Hiii , this Take is not based on facts it is purely my opinion on self-destructive behavior and how (based on experience ) I believe people become self-destructive. Thank you and enjoy xx 🤗
Have you ever realized that one of your behaviors was causing you more harm than good?
Have you then promised yourself you would stop with this behavior but within an hour or a day found yourself engaging in this behavior again ? This is called self-destructive behavior.
What is self-destructive behavior ?
Self-destruction is usually defined as “the voluntary destruction of something by itself.” In human personality terms it can be said to be something that provides pleasure and relief in the short term, but in the long term it gets in the way of you being able to enjoy your life to the fullest .
These behaviors include: *Alcohol/drug abuse
*Compulsive computer gaming
How do people become self-destructive ?
If you struggle with this behavior you were probably born with the tendency to feel emotions a little more strongly than others . And unfortunately you may also have grown up in an environment that wasn’t always kind to these emotions . These may include :
*Extreme experiences such as physical abuse , neglect, continuous criticism.
*Experiences with family member who discourage expression of emotion.
*Experiences outside the home, such as bullying at school, abuse by caretaker etc
If you were born with the tendency to feel strong emotions and you kept finding yourself in situations that were emotionally painful, you probably tried to ‘switch off’ your emotions in order not to feel . But over time felt you needed additional help with ‘turning off’ the emotions.
Self-destruction is addictive
When the behavior brings only temporary relief the person will have feelings of increased guilt and increased need to gain control . This fear of losing control is what makes self-destruction habitual and addictive.
Signs of self-destructive behavior
*Telling lies to create a mask of being in control
*Secretiveness to hide behavior
*Wanting to be alone
*Breakdown In relationships
Someone who is self-destructive can be helped by unmasking the issues and addressing them.
*Learning coping skills such as relaxation for example meditation
*Learning to replace negative thinking with positive thoughts.
If you struggle with self-destructive behavior and you ever need someone to talk to I’m here to listen xx 💗