Why is it that women expect men to approach, but most men seem to believe women feel harassed?

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen enough girls say it to know. Women want you to approach them. They assume you do not like them if you do not approach. If you don’t ask her out. So on and so on.

Doesn’t that sound crazy to you? Cuz to me, it feels like the majority of men are not running around asking girls out on dates. I feel like MOST guys are trying to be respectful to women and to not harass them. MOST guys are just trying to find a girlfriend, but fear to approach girls out of respect or social conditioning.

I know there’s SOME men who run around cat calling girls, harassing them, some guys are players and take girls home every night. But those are outliers are they not? They don’t count.

If women want the guys who are good men and respectful to approach, but those guys have been taught not to do so, how can you convince them that it is OK to ask girls out and to express their interest? Because I personally believe that not guys feel that they are bad if they do such things.

Am I wrong? Are 90% of guys really out there just chasing women all the time? I think that’s a tiny minority.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

So here's the deal
Dating is all about taking chances there will be hurdles somebody thinks this somebody thinks that but doesn't matter
If you want something you go for it with attitude and confidence despite of your views and thoughts because no women can resist a guy whose so confident and ease conversation by nature it's always the men who approach and for most of women it will be the same no matter what they say but still they want to be perused and approached they think they are somekind a reward that they will give you because you took your chance and you danced.
Dating is now investment of time and effort it was meant to search for a partner suitable for marriage and settle but as times changed now it has become for hooking up get a good fuck and move on

[Asker]

I’m the prize. They are lucky to have me. This post isn’t really about me though. I ask the question because I wish I could help other guys who struggle like I did. It took me a long time to be convinced that women actually do want to be approached. I know it now. But before my life was hell because I believed women wanted me to approach but I also believed women were irritated and annoyed by men approaching. I feel like a lot of men suffer from this problem as I used to.

So I just wish I knew a way to convey that. I only learned because I made friends with mad girls and I learned that they are absolute hoes and you don’t need to be scared. But most men would be very upset to learn that truth...

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I was conveying in general that it's only about taking chance nothing else, nobody can teach that to others but only they themselves can learn I understand your pojnt though 👍

[Avicenna]

You'd only believe that if you're meeting crazy women or you're clueless in talking to girls.

[Asker]

I used to feel that women felt harassed. Which is why would never even talk to a girl. It fucked me up and made it so I could never get a date.

And I believed it so deeply. I no longer feel that way. But I try to help other guys who are like how I used to be. I wish I could pass on what I learned but I suppose I still don’t get it. I can only feel. I can feel out a situation with a girl and know if she likes me or not. But I feel like most guys are not doing that. I feel like most guys are like how I used to be. A bit afraid to offend or scare a woman. A bit afraid to come off as a creep despite being a 100% good person.

So I ask this question in an attempt
To get a better perspective but yea... nobody gonna answer much especially no women.