Guys are more fat accepting then girls

[Anonymous]

From my experience girls would rather go for a guy who has ugly face and has good/skinny body, if you are fat and have good looking face you have no chance.

I have seen couples fat girl skinny guy like a lot, but maybe twice in my whole life I saw fat guy and skinny girl. From my experience girls only care if you are skinny/not fat doesn't matter how your face looks like. I always see ugly skinny guys with hot girlfriends.

Most girls do have lower standards then men when it comes how someones face looks like, but when it comes to fat acceptance guys are more accepting.

90% of fat girls dont wanna date fat guys and they think they deserve someone better just cause they have vagina between their legs.

[Homicidal_Queen]

i find this to be very over generalized. all 3 of my exes were 'bigger boys', and I found them all to be extremely attractive, even though two of the three didn't have an attractive face by societies standards. I dont care how big/little someone is as long as their weight isn't something to be concerned about.

[myTake Owner]

I guess we need more girls like u

[Anonymous]

Another useless whiner.. This website has gone to the dogs. It's now a case of the whining blind leading the whining blind.

[GalaxyFlame90]

Yeah pretty much. I agree with you. In simple terms, this website is 95% full of bullshit. The other 5% of the population actually have questions/takes worth reading and/or answering about.

[spuitkaas]

So true...

[pnl86]

Dude, this line of thinking is so distorted and far out of tune with reality, that there's no point in trying to engage in any kind of meaningful discussion or exchange of opinions.

Personally, I have very fucking little fat tolerance when it comes to girls. I'm shallow and not ashamed to be shallow when it comes to the physical features and looks I prefer on girls. I have standards, not tolerance. Same goes for girls. Girls have standards, not tolerance. We're people with selfish needs and wants, not public charities looking to just give to the world and expect nothing in return.

Its one thing to say that a guy may be "understanding" when it comes to the fact that a girl has gain 10-20lbs. through some temporary rut in her life. But don't confuse that with acceptance or tolerance. If that girl just accepts that as her new norm, that's not something that most guys will accept as their new norm. He wants his sex life to be with someone who has a certain physical quality. If that physical quality is not there for a bit, temporarily, that's okay. But, if that's how he has to spend the rest of his life, that's unacceptable.

As a guy, I didn't win the genetic lottery, bust my ass at the gym, take care of myself, dress well, have a clean and comfortable place, bust my ass in school and at work to make the money that I make, just so I can "tolerate" some fat girl.

So, please. Just stop trying to pretend that you're this selfless angel fairy of altruistic goodness and women are the only ones who selfishly want things from the opposite sex. It's perfectly okay to want things from the opposite sex, and men want things from the opposite sex.

And when women can't give those things to men, they b*tch about it and complain, and try to paint men in a negative light.

And when men can't give those things to women, they also b*tch about it and complain and try to paint women in a negative light.

If you genuinely like fat girls, then good for you. If you're "settling" for fat girls, because you know you don't have enough value to offer to the kind of girls you "really" want to have sex with, that's also okay too. That's a healthy way to cope. What's unhealthy is trying to guilt-trip the girls you want to have sex with to "tolerate" the lesser value you have to offer them, just so you can enjoy the higher value they have to offer you.

[Anonymous]

Very true about "90% of fat girls dont wanna date fat guys and they think they deserve someone better just cause they have vagina between their legs.". In my experience many fat girls are absurdly delusional about there expectations about men. They also make up bs stories about getting "hit on". Maybe some guys chubby chase, but the vast majority well quickly turn there eyes away from the unpleasant sight of a "plus size" girl. My old roommate was 30 lbs overweight and told me from the start she was "very picky" with men. I remember looking at her and shaking my head thinking "you got to be fucking kidding me". One drunken night she slighted me about "getting shoved in the friend zone" because I was nice guy. Over the course of 3 years I brought 8-10 girls home. She saw at least five of them. The final year I had a steady, skinny very cute girlfriend that came over every weekend to watch movies. My roommate hated her and was very cold to us when she was around (likely jealously). Of the three years of living there I can remember once, only ONCE she had guy over. It was the middle of the night I went to use the bathroom in the hallway and I glanced in the living room to see her resting her head on a guy's lap. I remember my jaw dropped to the ground. So she had one guy over... I had ten girls over. I look back at her and laugh thinking "Now WHO is getting "friendzoned" you fat cunt...

