Am I the only human in the world that does not like mental help therapy?

[blackeagle007]

Trying to make a long story short, last year I got an owi (drunk driving) now on probation. A condition is seeing an alchole counslor at least once a month.

Anyway I've seen counslors in the past I hated going!! They annoyed the crap out if me, so bossy. (I know they try to help) but it seems their way of doing it isn't benifical.
So I've been to three different ones total. One guy just had a real know it all attitude and was weird.
Second counselor was emotional, I mean very!! It scared me and put me in a down mood. And get this, they also had me see a dr on staff, I reschdualed an appointment I had with him cause I got called into work.

A week later the therapist I was seeing leaves me a panicked voicemail saying how I missed the appointment, she's worried about me etc. All I did was reschedule? Is that bad? I was pissed and stopped seeing her.

Current guy isn't so bad, very laid back still tells me what to do. But fortunately I'll only have to go one more time and I'll have that condition out of the way.

However, I don't feel anything benifical by going to therapists. I just feel down after seeing them. I don't like to go and talk about my lives story to some total stranger.

My family dosent get it. They insist I still go and how it helps me... It dosent!!! Why can't people understand it isn't for everyone?

And on that note, that counselor sho leaves me that once voicemail about me "missing" an appointment with the dr, do you think she acted unprofessional? I did. She's a whack job ugh.

[misupanda]

Some mental health therapists/counselors/etc. are really bad. Actually, a lot are, in my opinion. You pay a lot of money, and they don't do their job. I stopped going, because I felt I was paying someone to simply listen to my problems, not help me better them. Past 3 therapists I tried told me that dysthymic disorder is "just your personality", basically saying I have a depressing personality. Way to make a person feel better about themselves. That's part of the reason why I want to go into therapy as a career. GOOD mental health counselors CAN help tremendously, sometimes between life and death. The issue is finding a good one who is compatible to you.

You may be resisting therapy as someone else said, so I would be aware of that and really think if that's a possibility. If not, maybe just like me, you've had really bad luck with therapists. If it's required for you to see one though, I would just be patient and listen to what they say, since they are an expert. Maybe something good will come out of it. ^^

[Starsite]

Out of all these people you've found something wrong with each. Maybe it's you who are resisting the help? Therapists can help greatly if you're willing to open up. Sometimes you have to see a few to find one that will work well with you, but if you keep finding problems with every therapist you have to consider you are the common denominator so the problem might not be them, it might be you. Just a suggestion of a different way of looking at it.

[blackeagle007]

You did make a valid point. Like I said I never liked it. Anyone who benefits from therapy had to want to go. I just don't have the want. But almost done!!!

[Starsite]

Fair enough, hopefully that was your one and only DUI. If you do the crime you gotta do the time.

[blackeagle007]

Ant crime is bad especially felonies. But dui is the worst misdemeaner to get caught for!! Cannot count how much $ this costed. Next time I drink, I give the car keys to a friend and stay the night.

[Starsite]

Awesome! 👍

[micheal727jovanie]

Hell yeah I hate most counselors but my high school counselor was a different story man she was hot ufff. But after that I had a Christian uncle who counseled me when I was on probation this mf told me I need to find god and all that nonsense I knew this mans past and he was telling me I need god. This fucktard used to bang any chick with a pulse notably the bbw type chicks so I understand how you feel. Thank god you only have one day.

[blackeagle007]

Right? We can't help that we are human. One size does not fit all. Sounds as if the one your seeing isn't the most credible.

Speaking of finding God, I also have to go to AA 3 times a week. It's a joke! And all they talk about is God stuff. Kinda awkward if you ask me.

Don't get an owi whatever you do!!! It really blows!!!

[micheal727jovanie]

Hell yeah man I try my best. I sware I just hate those asshole counsolers it just makes my laugh hearing what they have to say

[Illusive_Man]

Look, I'm not going to tell you what you do with your life but MAYBE just MAYBE professionals who are trained in dealing with patients may have a little insight into why they think certain things are important and worth panicking about?

[Starsite]

Agreed

[RumbleRose]

You're definitely not the only one! I've been seeing counselors for two years now and everyone of them made me mad and feel pressured. Talking to my current therapist doesn't help at all which is why I lie to her to get the hell out of the sessions. I only liked my old therapist's assistant but she moved to another job and ever since I haven't really talked to anyone about my problems. It just feels useless to me.

[Starsite]

They can't help you if you lie. That's like expecting a doctor trying to treat you for fake illness while the real one goes on festering in your body.

[misupanda]

Yeah, I definitely don't recommend lying. Believe me, I know it can be really irritating, especially when they don't seem to be helping. If your current counselor isn't compatible, then try switching a few times to find someone you "click" with better. Every counselor seems to have a different approach.

[Klaatu51]

no you're not the only one.

basically i consinder some therapists REALLY savage, because of the way they behave towards their patients

[Coolguy1928]

I don't like it too. I can't imagine how therapists could help people when they barely know what we're feeling. Asking questions won't make someone directly understand someone's problem, it's stupid.