Why would someone tell someone not to lose anymore weight?

[BigDana]

My family is bugging me to not lose no more weight. I'm 6'1 and have a large frame and 195lbs. I wanna get down to 179lbs or 150lbs.
Even one of my oldest cousins told me she never thought I was fat and I looked better before a lost weight and she keeps reminding me that I'm tall and I need to weight more and taller people hbe bigger bodies and they need more weight on then and I look good. She messaged me on Facebook to not lose no more weight.
I have a friend from school and according to her, she's 128lbs. She's 5'3 and small/medium framed and no one says ANYTHING to her.

You're TALL. Of course you're going to weight more.

It's your choice not theirs.

You are a large built person. You should know that you'll never be slender.

You're cousin is right.

[Ratiocinative]

150 is probably close to where a 6'1" woman would need to be for 6 pack abs. Not unhealthy at all as long as you're lifting weights. Lifting weights will make sure your body preserves muscle and burns fat, though you will always lose some muscle when dropping weight.

Don't listen to the haters. America has become so fat thses days that people have dilluded themselves into thinking that anyone who isn't fat is unhealthy. Not saying that being fat means you're unattractive, but if your gut (at the belly button) is bigger in circumference than you hip, you're fat.

[DizzySB]

You're probably starting to look too slim. The thing is even if you think you weigh a lot (which you definitely don't) you don't want to start looking skinny. It also doesn't matter how much you weigh, because you probably look slim right now and it also helps because you're tall. I don't think you should lose anymore weight.

[MizzKay]

Well you see your family has a point. You're very tall at 6'1 and large built so it wouldn't make since if you weighed 150 pounds. That's too small for your height. 195 doesn't sound bad but it is your choice. Remember, workout to be healthy, not aim to be skinny.

[dudegrt09]

You are tall so ofcourse you're going to weight more, it doesn't matter much if you don't look fat and have a good body shape/structure. Since people are telling you that they must have a reason behind it, and losing weight drastically can impact your health. Also your cousin is right that since you are tall you need quite a bit of body mass to remain healthy

[BigDana]

But it isn't fair. I've always been a big built heavy set girl. I'm trying so hard to be a good shape and slim but my body won't get any smaller.

[dudegrt09]

I didn't say that more weight means that you are heavy set or fat, in fact since you are tall, you'll look pretty slim even when you'll eat a lot and weigh quite a bit. It is fine... I'm 6'2 and around 192 lbs, and I look quite skinny, so I weigh so much because I am tall

[BigDana]

Well I don't care. I'm trying to get back to 179lbs. My family says I looked too skinny and I look better now

[AllThatSweetJazz]

If you're thinking about this in terms of everyone should be in a certain weight range no matter their height or muscle mass then wtf.

Of course you're going to weigh more but your BMI can be the same that's the point.

Who really cares about weigh? Nobody. What's more important is weight proportional to height which is BMI.

[BellePepper]

150 is way too little for someone who's 6'1". How have you not worked this out by now? You are an adult.

[BigDana]

SHUT UP!!! I wanna be slender but my stupid body won't let me. My

[BellePepper]

Soooo you're not 26 is what you're telling me?

[BigDana]

I am it's just that I'm tired of people telling me that I'm a big woman and I don't need to be losing all that weight. I get reminded that I'm tall and smaller built women look better slender and my dad says I need to accept that I'm always going to be a big girl and I'll never be slender.

[BellePepper]

Once again are you even an adult?

[BigDana]

I am an adult. I'm tired and fed up being called big

[FallOutBoy2001]

Why would you accuse asked not being an adult? News flash, adults can want to lose weight as well, and be unhappy with their weight

[BellePepper]

@FallOutBoy2001 Because by the time you're 26 you accept your body on at least a basic level. You accept how tall you are and what kind of frame you have and work with it. If you don't, you go see a therapist about it. Being insecure to the point OP is a teenager's behavior.

[FallOutBoy2001]

Seems like it was just you. I know a ton of adults who have body image issues. Plus, my dad is at 195, 6'2" and by no means skinny like a string bean. If Asker wants to lose some weight, she can. You insulted her first by asking her, who by the way is aiming for a healthy weight, "how have you not worked this out by now? You are an adult"

[BellePepper]

@FallOutBoy2001 Honey do you understand that there's a big difference between weighing 192 and 150?