The only thing miserable fat girls have going for them is feminism and the PC "anti fat shaming" society. It gives them a sense of self affirmation. Ironically half of them have shittier, judgement attitudes towards men then there more attractive counterparts. It's gives them a twisted/delusional sense of pride. Even more ironically they cock block (yes I tried chubby chasing a couple of times when I wasn't think straight) in a blue moon situation a guy hits on them.

All and all I have zero sympathy for "larges marges" with attitudes. 90 percent of the time it's there fault their fat... not society's "fat shaming" fault. There are exceptions with genetic disorders but it's rare.

With that diatribe stated... I will say on the flip side I have met some very nice, friendly cool "big girls". There easy going, laugh a lot and focus on having a fun personality. Fat girls are either miserable/douchy or polite a sweet.

[Nuqood]

Both of those photos are on tumblr.. tumblr is where all the undesirable, socially awkward, over-sensitive, scum of the earth go to bitch and moan and feel important. Who gives a fuck what they think? Who gives a fuck what the entire internet thinks?

Apart from DEFORMITIES, women really don't give a toss about looks as much as a man does. A fat dude may not have as much of a chance as some model tier dude initially, but when said fat dude is suave, confident, funny, established, driven, successful, popular, and harbors other valuable traits, a woman will choose him 9/10 times over the model tier dude who turns out to be a submissive bum.

A woman who is meh looking and a woman who is hnng looking talking to a dude.. it doesn't matter how accomplished the meh looking chick is, the hnng looking chick will still be more desirable. Women associate features with personality, whereas men just associate looks with sex. When a woman sees a strong jawed, short haired, manly man who dresses nice, they make assumptions about his personality (He takes care of his appearance so he probably has a high status job that requires good presentation, meaning he probably makes good money, and probably has a good business sense, and his strong features probably mean he is macho and commanding).

Men see a pretty bitch with big boobs and a firm butt and think "Wow I'd love to fuck that", and that's it. Men just need to stop looking at female behaviour from a male's perspective and better themselves for themselves, and stop bitching about women's natural desires for a successful leader-like male.

Never chase women (do things to get women), just chase your dream (do things for yourself) and women will follow. Leader/Follower relationship; King/Queen system.

[Nuqood]

TL;DR Stop crying about it, accept it, and make your life about more than women because they're no more special than you are.

[cipher42]

Uhm, no. Women are actually shamed far more for being overweight. Just look at media representation. How many fat women play regular characters in tv and movies vversus how many fat men? And actually, this has been tested. Some people ran a mini-experiment where people were set up with dates who were made to look far more heavy than they looked in their profile picture, and they found that the women were overwhelmingly more accepting of the fat men than the men were of the fat women. So basically you're wrong on all counts here. www.huffingtonpost.com/.../...-date_n_5881330.html

[AleDeEurope]

How many fat male model are there compared to fat women models? Where the campaign against fat men body shaming? I see a woman's but I don't see a man's.
Yeah, lots of fat guys in media, but who do they represent? They're always the goofy dumb character: Homer Simpson, Peter Griffin, any character played by Jonah Hill... there may be male fat characters, but they're all stupid.
That experiment just shows that people don't like to be lied. They thought they were meeting one person, and it turned out to be another, I'd be out of there too, not because she's fat, but because she lied about it.
Your comment is all wrong.

[Scooby225]

I feel generally speaking women are shamed more. But when it comes to relationships, men are expected to be more accepting of size. Women are more free to be choosy about her "partner" while men are not so much. If a man is as choosy he is seen as an asshole or unaccepting

[cipher42]

@Scooby225: I really don't know about that. I think in relationships it's actually more normal for a skinny girl to go out with a fat guy than the other way around. Like, I feel like I see far more skinny girl/fat guy couples on TV or whatever than fat girl/skinny guy. Plus I remember some people did a social experiment where they had people go on tinder dates and dressed them up to make them look way more fat than they really were, and it was way more likely for girls to be okay with a date with a fat guy than the other way around.

