How do you cool yourself down after getting pissed off/frustrated?

Question

I've been getting so angry lately, and mood swings always gritting my teeth and tense... I don't know what it is (work, emotions, friends, performance)... Just have to run/burn it off/music

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

So, I'm a gamer, going all the way back to the old 8-bit Nintendo days.

I also used to have this explosive anger problem. (Lemme tell you about the time I learned to cut, sand, stain and mount doors... when my father wouldn't let me go to sleep until I replaced the door I'd swung a metal chair through.)

My solution was to make it a game, in my head.
Anger management game.

See, in the original Super Mario Bros, you can't actually fight the big bad Bowser dude at the end. If you try to fight him, you just lose automatically. You have to scuttle under him when you get the chance. Dodge him. Not let him provoke you into a fight.

You see where I'm taking this.
Make it a game.

The person provoking you is the big bad ugly dragon. If you let them goad you into a fight, you'll automatically lose and fall into that fiery pit.
You have to remain calm and nimble, and #stayclassy and run under Bowser to win the game.

Give yourself points for staying calm.

Extra points/badges for speaking extra politely.

Extra points/badges for diplomacy.

Extra points/badges for understanding where the other side is coming from, if it's a dispute where there's another side.

You might find that you really, really, really LIKE playing this game. The anger management game.

The anger channeling game.

You might find yourself on top of the leaderboard someday.
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Oh, and, don't kill that spirit. That spirit, that's coming out as anger right now.

You can do great things with it.

Create great things, do great things. Live a great life.

If you get fired up over stuff... the point is, that YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO DEFEAT THIS INSTINCT, without destroying the very spirit that animates you.

So, well, don't.
Just put it to work FOR you. Rather than against you.

My life's full of people who have done big things. And just about every last one of them has "an anger problem", and has turned that anger into productive energy.

You can use it... to win at life.

lovydoey · Accepted Answer

Maybe buy a boxing sac and take out ur frustrations there? U could also try: being alone listening to music, take a walk somewhwre

Doffydood · Accepted Answer

Go cycling mostly. There's this one place I love to go where it feels like everyone else on Earth has died.
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Either that or pick up a book I've already been through, spend some time with my plants, pick up my 3DS or some shit.

To be honest, I don't really get angry enough for it to show. That's either very good or very bad :p

bedroomdweller · Accepted Answer

When I'm under a lot of stress I just get extremely horny and either have sex if with a date at that moment, or masturbate a lot until things cool down. Terrible coping system, need to do something else lol

kambo_trick3y · Answer

I get revenge. Simple.

Well, that's not quite true. If they're the RIGHT kind of person, I'll get revenge. If they're not the right kind of person, I just let it go because they didn't mean to piss me off.

AhGojira · Answer

I don't. :D If you call down my wrath so help you god... I'm coming, and I'm coming harder than you could have imagined... I don't get pissed off very easily though. In the past decade I've been pissed off twice.

NexAngelus · Answer

well if u have a girlfriend its easy ;)  otherwise the PG method would be play some video games or work out... hehe i know right odd options hehe.

Luci92 · Answer

Music Running Punching a pillow Writing about it

Cosytoasty · Answer

Go for a drive. A little speeding at night with nobody around really flushes the anger away.

hannahbanana11 · Answer

I run, by the end I'm tired or energized and either way I feel like I literally out ran my stress in a way, lol.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Smoking Fighting working out. Punching bag is you best friend in these circumstances.

genericname85 · Answer

hit the gym and lift like a mad man. after that there´s no energy for aggression left.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

If I'm just a little frustrated I see what could distract me like work or sleep. If I'm really in a bad mood, I talk to my friends about it until my anger goes back to slack levels.

Kindoflonelyguy · Answer

Breathe and think of reasons why what you're getting angry at is not important.

CHRIS11796 · Answer

I listen to the song surfacing by slipknot. It helps me get out that frustration.

Because-I-Have-Too · Answer

I have this one log that whenever I'm really pissed I hammer nails into, or I swim a few laps or just run it off

That1tallguy · Answer

Vigorously masterbate jk scream in a pillow work out loud music then hot shower

rgb008 · Answer

Exercise Sleep Watch a funny movie  Listen to music

ClumsyAngel · Answer

I get away from who or whatever it is that pisses me off

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

A heavy deadlift routine always helped me. Sucks every feeling/mood i have. Also my soul.

hotstuffSRD · Answer

I take a deep breath and smile  I was very aggressive in my high school days but I'm better now 😊

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

Sit in a dark room and think.

Omar5881 · Answer

Are you having your period Paul?  Anyway , get this boxing bag and get it all out

USA2016 · Answer

Lift, punch walls/doors😊👍

Izumiblu · Answer

i go for a walk or run.

kellyg83 · Answer

exercise and music. works every time.

Autumn-Bunny · Answer

Boxing, music, and dancing

Anna96 · Answer

I go to the gym. It usually calms me down.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

I just go outside for a jogg.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

I debate myself and i write everything down.

SoFeckinAddicted · Answer

Workkkk outttt

springocelot · Answer

workout or journal

MustNotAgree · Answer

I play with my toys.

Triss · Answer

I message @zorro8888 😂😂😂jkjk

SteamBuns · Answer

"It's not worth it" I say it out loud.

Decentguy · Answer

listening to music, working out in the gym

miamigirl1970 · Answer

I walk and or run...

apple24 · Answer

RUN MATE!

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