How do you calm down when you get angry?

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Satyromaniac · Accepted Answer

I once read that all emotions in our body are chemical reactions that last (make you remain in that emotion-anger, sadness, desperation, happiness, etc) for approximately 10-12 minutes.

And usually we aren't able to control our emotions if we have something missing in our body's daily requirements of nutrients. Ke The most essential of all is water, if you're dehydrated, you get angry ( not normal angry, Hulk Angry) so always stay hydrbated. The minimum amount of water needed by our body is 3 to 5 litres.

So if you see someone angry or you yourself are angry and if you have drinkable pure water around get it to the angry person ASAP.

I also like the teaching of Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) where he says that "The beginning of anger is madness and the ending of anger is regret." I have personally found this to be the actual truth.

The prophet has also instructed that
if you're standing when you're angry, sit down;
If you're sitting and you got angry, lie down.

I always follow these methods, and have found them very effective.

Hope this helps. Stay calm. 😉😁

jestergent · Accepted Answer

Remove self to 3rd person mode and remind self that neither party is an expert at the situation , neither person might know what is right and wrong.

That is one method. Sometimes when we are angry, we might not know till years later, we ourselves were at fault for something. Taking a neutral stance, is 1 method. There are many though. It depends how obvious it is, and also again, what seems obvious may not be so years later.

Either way, you preferably don't want to spread toxic nor try to control another persons choice. We make choices, and those choices are our own.

sweetpeaches777 · Accepted Answer

First off you walk away from whatever is making you angry. Take some deep breaths... sometimes it helps to tell yourself to just calm down. Then think to yourself... is this really worth getting so mad over... is it worth making my mind and body sick from the stress it's causing? Try to find to find way to fix the issue. And if that doesn't work then just stay away from whatever is making you so angry. I've learned over time that most things I've gotten mad about weren't worth the stress of being mad. Some things never really mattered that much anyway. I've learned to take everything as it comes and deal with them in a productive way... or stay completely away from it/them. Don't ever let anyone or anything steal your joy and happiness. And remember... YOU are in control of YOU... sometimes we might not be dealt the best of whatever... it's all in how you handle it.
Don't know if that helps or makes sense... something to ponder on though.

muscularbumblebee · Accepted Answer

Good question, still learning how to control anger but a lot better compared to before.. I tend to get irritated pretty easily and when angry supperrr angry just loose my temper and fume up like I could do anything.

If I do find myself in that situation I know instead of responding in any way it’s usually going along with what the other person has to do with a smile on the outside (say work where I can’t show it) or walk away from it instead I saying a fight like I used to to.

What tend to help for me is gym for sure. Lift super heavy and music. Any rap, hip hop or trap metal with aggressive loud lyrics always helps. If a long gym sesh doesn’t ware down adrenaline then sleep it off.. see how I feel tomorrow.. then confront them when calmer

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I try to change my expectations because not all circumstances or people will change when they are testing your patience.

willyppah · Answer

And why getting angry?
You shouldn’t get angry at all.
Take the example of how western and haters treat Muslims around the globe: they insult Islam and Muslims, humiliate them, attack them, accuse them of crimes they never done, aggressively attack them in the streets, strip Muslim women of their conservative dress forcefully in the streets, even killing Muslims in their houses and mosques shooting them everywhere, then asking them to chill out and accept the opposite opinions, hurting them physically and mentally and psychologically and then ask them to not get angry and to be cool with it.
So, I believe that whatever would make you angry is not even 1% of what’s happening to Muslims everyday while they remain silent because any reaction they do will be 💯 against them.
I’m sure that now you would never feel angry at all as you see billions of Muslims have to just keep living with all this discrimination and humiliation that you never felt in your life.
Based on all this you absolutely have nothing to feel angry about at all.

Tinana · Answer

I go to bed and sleep trying to make myself breathe easy then sleep off. Or if I just don’t care I just explode and make my feelings know I’m not violent I just use words after that ☺️☺️ I’m back to being me. Sometimes I eat out my anger which isn’t good

Lliam · Answer

I am prone to short but loud outbursts from time to time. Those are usually due to frustration over uncooperative inanimate objects.
If I start getting angry at a person, though, I catch myself and ask where the emotions are coming from and whether or not they are beneficial at that moment. I figure there are better ways to express myself than lashing out. Anger never helps an argument.

