How can I lose weight in a house with someone trying to "make gains" ?

[Anonymous]

Ugh, my boyfriend is already big. But wants to get bigger, of course. His way of doing so is eating carbs carbs carbs, so much meat, and tons of shit I shouldn't be even near! I have lost a lot of weight, and when I met him I was still losing it. Then we moved in together, and I started having issues losing lbs...

He loves to cook and food shop... but its impossible to lose weight with his diet. In my perfect diet world, I would only consume 1200 cals a day in 6 small meals. most of it being fruit and veggies. Minimal meat/fat/carbs... BUT its not working that way right now.

I don't want to hurt his feelings :( he shows love through food and when im only have small portions of what he makes he really gets offended I feel bad. But I want to lose more weight! :(

How can I tell him we need to have separate grocery lists and meals? I know this is really going to upset him. But I think its fair... he wants to make gains so I will support that but I want to lose lbs so I need him to support that...

[BertMacklinFBI]

tell him how important it is for you to lose weight just as important it is for him to gain the mass he wants. he seriously should be able to understand that and not get butt hurt over you not eating what he cooks.

[Asker]

yah I know! maybe if I tell him how much it would mean to me if I lost the amount more I wanted he will be good with it

[BertMacklinFBI]

either way honestly he should understand that stuffing his food down your throat is something you really don't want and he shouldn't force you or make you feel guilty into not doing so.

[AdamThomas]

You just have to tell him. I highly doubt he'll be upset, he'll understand.

[SteelMagnum]

Well then buy your own ingredients and cook your own food. Simple.

[Asker]

no its not...

[SteelMagnum]

Oh it is. Nobody forces someone to eat something they don't want.

[Asker]

money. its going to be basically a whole separate grocery bill. that is the biggest thing he is going to complain about. we share our money but like @BertMacklinFBI said... if I tell him how much it would mean to me that might help..