[Anonymous]

This is so true its disgusting. Most women won't go after a man who has a little bit of body fat on him, let alone a large amount of weight.. Its such a double standard. Fat women want to be accepted and end fat shaming and want a skinny man to love them no matter what size they are but fat men are looked down upon and ridiculed because they are supposedly more able to lose weight. Its all bullshit if you ask me. I'm an 115 lb female dating a 206 lb man. And no, he isn't all muscle. He's chubby. I love him to death and I've been with him for 5 years now. I've seen him go through really large months and then some not so large months and to me it doesn't matter. But some women are so damned shallow that its repulsive.

[chrisbigman]

206 lbs and he's chubby?

[Opinion Owner]

@chrisbigman yes. He's chubby. He is 5'7 and weighs 206. Sure, he has muscle. Really muscley arms. But his stomach is chubby. I can't get my arms around him. I can get them maybe to around the back side of his hips.

[COCOCHANEL]

people just need to not let themselves gain that much weight. prevention.

[Entereality]

Why? I think you're sold by statistics. Why don't you speak your own words?

[COCOCHANEL]

@entereality i made up that sentence by myself on the spot and i am not hooked up to western media nor have i been in a western country for more than a decade

[Entereality]

Sounds like eastern media sucks too.

[COCOCHANEL]

@entereality it probably does...
but what exactly is wrong with prevention?

[Entereality]

I don't think there's anything wrong with prevention if that is what someone wants. But that doesn't make them the boss of others' lives.

[COCOCHANEL]

@entereality the boss of others' lives? is that what i tried to be? it's just what i think. i guess i should put 'i think' at the begging of every sentence.

[myTake Owner]

If it was just that easy lol

[Entereality]

I might have taken you wrong, it felt like a demeaning, self righteous statement. by the way, I find overweight people attractive regardless of the good or bad things the media "points out."

[myTake Owner]

@Entereality Most people label fat as ugly in my opinion if u are ugly u can be fat or skinny u are still ugly

[Entereality]

Oh well

[Entereality]

I'll call the clean-up squad to rid of all the ugliness... but then again I don't want to end up in a bulldozer. Maybe... just maybe "ugly" is becoming the new pretty and it's making the big wigs nervous...

[COCOCHANEL]

@entereality
no hard feelings guys, i think health is the most important thing

[Entereality]

I'm ugly and healthy... wanna hook me up with someone? You know... the winners that are always right? I can't wait to date a jerk that cooks healthy dinners and is constantly right!

[thegreatone7]

@COCOCHANEL it's not always your choice, someone may have a thyroid disorder or anything that makes them heavy. It may even be genetical so it's not their mistake.

[MrPresident]

I have 60kg and 170cm, i have to admit that my friends sometimes eat less than me and do workout more than i, but they can still be more fat.
There is genetics on this, but there is also a downside for me, it is hard for me to get muscle as easily as them.
But arguing with " they dont have choice" some people have tyrode disease... is just being lazy. Not all fat people have fat acummulation or motor cordenation diseases. Some are just lazy and sedentary we have to admit that, and stop making them all victims. If they are happy their bodies so let them be. But if they complain they can change themselfs. It takes courage and effort but it is worth it if it makes you happier and more confident.

[love2run13]

Exactly, look your best and people will want to date you more period

[AleDeEurope]

I don't know, but I wouldn't date a fat chick, it's not attractive at all.
I neither agree nor disagree with you, since I've seen an equal amount of fat chicks with skinny guys, and skinny girls with fat guys.

It' true though, that women other women show more support for the fat girl dating the skinny guy, than for the fat guy dating the skinny girl, were they shame him for being superficial and a hypocrite, so I completely agree with the picture you posted.

[cookiesandcream]

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[XuR_CXV_115]

Man you're right, I guess only the bitches stand out

[Bandit74]

When it comes to just sex, fat women do better than fat men. For relationships it could be the reverse. I think you're more likely to see a normal dude hookup with a fat girl than you are to see a normal girl hookup with a fat guy. However you're more likely to see a normal girl in a committed relationship with a fat dude than the reverse.

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[Cookies_AndMilk]

I thought it was just low self esteem why they have more sex. Lower self esteem=lower self respect.