NathanDavis · Answer

at this point of my life is some sort of habit... I just don't get that angry, instead of doing something calm down when I'm already angry, I do calm myself down before I can get angry, that works better for me but again... it does not happen often at all, I'm a very chill person

HighlyVolatile · Answer

If I want to, I just stop thinking in an angry way; it's really that simple although I had some practice (it's difficult the first time, but gets easier and easier with practice, but you have to catch yourself and fix it when you are just starting to get angry). I think in a happy or fun way instead. The problem for me is when I think the angry way is the most fun way (only happens with complete strangers).

crossdressingrihno · Answer

When the option is available I like to punch something hard
Pillows don't cut it because I want something resistance and strong enough that that I can do so repeatedly
When I was in a relationship I'd unwind with my significant other
Flirting, talking, looking at her or watching something with her
All these things help stop my anger

These days I have to just rant at home because I don't have anything strong enough to punch

silkjames · Answer

I always keep it cool because being angry can make a person Do bad decisions... I work out and train at the gym to keep my mind clear I take out any stress on lifting weights or punching bags/speed bags and I jog in the morning before I go to work my routine keeps me COOL💪🏽🥰:)!

dustybiker · Answer

I don’t really get angry. You only do that when giving in to not being heard or if something isn’t going according to plan. Just take a moment to see the situation from a different angle, before you give yourself permission to get angry.

Exterminatore · Answer

I remind myself that I’m 45 and a life sentence still has enough sting to it to be an issue.

I also remind myself if I get to 70 that a life jail sentence doesn’t mean much at that age, so instead of saving for retirement I can blow the cash and start dropping bodies when I’m 70 or older. They can pay for my retirement so to speak so I can just waste that cash on upgrades to my truck and tattoos to calm myself.

Anzhus · Answer

I remember my mum always helped me out with this because I had a lot of issues.
She taught me this awesome breathing method. It really helps me.

When I was young I used to get angry very quickly and it caused so much problems that we moved to the other side of England due to certain issues.

melisaaa · Answer

1-Go far from the place where you was angry
2-Be alone
3-You need a pillow for this
4-Take a deep breath then take the pillow to your face (but dont choke yourself)
5-When you closed your face with pillow start screaming with your all breath and force
6-You suppose to be relax and pure after this
You are welcome

Guardian45 · Answer

As a teen I had anger management issues, but I have sought many types of therapy: walking, martial arts, yoga, taichi, meditation, Mindfulness, CBT & meds. Over time, I have a much healthier and safer attitude. I have learned that the majority of things I become angry about are not worth the stress on my mind & body. (I have PTSD)

CubsterShura · Answer

I think about the situation logically and why I am feeling the negative emotions, and focus on giving more importance to the relationship (friend, family, romantic etc).

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Take a deep breath. And forcefully cool down.
And speak as less as possible, because I know that I am going to talk without thinking twice and may very likely regret it later.

And get away from there as soon as possible.

WonderBell99 · Answer

I do the deep breathing exercise my therapist suggested and go to my room and shut the door. I cry, blow off some steam, listen to some rock or country music and get back out there when my anger dissipates.

GingerGuy · Answer

I don't get angry easily, but when I do... lol I have a really hard time with this. It takes me a long time to "get over it" and nothing really helps me do it faster. Like the weather, I just have to ride it out lol

wittymilf · Answer

I try find a “mood shifter” like step away from the annoyance and do something I enjoy. i also like to change the mood of those around me.  at work I generally shout coffee to reset the day.

AlexEfron · Answer

By bashing the person I'm angry at 😂 😂 I don't get angry easily. When I do, I avoid people

Toast792 · Answer

I rarely get angry. When I do it's for a good reason, and usually at someone. So I either let them have it, or I leave and listen to metal or something for a while

user1516 · Answer

Blast music through my headphones , read articles on dumb insignificant things, get away from the person that caused me to feel angry or go on a walk to distract myself from something that made me angry.

GlassTop · Answer

I don’t get angry much. It’s ok to get angry. Just have some control. Don’t do anything you’d regret. Don’t act out in front of others. Wait till you get home to get loose. You’ll get over everything eventually.

Tyrael · Answer

Take a few deep breaths and remind myself that whatever is annoying me really isn't worth the trouble because life is ultimately meaningless and I'll be dead soon.

Dan4you · Answer

Just count up to 10 but with increasing time between numbers and with breathing exercises all along. Like 1 - 2 -- 3 --- 4 ---- 5 ----- 6 ------ 7 ------- 8 -------- 9 --------- 10.

custard83 · Answer

The act of smoking while not actually smoking is super healthy. Walk away, get fresh air, take 5 mins, deep breaths, lite chat with others in area about random useless stuff, then rejoin society

FrenchGirl2 · Answer

Generally if it's happen in my family I just try to be the bigger person and walk away from the situation and vent to my friends.

