How to cure severe depression?

[Anonymous]

Don't have no one to talk too about this since I have no friends. Been going through this since I was young due to being severely bullied. Tried medicine, but got off of it, because it made me feel like a zombie. My mind also goes blank when I talk to people, but it isn't my character. Just tired of it ruining my life. How can I change this?

[JRH1991]

I have it as well and it used to be so much worse than it is now. 2 1/2 years ago I had it so bad my work performance dropped really bad to where my boss had an intervention for me and every night I would drink vodka or rum until I almost was shit faced just so I wouldn't cry all night from all the memories and stress from the relationships with my friends. therapist if you want but honestly only you can change the stare of your depression. I would suggest making really easy goals for yourself at first and slowly make them more difficult as you get better, it helped me but then again I also had a friend who I could cry to without having them get all awkward ( she still helps when I need someone to talk to and it helps a lot) so try to find someone who your close with that won't mind you being very personal with them.

[Asker]

I tried, but I feel like I bother them with my problems, so I isolate myself. It sucks, but your right I do need to see one.

[JRH1991]

I had the same issue, I would always try to talk to my best friend about it but I couldn't bring myself to really discuss it with him because like me he has depression and I didn't want exaserbate it and have him start cutting again. So I kept to myself. Turned out he was concerned.

Just remember even if your friends don't say anything to you it doesn't mean they don't care, they may just not know how to help.

[Tomsta]

One thing i've learnt is that you have to make a coincsous decision about not letting your depression control you. It was easier me than it will be for you as my depression was only mild.

I agree that meds don't work they just supress the feelings and thoughts, they are still there. Find something your truly passioante about and do that and be damn what anyone else thinks

Also taking your life is NEVER the answer. Trust me on this when i say it'll impact your family more than you realise (my brother killed himself due to depression and not wanting to be himself)

[Asker]

I have thought about a lot, but yes I feel my family would suffer more than I would. What did you do to not let it control you? Anxiety doesn't help.

[Tomsta]

I learnt the hard way that the only person who can help you. Is you, people can offer younall the help. in the world but you need to make a active to follow advise and the help given to you

I also have mild anxiety so ik the pain

[Asker]

Very true. Just hard when you didn't get the motivation from your parents growing up.

[Anonymous]

A) you should probably tell someone and go get professional help
B) if your like me and don't want to lose your pride then just like remind yourself of all the goodness in life and in the world. But really it helps to just talk to someone tell them your deepest darkest secrets because it helps when someone else knows.

[BellePepper]

Go see a psychiatrist and therapist.

[Tomsta]

They were the ones who most likley perscibed the meds

[BellePepper]

@Tomsta NO! A psychiatrist PERSCRIBING medication? Whaaaaaat!!!

[Asker]

What if I can't afford it?

[BellePepper]

There are several low income programs available. Call the health department and ask them about sliding scale providers or even call your previous therapist or psychiatrist and ask them if they have any suggestions.

[Aby_boy090]

You should train your body.
Have a dog, be responsible.
And just don't flow with the people ignore them, most of them are jerks (sorry to say).

[Asker]

Yeah all I know mostly is negativity in my life, so you right about that. Train my body to do what?