Name one thing that makes you perceive a man as a gentleman?

[Marco10]

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Damn, you people are some wild animals!!! And I thought that time when my friend threw up from a hotel room’s window in Amsterdam, while I was too intoxicated to realize was special! 🤦🏻‍♂️🤣

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Y’all can disregard the update! I wrote something here I intended to write elsewhere 🤦🏻‍♂️

[sagevalentineee]

He has to be a member of the landed gentry who owns enough land and properties to not work and live a lavish lifestyle on his income.

Just kidding.

It's the little things that count. I would say respect, for yourself and others, and also, old manners. For example, giving up a seat on a crowded train for a pregnant woman or elderly man or woman and offering people help when they're having difficulties. Also, discerning judgement, being polite, but also being firm when something is not right, not a pushover.

Being a gentleman is the best option. I get to have my heavy suitcase carried, and my boyfriend get's to show off his muscles and say 'it weighs nothing to me' yeah yeah, sure okay. <3

[Marco10]

Haha, you got me fooled at first tbh. I was like what is she even talking about. But yes, I agree about all the little things you mentioned. Carrying your heavy suit case? Mmm, yeah men tend to be reckless and overconfident around heavy stuff. I had a hernia and it wasn’t the best of experiences so try not to overwork your boyfriend 😂.

[sagevalentineee]

Haha that stuff that went first was the 'literal' meaning of gentleman. He had to be a man who could live lavishly without working, aka owning lots of land.

Eh, that suitcase weighs less than half of me, he'll be fiiinnneee.

[AmandaYVR]

Being respectful and courteous to all people, all ages, and not just women.
(This is also very hot, by the way.)

Hey you cut your hair! Finally made a decision eh? Looks good. Very snazzy. How do you like it? Big change, right?
Salons finally open now which is nice. I was one of my girl’s first clients. I did not enjoy us all wearing masks the whole time though.

[Marco10]

No actually this picture is from last year. My hair is too long now and I will keep it this way. I like it lol.

And I agree with you, being respectful and treating all people with dignity is the best quality anyone can possess.

[Lena24]

I'm very old-school. So when I think of a gentleman I think of someone who opens doors for the lady and treats her to a nice dinner and is respectful towards her and others. Makes her feel appreciated and loved. Also meets her at the door and knocks and doesn't sit in the car and honk. 😑

[Marco10]

Very few men do it right. That’s why I asked the questions. Maybe some dudes would read the answers and be inspired.

[Lena24]

Sad but true. Here's to the gentlemen🥂

Hopefully others will read and be inspired

[DizzyDesii]

-Hardly cusses around me
-Respects his parents even if they have underlying issues
-Helps someone in need (gives a $1 to a homeless person, helps a random kid tie their shoes, holds the door for an elderly)
- When he steps up for others and doesn't allow someone to disrespect him or them

[Marco10]

I agree with everything you said and this is a beautifully written answer. I don’t agree about tying a random kid’s shoes. In our day and time, people can easily misunderstand your intentions. I don’t interact with random kids at all, unless I saw a kid in danger.

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you :) and yea you’re right about the kids thing. Theyd try to call you a pedo 🤦‍♀️ But for example, if a guy comes to hang out and im babysitting my little cousin and we go to the park or something, then i want to watch how he interacts with that kid... i like to see signs that he may be a good father someday. Like i used to work at a preschool with my mom and i loved seeing the male teachers be a good influence to the kids

[Marco10]

Yeah that I agree on. And also how he treats pets. Even if a person was not big on pets, I like seeing people who are good around animals.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea like im not a pet person but i’d never harm an animal. Instead i’d run from it 🤣 I find em cute but from a distance

[SphynxUK]

When he treats you like he would his mother or sister, with care and respect.
It’s nice if he also looks out for you, or helps you with something without making us feel like a ‘helpless female’.

[Marco10]

Yeah, I understand what you mean. I personally don’t think of my girl as a helpless female, but I’m so protective of her regardless.

