An apartment is a money pit? She needs to live in reality and understand that if you can't keep up with your mortgage payment you will be out on your ass. Tell her that it will be better rent, save up for a couple of years, and then get a house. If you haven't been saving enough to put down at least 20% or 30% down on a house, then don't do it. You also have student loans. Don't get into paying for a house when you still have those loans over your head.
Money is one of the biggest arguments you will have as a couple. It can bring a huge strain on a relationship. Go to a financial advisor and get some assistance. Pay of your loan ASAP so that it is not hanging over your head
Also, your fiance has to work with you also. The house thing maybe something the two you have to put off for a while. Other than the house, you may have to rough it for a little while. I don't know if both of you have cars, but you may have to deal with just having one car for now. Health insurance. Well you're working two jobs see about getting health insurance coverage at one of those places.
And I am going to be totally honest here. I'm sure you love your fiance, but maybe marriage shouldn't be on your list of things to do right now. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate, and if she is already on your case about being the breadwinner now, it's not going to get any better when you're married. It's probably too late now, but I would say that you should get your life somewhat in order first before you take the plunge.
And how long do you have to finish school?
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My god your future wife is pressing. I'm sure she means we'll, but she's obviously freaking you out. You need to tell her that she needs to bring up her subjects in a positive manner, not a cynical sorrow one.
Talk to a financial adviser and accept that you might not be able to buy a house right away. You can't do everything. Many young couples have to put off buying a house.
I hope that she is willing to work too. In this day and age, you can't cling to the idea that you'll be the "breadwinner". The only way you guys will get a house and deal with your other expenses is for her to contribute too.
If she is not willing to accept that you'll probably be quite poor at first (this is normal for young couples) and if she is putting pressure on you about finances, then it sounds like you guys are not ready to get married.
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