[Bandit74]

@Cookies_AndMilk
could be a factor

[bloodmountain1990]

It's not a black and white thing.

[GirlScout]

The photo you posted isn't really very accurate since the second image should have been from the perspective of a man.

I have heard countless men publicly humiliate and ridicule a woman for being fat after he's been rejected, countless times I've heard women insulted for being slightly overweight while their friends are not. Yes men get shit too but I don't think it's quite as you say, and I don't hear the nasty comments from women as I have from men... but I don't have bitches for friends.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Dont people understand "keep it to yourself"?

[myTake Owner]

Yeah men are mean but u girls can be mean to when girl says "i wouldn't even touch him with a stick''

[GirlScout]

TakeOwner they wouldn't sit there together and go on about how far a guy is, they may birch but I can honestly say that is not a regular in the routine. Guys in the other hand, they get social brownie points for being vocal about not finding a girl attractive. They will all chime in and make disgusting comments.

Of course this is not all, same goes for the women, but it does happen A LOT.

[LittleSally]

Hilariously untrue...

Sure guys will sleep with anyone, but a relationship is reserved for the models...

Just read any of the questions posted on this site. And look at people outside. It's pretty clear.

[Lonewolf_1296]

Actually he's not lying. In the US, there's a tendency in the bad neighborhoods to date obese girls because there's this fixation on big butts (just listen to rap lyrics).
At my old job, I used to frequent the unemployment office. Guess who is unemployed more often? People from those areas. The skinny tattoed guy and the skimpy outfitted obese girlfriend/wife was a common sight.

[cankles]

I have always preferred larger guys. I am a moderately sized girl now, but have been fat, thin, and everything in-between, and my preference has never changed. I might be the largest girl my current boyfriend has ever been with. That would make him a big guy who likes smaller girls.

Where do you get your statistics? They HAVE to be made up. What you said at the end is the OPPOSITE opinion that women have. Fat women feel LESS accepted and desired than their thinner counterparts. If you are fat and not getting women, maybe it's your attitude. Women still fall at my boyfriend's feet.

[AnnVdB]

You can't make such a generalisation if you haven't done a very large good scientific study about this. I have heard more men say negative things about fat girls than girls about fat guys. Does this mean anything? Just for my personal experience, but I can't generalise it to the population.

Also, me for example, If my boyfriend was fat I would still be with him. But there come up other issues regards lifestyle and how you want to live your life. Often its causes incompatibility issues between partners. Especially if one is lazy and eats a lot and gets fat, and the other cares a lot about health and fitness.

[TheDevilInside]

Very generalizing, as usually. Typical gag Material. I personally don't mind overweight guys, as long as they don't immediately pass out when trying to climb the stairs, and as long as they still look strong.

What i don't like: the "fat Buddha" types of bodies. Bloated bellies and rounded shoulders. What i like: more "beefy" type of guys. Wider shoulders, no hanging bellies. Google "Nathan fillion fat" or something like that. Overweight, but still manly looking: yes. Overweight and looks like a loser: no.

[Scooby225]

Point girls tend to be perfectly fine with chubby guy. Just like generally ok wity chubby girls. But girls for the most part are not instantly attracted to the budda look. They might date them but that takes time. Than she starts to like his personality than likes him.

[TheDevilInside]

@Scooby225 this post is one year old. Move on and stop winning in an old ass post.

[bombamboum]

I really don't understand Internet sometimes. I've seen many big guys with small girls. Such a generalization. It's always the same old post that we see online in which women are the bad person. It also goes the other way around when it's against men. No need to be bitter against a gender.
I certainly won't apologize for the fact that my boyfriend is slim and tall.

[StarsInTheEyes]

Well... I think that men and women are human beings (clearly =P), so it's necessary to choose partners based on their personality, education, skills, interests, etc.

Now that you've pointed out, I think I've seen more couples in the way you've described, instead of the opposite.

I think that maintaining a healthier weight is important for both men and women. (Meaning that I want a guy with muscles, and I'm doing my part to build a better shape: lose fat, tone my arms, get abs, tighter butt and legs.)

