooth talker, or b, become a certain type, chiseled out where you don't have to think or sense so much because you're already sculpted (I mean personality) in the way they or some of them are into-- into all the way to the bedroom, bathroom and beyond.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

-Being successful. Having a good career and/or degree. Or he's constantly seeking growth. Basically, he wants to better himself
-Independent and well rounded. He knows how to take care of himself, cook, clean, and doesn't rely on others all the time.
Do you know how attractive it is to find a guy that knows how to cook a real meal (not ramen noodles!) and keeps his house clean? That's very attractive!
-Has book sense AND common sense. I love a guy that can hold a stimulating conversation with me. But someone with common sense is a great trait as well!
-He's confident and doesn't need constant assurance.
-He takes care of his body. I don't mean a six pack and muscles! I mean that's great if he has it BUT!!! As long as he's in good, physical condition, isn't a complete couch potato, and relatively active, that's attractive.
-He smells good/good hygiene. Guys, find your signature scent: body spray, cologne, deodorant... whatever. Everyone has that scent that when a lady smells it on you, we love it!
-His smile. Seriously, a sexy smile can make almost anyone attractive.
-Wit and charm
-Has a boyish, playful disposition. This is a hard one to explain other than simple things make him happy. That's not to say we want to date an immature boy; we want a man! But a guy that knows when to be serious, yet isn't afraid to make us smile with his playful antics sometimes.

Good grief this list is long! I will cut it off here. But you get the hint~

LEETSBEREAL · Accepted Answer

Knowing when to let your woman lead - you don't know everything and its important not to behave like you do. Most women myself NOT included like a man to lead the way and take control. Not all the time though there will be things she specializes in. You need to acknowledge this. You more then likely know what this is coz most women don't stop talking and or have a job in a specific area. But if you don't know find out she might be the quiet type. If she doesn't have a job you shouldn't be considering her. Its one thing to provide because you chose to its another thing to provide because your forced to. Take a back seat where necessary and let your woman shine. Its really important you get this right and know when to do this she will feel respected and like her opinion is important to you and means something. She won't feel like she is there to keep the bed warm, she won't feel like she is your trophy, she won't feel like she is your quarter! She will feel like your other half she will feel like you not only appreciate but value what she brings to the relationship.

ineedatan · Answer

Money dosen't mean crap in my eyes if how he's making his earnings isn't with him striving in what he's good at or has a positive motive behind it. Ambition is attractive but being a slave to your career isn't. Being comfortable in your earnings to where you can contribute to society and actually enjoy what you do is attractive but making a good figure but constantly complaining about how the job beats you down is unattractive.
Material possessions and being overly obsessed by them to where you always feel need need to consume to prove your wealth is unattractive to me, if one has the luxury to spend - I'm more on spending it on experiences than blowing it on flashy things.

Things that missed the list - drive and passion (a man that is invested and passionate about continuously bettering himself is attractive - this speaks into his career, health, relationships)

Good health - mentally, physically, socially and spiritually. A guy that is able to care for himself in all these aspects comes at a woman that he's capable of self care. Strengths and a good body means nothing if he can't carry himself socially and isn't a grounded person.

CarpetDenim · Answer

Money is a plus, not a necessity. Yes, the idea of being with someone who has money is more appealing to me than being with someone who doesn’t, but that doesn’t mean he HAS to have money, and it certainly won’t make me actually like him, only his wallet.

What makes someone look good or ugly is subjective, so this one doesn’t really matter in my opinion. No matter what you look like, there is guaranteed to be at least a handful of people that consider you attractive, and there are millions more that are willing to look past your physical appearance and come to love you for who you are as a person.

I don’t really care about confidence tbh. He can be insecure, that’s fine, but if all he does it complain about how he looks despite any love or praise or compliments I give him, it’s going to get annoying.

Muscles aren’t hot, overly muscular men kinda gross me out tbh, but strength is attractive, yeah. I just want him to be able to pick me up though, and I’m literally only like 110 pounds, so I don’t think that’s asking a lot.

No.. no one needs a flashy car or a big house when they live alone. These “status symbols” are 100% a turn off for me. Having money is cool, spending it on stupid shit you don’t need is not.

pinkcactus484 · Answer

There's nothing a man can do to make him 'undeniably attractive' to women.

For sure, some women will go for a guy because he is rich and has the newest cars and a mansion. But she would not be attracted to him. She would not love him. She would just be using him.