It's okay to be like wow I wish I weighed less or I wish I ran more but hating your body as a 26 year old isn't okay and it's not healthy.

Moreover 150 is too little for a woman as tall as her. She should know this. As an adult you work out healthy goals for yourself and healthy ways to attain them regardless if numbers. Teen girls ask about numbers. Grown women do not.

[FallOutBoy2001]

www.livestrong.com/.../ Actually, this site has ideal height and weight ratios and 150 is a healthy weight.

[BellePepper]

@FallOutBoy2001 No honey. OP has already said she has a heavier frame. Trying to be on the very edge between "healthy" and "underweight" is not a good goal.

[FallOutBoy2001]

She expressed a wish to be between 179 and 150. I think that's a healthy goal. As long as she's eating right and getting to nutrients she needs, that's perfectly fine.

[BellePepper]

@FallOutBoy2001 the issue is the 150 goal which is why I said 150 is too low. Not 179 is too low.

[FallOutBoy2001]

I honestly don't see why striving for 150 is bad, as long as she isn't starving herself. IF she is, then that's bad, but if she's eating right, and exercising, and gets to that weight, good for her!

[BellePepper]

@FallOutBoy2001 Does OP really sound like she's at that point?

[FallOutBoy2001]

Well sho doesn't sound like she's starving herself. So no

[manyak]

@FallOutBoy2001 Actually OP does sound like out of desperation to lose weight, she would try that unhealthy route

[BigDana]

@manyak guys I wanna be slim. I've never been slim. My stupid large built body won't let me

[manyak]

@FallOutBoy2001 You see, love.

To the one asking the question, may I ask why you want so badly to become slim? Isn't it better to be a healthy weight than a perceived slim one?

[BigDana]

@manyak because I'm tried of being big and clothes are too small and the smallest I can fit is a large. I look awful in medium clothing.

[manyak]

To the one asking, it's probably your body type. One of my best friends is 5'9 and she works out (religiously goes to the gym and practices martial arts) and diets, but because of her body type she also mostly fits in the size, large, despite her having has abs and a very fit, toned body. The point I'm trying to get at is there are cases when clothes sizes don't necessarily reflect the condition of a person's body.

[BigDana]

@manyak So? That doesn't mean I can't be slender.

[manyak]

Well I don't know what you look like nor your body type but in my friend's case she is slender and extremely fit! Just because you can't fit into a size 0 doesn't mean you're big or fat

[BigDana]

@manyak I'm so jealous of your friend!!!

[Bobba_Fett]

Ignore the haters, love yourself girl.

Additionally as a tall man, I'd like to say tall women are smokin' hot.

[BigDana]

Thanks but you're just saying that

[Bobba_Fett]

I'm 6'4", that means you still get to wear heals with me. I have other tall perks too.

My last long term girlfriend was 6' even.

But you will believe what you wish. Have a wonderful day Dana, and I hope you feel as beautiful as you are someday.

[BigDana]

Thanks

[9mfeo]

A and D. Unless you're trying to kill yourself, losing more weight is unwise.

[BigDana]

No I just wanna be slim. I've never been slim.

[9mfeo]

You probably are, but your poor self-image prevents you from seeing yourself that way. You need to see a therapist.

[BigDana]

I never! I do not have poor image! Take it back

[9mfeo]

Go see a therapist.

[AdolfHitler]

Your alright, since you are tall, so it covers your weight. Listen to your family

[BigDana]

No. I wanna be slender. I have a cousin who is 5'8 but she's slim and had a smaller built than me and nobody is saying anything to her.

[hazoplmeught]

www.rush.edu/.../what-is-a-healthy-weight

[BigDana]

@hazoplmeught stop reminding me that I'm tall

[hazoplmeught]

que? i actually like tall girls, the question was about weight right? Why the hell u so self conscious about ur height? You remind me of a girl who started get all emotional when i asked her her height in 9th grade

[Anonymous]

normally when your tall you don't gain a lot if weight. You should loose some weight cause you're overweight and it's not healthy

[BigDana]

THANK YOU!!! People just dont understand me at all

[Opinion Owner]

you're welcome :)

[Anonymous]

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