10 Reasons Why Self-Harm Is Never The Answer

[sixnineanon]

Emotional pain is the cause of self harm. Here is why it shouldn't be:

1. It won't solve the root cause of your emotional pain.

2. It can leave permanent scars for temporary emotions.

3. You could end up in the hospital for the serious injuries you could potentially cause yourself.

4. It is not a permanent solution to emotional pain.

5. It can turn out to be a destructive and compulsive habit due to the temporary reliefs it gives. This is similar to smoking.

6. It only gives physical pain. Why add physical pain to emotional pain?

7. The cuts can be infected. The injuries could heal improperly.

8. It's a sign of emotional immaturity because it shows you can't appropriately deal with negative emotions.

9. People won't look at you the same when they find out you harm yourself.

10. There are better things to do than self harm.

[SilentShadow]

It's been so long that I forgot why I even started. I look back at my 12 year-old self, and I wonder what on earth drove me to that decision. I look at my arm and I think, "I'll have to wear long sleeves in the sun, and everyone will know why." I look at my legs and think, "I'm never going to swim in public again."

The year that people at school found out, I heard one girl say that she couldn't imagine anyone ever doing it. She didn't see the reason to do it. I look back now, and I agree with her completely. How low did I sink to have resorted to self-harm? If I hadn't of started, maybe I would still have my friends, and maybe my crush this year wouldn't avoid me.
Self-harm is never the answer. It's not worth it.

[sixnineanon]

Same. I wouldn't do either if I could go back. Don't worry, when high school is over, no one will avoid you because of that. You can still find friends.

[Bandit74]

I'm not sure if it counts as self harm but ocassionally if I am stressed or feeling emotionally achy I will punch myself a couple of times in the same spot. Not excessively hard but hard enough that I feel it. It's not mean to be a permanent solution but it does give me temporary relief. It replaces the emotional pain in my chest with a physical pain in a different location.
Also no scars.

[sixnineanon]

I punch something else or break things but that's not good either. But dude don't punch yourself you're awesome.

[Anonymous]

It might not solve the cause, but it temporarly relieves it and yes, it can become addictive which is why it causes so many problems. Once you get over how to deal with emotional pain with physical pain. You can control that but you can't control your emotions. I wouldn't say it's immature, I'd say its a way of dealing. You deal with your emotional pain on way, I deal with it another. I don't judge you, or others, on how they deal. As for how people look at me, thats not what I think about. If people want to judge me, go for it. But they don't understand what I've been through. And yes, there are so many better things than self harm. But, it's a coping mechanism. Is it the best, no. But, it works.

That was my take on your points. However, I appreciate your post and it brought an new prespective to the situation. There is always a better way to deal with things, we just have to find the strength to find it!(: Thank you for this!

[sixnineanon]

This is a secret. I use to self harm so that's why I wrote this. I figured I needed to stop and I did fortunately.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm proud of you!! I'm in the same boat. Only prob two of my close friend understand how bad I was, but I don't think they took me serious because I would say something then change the subject because I was embarrassed. So I don't think anyone really knows. But I got over it myself. Literaly, everyday it is a struggle. But WE are strong and WE can overcome it. You got this!! <3

[sixnineanon]

This got promoted so I guess my secret is out now 😲 but oh well. I never told anyone in my family that I do this. Yes, it is a struggle and I'm proud of you too ❤️

[Opinion Owner]

I haven't either. But really. It's the small victories. You should be so proud of yourself. Don't look back and keep moving forward. You are amazing and YOU CAN DO THIS <3

[sixnineanon]

Thank you 😊

[BaileyisDarcy]

'Why add physical pain to emotional pain?'

Im gonna tell you what my mum told me (shes both self harmed and considered suicide. So I consider her pretty knowledgable on this subject)

Emotional pain is just that. Emotional.
And sometimes its hard to find the reason you're feeling a certain way.
Self harm is a way to combat this.
You dont know why you're hurting, so you cut yourself to supply a reason.

Thats what mum told me.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Ouch. I accidentally clicked on this and it scrolled right down to the wrist pic and I almost began balling like a baby.

In general, I agree with you. I'm not gonna read the take-i can't. But self-harm never helps in the long run.

[sixnineanon]

I'm sorry. Yeah I don't know who put the wrist pic. I didn't put that in cause I thought an injury pic would be removed by the admins. Self harm never helped me.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

It's fine, (you can edit this you know, to rid of the pic) because it just hurt my heart to see that kind of thing after such a long time. And yea i know, self harm "helped" for the short-term of my depression but it generally only hurt me more than anything.

[FallOutBoy2001]

Oh God this was a really good take, though the wrist pic hit hard. I was one of the people that didn't cut and bleed but just scratched the surface with whatever sharp object I could get my hands on. It never lasted more than a day, so it seemed like it was pretty harmless at the time, and even now there's always that "it won't leave a mark, you know it'll make it feel better..." Though at the back of your mind

[sweettckae]

good myTake 👍🏻 I never was into self harm and glad I never did it. you have some excellent points there ❤️

[sixnineanon]

Thank you 😊 and I'm glad that you were never into it

[Lover-girl2001]

It's t worth it, its pointless and useless, people who try to hide ten have great difficulty

[Lover-girl2001]

I did it twice out of anger and I regretted it not because of the blood not cause the pain but because I grew up and realized bad things happen in life and I will just have to deal with ttor fix it, its not worth hurting ur self

[sixnineanon]

i did it so many times until I realized that

[Lover-girl2001]

Really, I got tired of tryuing to hide it, and one day my friend saw it she was like what is that, I said a cat scratch he looked at me and said I know its not I use to do that to! When he noticed it I knew that others would too, so I stopped and I do martial arts and that helps ! e to control my attitude and anger to

[Lover-girl2001]

Why did u do it

[sixnineanon]

I did it because when people are mean to me I began to be mean to myself.

Basketball and exercise helps me to control my attitude and anger.

[Lover-girl2001]

Oh martial arts helps me control my anger and is fun

[kittykatbrat]

SI really is a road to nowhere + a horrible cycle of self hate.
I won't ever look back.

[cth96190]

Cutting is not an answer.
A bullet to the brain will take the pain away. I think about that every day.

[sixnineanon]

Why you think about a bullet? Stop

[Anonymous]

I punched every one of my teeth out. The fog eventually clears and you're left trying to live with the consequences of your actions every single day. Do not do it.

[bcromartie]

Childish. A clear lack of understanding in the psychology of why humans do it.