How can I be more secure in my body?

Question

I just hate how I feel about myself. I have stretch marks and fat places. I think my face is ugly. I only look good with makeup. My boyfriend would probably rather be with someone else he just doesn't care to look. Or better looking girls don't like him back... this is just how I feel. I can't help it. My ex said I wasn't attractive to him anymore.

Meghan87 · Accepted Answer

The two best ways to feel more secure in your body are to 1. Change your attitude about it and 2. Work on it!

Change your attirude by simply letting go of the past! Who cares if an ex wasn't attracted to you. Not everyone is attracted to everyone. That's life; move on! You have a new boyfriend who I'm is sure is very very lucky to have you. Adjust your thinking so he can realize that!

Then, invest some time/effort/money into your looks. Go on a shopping spree and find clothes that fit your body perfectly, visit a makeup counter and get a makeover with tips and product suggestions, find a workout you love and commit to it multiple times a week, get a haircut that frames your face (any stylist can tell you what works best!), etc. Working on your appearance is NOT superficial if it's going to make you feel better about yourself as a person. When you're more confident, the positives of your personality will shine through 😃

NyomiMcClinton · Accepted Answer

Please dont feel this way at all. And I am not just saying this, even if you have to fake it. Do not let men know your insecure or feel this way because they will use that against you. They may call you names just to get their way with you, because they know it will make you sad and depressed being called worthless names. You are more that. I promise you. Confide in women who are bigger on ways how to build your self esteem, join support groups. And believe me, there are a lot of men who love women are on the heavy side especially black men. I find that white men are extremely picky in terms of looks and the type of female they date.

kevrin · Accepted Answer

1) Make a choice you specifically want to keep because its healthy. Ex., a better sleep schedule, more fruit/ veggies, etc. Try going outside just to enjoy the outside.

2) Start some kind of workout regimen. Start easy, no reason to burn yourself out because you think you need to be doing the stair master 45 minutes a day. Maybe walks, swimming, or hikes. Look up some beginner weight workouts online. What's most important is that you're trying to live actively. Get those endorphins flowing!

3) This is most important. DO IT FOR YOURSELF. Making a decision to change yourself and the way you view yourself only works if you want it for you. Doing it for a boyfriend who you're making sound like a temporary part of your life will only make you hate whatever choice you make. Last thing anyone wants is for you to be turned off from healthy choice because you can't give up this one unhealthy one.

Alexa996 · Accepted Answer

For stretch marks take cink and vitamin A, C and E, take supplements or even better find natural food with a lot of these vitamins and cink :D Start doing exercises if YOU don't like your body... i recommend some plank squat challenge and running... drink green tea, its good for skin and lot other things :D After a month or so you will notice results, if you try it tell me how it is working in a month, maybe it changed your life ;) :P :D Sorry if my English is bad, i am from Serbia, i don't use it every day :D

Unesjomajo · Answer

Try working out, eat healthy, dress nicely, Im sure itll help a little.

And you're ALWAYS somebodys type and you're ALWAYS ugly to some people, no matter how good or bad you look.

But why care so much what strangers think of you?
you'll see them once or just for a short time in your life, their opinion doesn't matter.

You will live in your body your whole life, try to become friends with your body please.
Feeling bad about it won't make things better, actually the opposite is the case.

Good luck!

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

Really curious about you look like right now. Everyone is different but can be beautiful in their own way.
Beauty has many forms, same for ugliness.

Take a hot shower, dress up, just Because you can :)
Do a task, exercise, knowing that you did it, makes you feel better, stronger
Try to ignore your voice putting you down, and listen to ours. Like if people call you attractive, believe them

amyxoxo82 · Answer

I feel like that sometimes, it's all about loving yourself and surrounding yourself with support though, nobody's perfect or stunningly beautiful

mikirr · Answer

I started to work out and eat healthy. I makes me feel very confident even when I work out in trashy jogging pants.

hero-hero · Answer

beauty is not only in your face and body. it still can be in soul and mind just for the record. I am a guy and i can't tell you how many times i had disputes with my fellows on whether this girl or that girl is pretty or ugly. beauty is highly relative and what you see ugly another person would see pretty. you would find a guy who sees lots of beauty on you. but at first you have to see it in yourself..

lovydoey · Answer

Build up ur self conference. Look at ur self in the mirror and tell ur self u are beautiful. And stop comparing yourself with someone else. U are pretty 💕

the-truth · Answer

i not saying you should leave your man but maybe your boyfriend doest make you feel beautiful, I'm sure there are many guys out there who would think you just feel from heaven. making you feel you could love yourself more than you do right now.

wolfie12 · Answer

A) your boyfriend wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive.

B) start working on yourself and after some time you will realize nobody is perfect, but you can always be the best version of yourself.

egi22 · Answer

Sweetie, don't be that hard on yourself! I am sure you are great. We all have flaws. Do you work out? Working out will help you boost your confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't judge yourself just because of some guys. Haven't you heard you are so beautiful from ex boyfriends/dating partners? Does it make you believe that you are so beautiful? No? Then why do you believe you are not attractive just because of a guy who told that.
Stretch marks, not a big deal. Women are more likely to have it. It's natural.
Face. If your picture is yours, you are absolutely beautiful.
And to be honest we are okay if we aren't beautiful enough. It's just superficial thing!

Bobby25 · Answer

Talk to someone close to you, or a complete stranger.. You broke up with your boyfriend because he wasn't attracted to you ANYMORE, so that's not to say he was never attracted to you

BeastRB · Answer

Shit, nobody's perfect. I have stretch marks. Just gotta be confident. If you can't do that, just fake it till you make it.

KeriLynn · Answer

everyone has things they don't like about themselves. I'm sure your boyfriend loves the way you look. never let an ex make you feel like you are ugly.

_ell_ty_ · Answer

I bet your absolutely gorgeous ! Trust me, your boyfriend loves YOU!

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

I'm a chubby prick, and I sometimes think no one loves me because i'm an ugly cunt. But I just learn to deal with it.

Glen68 · Answer

it sounds like you are beautiful

Dingsbums · Answer

Learn some combat sport

Puppylove94 · Answer

Work out.

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