How can I love and care?

[Anonymous]

im 21 years old
I fell in love so many times in the pass, girls broke my heart so many times, friends just betrayed me
WHY can't I LOVE ANYMORE OR CARE ABOUT OTHERS
i can't even care about my own sister and brother or my mom i feel weird

[annedechasse]

I know how you feel.
I was betrayed by a person who should have known better.
Although I care and say I love, I am not really sure what Love is to be honest.

I think the best thing is not to dwell on it too much, it can become obsessive. As long as you don't hurt anyone and love yourself enough you will be happy enough.
You may be lucky and Love will strike again but don't knock yourself out looking for it, it can't be forced.

[Asker]

Dude im in a serious problem i can't even feel shame about anything i dont even care if my mom dies

[annedechasse]

You would.
You are just emotionally numb right now. That kind of shock would smash you out of it.
Just don't worry about it, I guess you are already obsessed by it so that is going to be hard to stop.
My suggestion, do something demanding today, something that will use a huge amount of energy and make you tired. If you have money go to an indoor sports centre and try something like climbing. If not do something you have been putting off.
Trust me, exhaustion helps.

[Asker]

im like that 2 months already i have a lot of energy on me i just recently found what is going on to me

[annedechasse]

Do you think you need any professional help.
I didn't bother but I do wonder now what would have happened if I had. Maybe I wouldn't have turned out so odd. Lol
Although odd is quite interesting in it's own right. It has made me who I am and I am happy in my own skin now.
I am guessing you are not on any prescription medicine which may have depressive effects?

[Asker]

i never take pills or do drugs and my IQ is high

[annedechasse]

So then you know professionals may help.
What do you think of trying that?

[Smmyskittles]

Whatever happened triggered you to defend yourself from being hurt. Your emotions are 'temporarily offline' or 'shutdown'.

You have to start caring again, knowing your family isn't enough hurt you. They won't hurt you, they love you no matter what.

It's going to be HARD but you need to let it down in order to feel and be truly happy again.

[jesusnicolas768]

Sigh I fell ya bro maybe someday you'll find a girl who feels the same and you two can be happy together

[Asker]

i hope you do not feel me im in a serious problem here

[jesusnicolas768]

Yeah it's happened to me but I am trying to move on from what girls did to me

[Asker]

No its not only about girls i can't feel emotions anymore or pain recently my father broke his leg i was just Laughing and didn't gave a shit

[jesusnicolas768]

Oh damn nvm