Really, what attracts most girls to guys (including me!) are the other three traits.

Being good looking is quite important. To be honest, I would not be with a guy who I did not think was somewhat good looking. Even so, just because a guy is cute, does not mean that a girl will be attracted to him. The same goes for his muscles and strength. Seeing a guy lift something really heavy can be quite hot! Sometimes, when I like a guy, my eyes will just be drawn to his broad chest and defined arm muscles.

But while looks and muscles are important, confidence is even more important. Just like having muscles can be attractive to a woman, so can the way he carries himself. My ideal guy would walk in a way that says that he has high self-esteem but does not have a sense of being above others, of being self-important.

And that leads on to my final point. Whilst looks, strength, and confidence are all important traits for him to have, the most important one is kindness. Seriously, a guy could have the perfect face, the perfect amount of muscle, a lovely broad chest, and plenty of confidence. But if he is a jerk, then all of a girl's attraction toward him is very likely to just suddenly fizzle out.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m going to go with something that they can control, because one of the last guys I fell head over heels for was someone that I initially found especially unattractive. But then I totally changed my mind because of his behavior. And I’m going to call it a type of gentle assertiveness. I don’t know if that’s the right word.

Basically, from the time I met him this guy would always find ways to touch me in some way. Not creepily. Just standing close enough for his arm to brush mine. Or if we were walking he’d put his hand on my back. There was never any grabbing or doing something that would restrict movement though. I’m not a fan of that. He’d also ruffle my hair from time to time, but he didn’t do that at first. And eventually he started doing the whole arm around the shoulders/waist thing.

He’d smile a lot. And he’d tease me for things and make faces across the room and try to make me laugh. I like to jump a lot when I get excited, so when I’d do that he’d jump too and make a funny face at me. And every time every time he succeeded in making me laugh he’d smile too.

He did stereotypical gentlemanly things, like rushing to hold doors. And he didn’t dial up the obvious flirting until he had some sign of reciprocation.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I like a guy to be respectful, goofy, friendly, passionate, ambitious, and cute. I dont care about his money. I just need him to be able to take care of himself and pay for his half of everything. Confidence can be overbearing. So dont be constantly insecure but def dont be cocky. As for strength, i know a lot of guys who are like twigs or a bag of bones and yet theyre strong as if they were on steroids. So no, muscles are not necessary but staying is shape is

continentalbreakfast · Answer

I dont get what the question is. You listed most.
I think you didn't emphasize good looks enough, its major.
And confidence is not at all needed. I have scoped out and fucked unconfident guys on purpose because their sad/messed up personalities were a turn on to me.
Ok next,, Duh muscles, no girl wants a sissy, 🤮.
The 1st and last things on your list are the same stuff but Absolutely correct on wealth. Men must be the providers, find me a girl on earth that wants a house husband. "Cute" when they show it on tv but in real live that shit dont fly.

MistiGal · Answer

Yes you have, the most important is their demeanour and vulnerability.
The rest just follows, you will find a lot of younger women are after the superficial aspects of what you have mentioned. If men are seeking younger women, these items will def help them to attract.

djmzes · Answer

Simple

Look there is no magic formula that guarantee your 100% success. It is not like if all these things are joined together you are bound to have a great relationship. No and never. You cannot take two different personality and join them to get some similar each time. It makes no sense. You have to go through the effort, understanding and trial to find what is the definition right person in a limited amount of time. It is how you will realize that the right person is someone you decided to become in rather than is and the relationship will demand stuff from both of you in order to sustain itself and each relationship has its own demands.

Sweetener_ · Answer

0 God fearing
1 their mysterious aura
2 showing respect
3Good style in dressing
4 leader
5loving
6 boldness
7 confidence
8 takes good care of themselves and the people around them
9 responsible
10 organized
11 in touch with their feelings
12 humble
13 honest
14 man of his word
^my opinion

Carefuloutthere · Answer

For me it's when a guy doesn't realise how attractive he is and therefore he is just completely himself. When he's not trying to prove anything, or pretend to be anything other than the way his is.
I can only be attracted to someone if I can see who they truly are.

blank_expression · Answer

Take all that you said (less the flashy cars because I found that personally the inverse actually) and add to that not giving a shit about being with a woman and for the most part blow off their hits, and the demand spreads. The other thing that they really notice (seen some fidget while standing there) is if you are in high demand in your career with many companies trying to hire you. That one I would say tops them all when combined with tall dark and handsome look. Mix a suit into that, and oh shit, they come up to ya at the airport even.

