How to let go of my past?

[QueenofSexyFoxes]

I have been hurt and tortured a lot in my past. Exes hurting me mentally and then abandoning me to kids bullying me.
Lately I am stuck on an ex who really hurt me badly but its been four months and we only dated for two.

How do I let go of all of this? And not just momentarily but let go forever.

[Darkfairie17]

Having bad things happen can be very tough to over come. But it's not impossible.

The thing you need to do is to try and take each minute at a time and not dwell too much on the past. The past has already happened, you can't go back and chance it. But the good thing is you have the chance to build an amazing future for yourself!

With ex's, try to look back and see if there were any red flags that you noticed with them. Try to use that in your future dating life.

Try to focus on your hobbies and things that make you happy. This will distract you from the bad things that have happened. Write a journal if something is really bothering you, if you feel that will help.

You are only 18, so you have a long life ahead of you. The good thing is that you have lots of time to build a better future. Try to find people who are positive and who will support you.

[Darkfairie17]

Thanks!

[AUserToBeNamedLater]

If a professional isn't available, the first thing I would do is try to spend a little time on my own. The wound can't ever start to heal if people keep reopening it. Long term, what will help you let it go is finding the ability to forgive, both yourself and those who hurt you. Learning to do so is a long difficult process, but at the end is a new found freedom.

[OGarD]

I'd say find something you really enjoy to do and focus on that. I really like to run or read when I don't want to think about stuff.