[rochi1234]

To pick me up (in a car, or walking whatever) and bring me home. To offer to pay dinner. Who invites you on a proper date with a meal, instead of just some drinks or netflix and chill.

[Marco10]

Yes, the old classic way!

[jennifer_bloom]

If he is able to accept different types of obligations whether its protecting somebody showing sympathy being cautious about making errors at work or helping a person lift things

[Marco10]

I agree

[bobalife]

Respect.
Chivalry.
Kind towards me and others.
Don’t pressure me but just wants me to be comfortable.
Charming.

[Marco10]

I agree!

[MistiGal]

How he treats the waitress while out on a date... good indicator👌
And how he talks with me and how he messages too.

[Marco10]

I agree. How he treats waiters says a lot.

[Anonymous]

when they escort u through doors and through public spaces with their hand on your back just above your hips. its feels protecctive but not controling.

[Marco10]

Yes, I agree. Not everyone pays attention to these subtleties, but they’re far more important than many dudes imagine.

[1828avaava1828]

Tipping well and treating everybody they come across with respect

[Marco10]

Tipping well is a good point!

[Marco10]

I worked as a part-time waiter when I was in grad school and I understand how hard it could be to work as a waiter/waitress

[1828avaava1828]

Yes lad!!!

[MissDawn7961]

in my opinion a gentlemen pays for the dinner and such , helps the woman on and off with her coat , helps her with the door she is going in and out of ! helps her with her chair she is sitting in and so forth ! thanks

[stupidgrls]

Interesting question, I'd say a guy who has self respect and gives other people respect too

[Marco10]

Yes, it’s all about respect. When it’s absent, there’s no relationship of any kind

[pleasestopthis]

He does not divulge details about his intimate encounters. That's something that must remain private between the couple.

[Marco10]

Yes absolutely! Same goes for income and family issues

[BeachBabe96]

How he speaks to me, friend and family. If he is chivalrous. Respectful and honest.

[Marco10]

I agree

[BackAgain602]

Holding the door, or if we’re both doing into the same entrance, he’ll step back and let the lady go first. ❣️

[Marco10]

Yes! That’s a classic

[Desconhecida]

The way he treats you, the words he uses in a conversation.

[Marco10]

Yes, absolutely

[Desconhecida]

🥰🥰🥰

[Anonymous]

he doesn't try to push me to do anything and respecting my boundaries

[Marco10]

Yes!

[WowwGirl]

Egos controlled
Language
Polite/manners
Not aggressive
Not sex focused

[Marco10]

💯 💯

[WowwGirl]

Thanking you...

[Gabriella_95]

The way he treats he’s mother. And woman in his life.

[Marco10]

I agree!

[ManaWahine]

All of the above plus honesty, and that doesn't just mean not being a liar.

[Marco10]

Honesty is a must ofc

[angryllama]

Not Deantiquating my existence.

[Marco10]

What do you mean exactly?

[Mickey9999]

Respect (covers a lot of ground)

[Marco10]

Yes, ofc!

[MzAsh]

Genuine kindness and good manners

[Marco10]

I agree!

[Xoxocutekitty]

He acts the words honor, cherish, grace, strength

[Marco10]

Good way to put it

[gaygod_19]

Being respectful and not forceful or persuasive

[Marco10]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Not being half naked in a profile picture, on a website with children on it

[Marco10]

Thanks for saying that but I’m not half-naked! People go to the beach still and see people shirtless. I’m proud of my body as an athlete and I definitely don’t have any intentions so please don’t even insinuate it!

[KWestBeats]

Doesn’t pressure sex.

[Marco10]

Yes!

[kaymacd]

manners. respect. Offers cuddles

[Marco10]

I meant If he wasn’t your significant other haha.

[kaymacd]

same applies

[Marco10]

You’d accept cuddles from a stranger?

[JosyJosy]

Holding the door open

[elenaaa406]

respectful and nice , also helpful

[Marco10]

Spot on

[NorthShoreCalling]

Integrity

[Marco10]

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