Maybe the social media has made an impression that men should "man up" and be fit (not sure about being skinny), resulting in survival the "fittest."The responsibility of exercising doesn't seem to be equal, I agree, and that affects the expectation people have on their partners. There are men who work out frequently and diligently, but their girlfriends don't.

[Scooby225]

Finally someone says it

[Xoxoxooo123]

Honestly this is the most off base over generalization I've seen. Who the hell are you hanging out with lol? Or where the hell do you live? Who cares about weight it's about how the person treats the other person and how happy they make each other. Period.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I don't know if I would say that they are more accepting. But I wouldn't be surprised if they are.

A) there are more obese women than there are men. So it's no surprise to see more fat women with slim or healthy men than the other way around.
Also to go with this point, our metabolism slows down faster than men's. So it's no surprise to see a chubbier woman. Maybe he went with her when she was slim, but after pregnancy, or just age she packed some pounds.
B) Women naturally have a higher body fat percentage. If women have more fat, they will have more breast and hips/ass. Making them more feminine. If men get fatter, the opposite happens. He looks less masculine.
C) I've seen plenty of slim and beautiful women with chubby guys. And it's mainly men who make snarky comments like "she probably is only with him for his money". When it's freaking Chicago and we're all broke fucks here.

[coconutelixir]

Considering women naturally do tend to have more body fat than men, yeah... disregarding other features, males are probably more accepting of female fat. Reality is, men can make up for any physical flaw with other things like a good job, charisma, status, good personality... and women overlook his weight that way. Women are certainly more fat shamed than men though if we wanna generalize.

Anyways, chill out dude.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I think women are more "fat accepting" as you put it. Today in westernized patriarchal society's beauty standards women aren't expected to have real body's (fat, curves, stretch marks or otherwise.) We're shamed for our bodies. Yet we're supposed to accept men as they are. Total hypocrisy.

[AleDeEurope]

"Total hypocrisy." Yeah, the one in your comment.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@AleDeEurope

It is a hypocrisy and double standard. Women get shamed for being bigger or shapely but we're supposed to love men how they are.

[AleDeEurope]

Right, cause we guys aren't shamed for not having muscles... hmmm you just know the girl's side, but not the guy's ;)

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@AleDeEurope

That's true you're not shamed more than women are. Just like not everyone wants a skinny boy or a pretty boy.

[AleDeEurope]

See, you're just shaming men xD You're hilarious haha

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@AleDeEurope

I'm not shaming anyone. I'm just stating the truth. All my friends are guys and pretty guys that dedicate most of their outside life to the gym, green protein shakes, and stay up on the latest hygiene routine. Yet women don't go for them as much as movies would let the rest of us think.

[AleDeEurope]

Well, same with guys not wanting fat chicks, but they still say we're shaming them. We're not, we simply don't wanna date a fat girl. Period.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@AleDeEurope

But then when does a woman actually verbalize for a man to lose weight or say he's ugly bc he's fat to his face?

[AleDeEurope]

Oh yeah they do haha they say stuff like "you should get more muscles, you're too fat/skinny *giggles*" so yeah, don't believe that women never say stuff like that cause they do.
I'm not very muscular and I look skinny with a shirt on, instead of lean, and I've been told lots of times that I need to lift and stuff like that. So yeah, I've been shamed by girls and not because I'm fat.

[BigTuna]

Everyone who is fat is shamed for it. I can speak from experience though, fat boys in school at least get bullied far worse than fat girls. It's just that when a female is shamed it comes off as worse to say it to a female because the idea that a guy should touch it out, suck it up and all that.

There were fatter girls than me, and they never got picked on, and if they did it was other girls gossiping about them behind their back, not constantly harrassing them to their face, and trying to ruin their life.

[myTake Owner]

@BigTuna Personaly i didn't get bullied i was 6'2 250 i lift my whole life and im fat, i guess they didn't bully me cause they were scared that im gonna beat them up

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

@AleDeEurope

Yeah but never have I heard a woman call her partner fat to his face. Like a man will. That stuff isn't as cruel and callous as someone right out calling you fat to your face.

@BigTuna that's my point I'm trying to convey with Mr. Europe here. I think that guys take fat shaming a bit far even with each other.