HD1450 · Answer

It takes a whole hell of a lot to get me angry and if it has gotten to that point, there is a major problem, but I would probably just walk away and try to relax.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Breathing and thinking of reasons why I shouldn't destroy whatever made me angry, I believe nothing is really worth being angry about, I try to shrink things down to their size but sometimes I fail miserably :D

ClaryFairchild26 · Answer

Usually I just break things but now I go to my dog and pat her and I feel much better or I just sleep and try to relax sometimes music helps me

howhigh420 · Answer

does nerve and stress balls help you or the ones u sqaush ones

OneNineZero · Answer

Isolation  For me nothing else work I could kill multiple people when I am angry so I have to isolate myself

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

1. Play the game 2. Work out 3. Cold shower 4. Go outside and get fresh air 5. Clean up 6. Get a massage 7. Stay to myself for a while

Kayla45 · Answer

I chew bubblegum and move to a more open place, preferably outside with fresh air.

Nik_92 · Answer

Just ask your self at the same time is it really necessary? next moment you will find your answer and become calm

Moose304 · Answer

Get away from the stressor if possible and work out! Sometimes it is as simple as using my punching bag!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I have a gym so I'll just go and do some bag work (punches, kicks.) that sort of thing.

artstatues · Answer

I breathe, close my eyes and recite some memorized poetry, meditate or go for a long walkIt helps

vduong1988 · Answer

well sometime i take a long walk to calm me down i get upset with my older sister having a fight with her she make mad every time I had to go therapy my problem issue I live with her.

omnivert · Answer

Open my genshin impact or sleep. Or Drink cold water, and stay away from human for short time. If I had a dog then I won't get angry at all.

Jay3344 · Answer

Anger usually has a half life for me. But it usually diminishes pretty quickly. Sometimes it can carry into a next day but I’m often able to talk it out or exercise or divert attention in some way.

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

I dig my nails into my skin, slam my fists into my thighs, walk around my room aggressively, crack all my joints, and drink an unhealthy amount of water at once.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

I go some place where no is there so i can not hurt other either verbal or physical and take deep breath 10 to 20 times then think about which I love the most in my life.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Music while cleaning or a walk helps me calm down get out of my head and think things through

Heartache0405 · Answer

I remove myself to a quiet room and allow myself time to calm down

noohair · Answer

I am humble and on a human level everyone is equal. But most people are misinformed and I will not break through the programing, so I feel sorry for their moronic words and actions.

DrillBeats · Answer

Why is everyone talking about anger like you’re not supposed to get angry. Get angry! Just control yourself. If you’re gonna punch someone in the face just make sure it’s justified.

Biya21 · Answer

i can't control my hunger, so usually i shout but now a days i isolate myself in a separate room and locked that room so that nobody comes in and when i feel less angry then i came out and talk.

FormerPowerLifter · Answer

I actually answered a question somewhat similar to this just a few minutes ago. For me it has been James 1:19. Definitely James 1:19. I also think exercise and eating the right kind of foods can help too as strange as that might sound.

kiki18 · Answer

Smoke a sigaret try tho find something to district me and lisen to music

exitseven · Answer

I don't. I try to use anger to get things done.

Rtjulie · Answer

A walk outside is always useful - moving through a big open space reminds me that the world is so vast and full of so many people who don’t know anything about the objectively trivial thing that’s got me angry. It always works for me.

Darine123 · Answer

I listen to music and don’t talk to anyone when I’m angry

bolverk · Answer

If I'm at home the heavy bag takes a pounding,  If I'm working its meditation and breathing exercises.

daster4442 · Answer

i keep it to myself inside myself and start cursing in my own mind without saying anything and then it slowly fades away

front2back · Answer

Mad voice in head speak.  Go lift heavy metal at gym and put it down.  Mad voice go away.

Ank22 · Answer

I drink water first than I talk to my close friends, also try to listen some light music

SurströmmingLover · Answer

I like to turn off all the lights and wander around in my room.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

When I get angry and I can't control than I open social media and start trolling others. 😂

Better_off_here · Answer

i take a long run and i take all of my thoughts i have with me and as i am burning away my calories i am burning away by anger :)

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Punch walls! No lol, I got over that like 6 years ago. Strangely through frustration of patching the last wall I ever punched.

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