blutwolfe · Answer

charisma and character are the top, as long as you can support yourself i don't think I've had a woman give a shit about having a lot of money unless she was materialistic, and other toxic traits

good looks do matter though but depends on the girl you're tryna to attract, and they like fit bodies like tradies but not bodybuilders. For example though if you're trying to get a traditional women, being a good lookin metrosexual type isn't gonna swing it, they'd be more attracted to the country boy who treats her like a woman.

purplepoppy · Answer

I suspect someones been butt hurt in the past. 1 money, notice how poor people seem to breed like rabbits? 2. Looks? plenty of ugly guys get sex 3 confidence? Nah just the ability to spot easy targets

Jersey2 · Answer

Many will say “confidence” but that only means the guy seems to know what he is doing and can be successful. I think instead they should look for someone who is smart and takes many variables in to make quality decisions and pushes forward through barriers or around them. That will determine success, not fake ass confidence that some guys put out at a bar to get laid.

I saw an interview once with a player. He had just gotten a fake tan but told the girls at the bar that he just got back from the islands. He says it works great. That’s because girls want a fantasy, not real life. He seems like a winner when he is just a con artist for panties... and women go for it which is why so many get pregnant and left or in bad marriages. Many women generally suck at picking partners which is why they end up filing the majority of the divorces when they realize their error.

Anonymous · Answer

If you mean for a relationship then the same thing as us, stability, health, and intelligence. If for sex only, they don't care about looks. I've seen ugly fugly dudes seduce the sexiest girls by simply flirting with them. They know how to break their inhibitions because it's super rare that a girl doesn't want to have a quick hook-up. Girls just don't like being outright open about it. They won't just say " I want you to f**k me". No, they throw a flirty smile, some innuendo, a laugh that shows the guy they are interested in something naughty. Once the guy bites it's basically just a matter of playing it cool.

G3tAClue · Answer

Out of all of these categories, I’d say that confidence is the most attractive to me. You can be dirt poor but your confidence can always help you change that.

I was immediately attracted to my boyfriend because of how confident he is. He owns a business that doesn’t make much yet, but he is confident enough in himself to go really far with it.

cth96190 · Answer

I agree with your list.
I would say, though, that young females do not go after money and style until they are nudging 30.
Until then, they want the shitbag bad boys.
There is not much cognitive function and no common sense until the female is past the age of 25.

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

As much as you men like to try to simplify this, one or a few factors like this will not determine if we really want a guy.

This is why men haven’t figured it out yet. If it was this simple, men would understand it more, but then less than a day later the same ones reading this will be asking about it.

jazmiine · Answer

+ confidence - believe in their own decisions but is not boostful

+ resourceful - can still find solutions in times of emergency or even in normal times

+ Homourous - knows how to be light hearted and not overly serious

+ Looks - even if average as long as they know how to make themselves prim and proper, observe proper grooming, everything's good.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Confidence and composure make a man attractive as well as generosity and protectiveness - I'm not saying he has to buy you things but he tries to help seniors and disabled people and young teenagers and grieving woman and pregnant ladies and mentally ill men

SweetDisaster · Answer

Yes great sense of humor someone who can always makes me laugh no matter how bad my day goes. Loyal in every sense of the word. You can be hot ass hell rich millionaire what ever you wanna call it, but if you can’t be loyal and make me laugh none of the crap matters. Not everything goes by looks or by what you own. I want to make sure if I die first you will remember for who I am because you love not for what I have materialistic or physically.

SnowyOwl · Answer

AND a compatible VISION of what life together will look like. TBH, this is way more important than all the others, and luckily its something that can be built, geven some foundation. Of course, all the other things are still helpful :D

dmvgirl16 · Answer

I think every women or girl has something they may find atttractive about a man or a boy and yes i can agree that money , good looks , confidence or muscles or strength can be what women or girls see in a man or a boy but it depends in my case i will see if the boy is nice with me and I would also agree with the looks part even though now i don't find the looks attractive in boys or girls I just care about the personality and the way the boy or girl treats me

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

High value + relatable

If he's high value but not relatable, then women see him as a "fuckboy" and her friends won't let her hook up with him.

If he's low value but relatable then he's seen as a passive "nice guy" and gets friend zoned ("oh he's harmless, he's like a little brother to me")

But the combination of high value AND being relatable gets the girl's juices flowing, and she also feels comfortable enough to act on those instincts.

CubsterShura · Answer

Smelling good. No matter who you are and what you look like, if you smell like good cologne and after-shave, women will be impressed.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Honesty. Not being evasive about what he wants and thinks. A straight shooter.

Anonymous · Answer

A guy with a good heart. This encompasses many things, like showing up for people who need him, being kind to strangers, being loved by animals (they truly are the best judge of character), being loyal to me, doing the right thing even when nobody's watching.

anniisa · Answer

- successful  - confidence  - good sense of humour  - takes care of his appearance  There's more to it but these are the basics without getting into too much detail on personality.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have heard that Russian women find German men to be irresistible!

rareasrae · Answer

Confident but not loud, opinionated and strong morals, road and intelligent, teases me, taller than me, assertive, goofy, gets my humour, cheeky, has a motorbike, prays five times a day. ^-^

DonCachondo · Answer

There's a bunch of stuff but it almost all boils down to social status. If a woman notices a bunch of women eyeing the same guy, it does two very important things:
1. piques her curiosity about him so she's compelled to spend time with him and find out more/confirm all the hype.
2. presents her with an opportunity to test her own mate value against verifiable competition.

slatyb · Answer

In my experience what women really want is a man that is interested in them, who listens and remembers when they talk, who is responsive in bed, who genuinely enjoys them for more than eye candy and a sexual release.

ultimega · Answer

Well... how they get stuff done, their strength  Some natrually charismatic and draws you with the way they carry themselves.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

the way he talks to me ! I do not care about his money either ! if he wants to show off his muscles to me then that is good as long as he does not use his muscles to hit me with ! thanks

lanadelrey25 · Answer

When he's confident and faithful, always treats me like a princess, does things that are sexy without realizing it and... being super handsome lol

JosyJosy · Answer

Confidence, being caring towards himself/family/kids/people in general, well dressed, being strong (I mean mentally)

Tomsta · Answer

Flashy cars and homes not so much. Most women I've spoken dont care if its flashy just provided its not an old banger for a car or a shack for a house

Liam_Hayden · Answer

You can almost title this, "What makes men undeniably attractive to shallow gold diggers."

Mysterygirl11137 · Answer

Nothing can make me find something undeniably attractive in men Cauz i never shut my logic off.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m attracted to a guy that is tall, has nice muscles, a beautiful smile, kind and caring personality and someone that doesn’t take himself too seriously

Jjpayne · Answer

I agree with your points but I'll leave this one for the ladies to decide :)

JackieJaii · Answer

They way you carry yourself. Confident and assertive yet humble and always smiling

genericname85 · Answer

them loving themselves and being unappologetic for who they are while at the same time not being a complete dick.

Tamera952 · Answer

Confidence, kindness, and being humble. (... That and NOT supporting TrumpTard)

Medlife · Answer

Why did you ask if you already think you know the answer?

Oric50 · Answer

Money isn't # 1. Confidence can't be bought thats #1. Things like cars and nice houses dont matter if you are your authentic self. Attractiveness is top 3 because thats obvious.

Shuri · Answer

What makes men undeniably attractive to women: Answer: Nothing. Trust me.

Likes2drive · Answer

You only missed one, women are also attracted to intelligence

Jupiter1 · Answer

Every girlfriend I’ve had told me that I have this assertive, confident & wealthy aura about me.

Iron_Man · Answer

The head and face and whole entire body along with the curves

Anonymous · Answer

simping is the biggest attraction to women. They want to be chased as if they're more special than every female out there.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@unit1 Her emotionally stability & laid-back attitude

policheh · Answer

Undoubtedly, all the girls want a simple understanding and respect.

Anonymous · Answer

Well if you ain't got Brad Pitt looks, money will substitute.

WowwGirl · Answer

the word No😂

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No. They don't think they are attractive, some just think the simps are cute. And the rest...

Anonymous · Answer

Having a decent size dick! Go ahead and dislike but it's true. If you have to perfect man but his dick is 2 inches you ain't gonna be with him long.

sensible27 · Answer

I think it's more a combination than one thing.

American_Centurion · Answer

Being desired by other women

Desconhecida · Answer

Confidence and the ability to make us laugh

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