How can I stop cutting myself?

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Last year I started to cut myself, it was very off and on. After 4 months of cutting, I told my mom and started going to a therapist. After a couple times of seeing her, I stopped going. I felt better, and I wasn't depressed anymore. Or so I thought. Last month, I started to cut myself again. I know, so festive. But anyways, I really wanna stop. I'm in a relationship with an amazing guy, who knows I cut myself. But he hasn't really asked me about it, he just said sorry and asked me why. I told him it was "complicated". But I don't want to fuck things up because of this habit of mine. It hasn't gotten bad yet, I guess you could say. But it's getting there, and I really wanna stop before it gets worse. Imma put a picture of it, so you can have a better understanding of what I do.

LokiW · Accepted Answer

Therapy is like an antibiotic or medication. Doctors tell you to finish the bottle of pills even if you start to feel better before the bottle is empty. The same applies to therapy and antidepressants. My suggestion would be to continue therapy, don't stop so soon, and then speak to a medical psychiatrist by going to any one of your nearest hospitals and they will assist you and most likely place you on a medication to assist you in fighting these urges. Only psychiatrists can prescribe medication, not your usual psychologist/therapist. If you do get a medication (which will probably be Zoloft) be mindful that it takes some time to start kicking in since its, essentially, assisting your brain in creating more, let's call it, "positive energy." Do not stop if you start to feel better. If you do, it will get worse and the medicine will no longer be able to help you. Of course, there is always the small chance the first medication you try won't work, which you must tell your doctor about and he or she will try a new one. Psychologists and psychiatrists genuinely want to help people, that's why they enter their field. They want to help you. Let them.

Meg1548 · Accepted Answer

Try to find a better way to deal with issues, maybe go for a run to get anger out, call your boyfriend and have a rant, you're not in it alone and there are people you can talk to, my ex best friend cut as well and I got her to stop for a whole year, just define what makes you feel bad and work (or get help from Ur boyfriend or someone) to change these things if possible or talk about strategies, my friend and I spent a lot of time together and we talked a out it and it turned out she was just over analysing most things I said it feels like you're drawing bc all of your issues are a giant "rock" and you've chained yourself to them so we worked on cutting every "chain" or changing how she looked or dealt with then and she was fine for a full year, then some stuff happened and we aren't friends anymore but I'm hoping she kept up the progress 😊

Máiiréad · Accepted Answer

When it comes down to it... later on in life things will get better for you and you don't want to be ashamed and reminded everyday of the pain you went through... but most importantly... the pain you inflicted upon yourself.
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It is time to love and respect yourself... someone has to so it might as well be you.

babeeeone · Accepted Answer

Please stop. I'm sure you don't wanna live with all those scars and have this interfere with your relationships.
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I saw this yesterday on instagram or somewhere. It's an idea, maybe it would work when you feel the need to.

Blurgiflr · Accepted Answer

I used to cut before. But I've stopped now, you have to try and resist the urge and instead of cutting use a rubber band and pull it and let it go. Keep razors and knives away when you feel the urges. Try and distract yourself whenever the urges happen and listen to music. Talk to people which can help you. I've talked people out of cutting (or tried to, like I am right now) and people have talked me out of cutting. You have to just do things you like and don't be sad, that's what triggers it. Last of all, you can do this. It's not impossible. If you need any help, you can message me.

ak666 · Accepted Answer

Life is fucked up but it only gets more fucked up if you fuck yourself up.

Next time you have this kind of urge to cut yourself, try not doing it. You can sleep on it and try again later if you want. Just try, for once, not to do it right then and there. Put it off and rest, sleep on it.

I'm not sure if this works for you -- professional advice is mostly likely the best. But perhaps give this a try.

SaintRichie23 · Answer

Not big on psychology - too much grey area, but maybe try flicking yourself with a rubber band or putting ice on your skin.

Something that causes pain, but leaves no trace or scars. You've habituated yourself to cutting after some releaser gets you off to do it. If the pain is what you're rewarding yourself with, switch to a different reward. If its the sensation of cutting, try carving some wood, cutting fruit, etc.

SomeGuy37 · Answer

What do YOU need, to stop wanting to do this? I can't understand it, your pain/feelings that make you want to do this, but REALLY, what do YOU NEED, to stop doing this? Even if it is abstract, 'crazy' or 'just wishing', say it, and tell me.
Private message is ok.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I used to do it too. The reason i did it is because it was to distract from the sadness, it was a new pain to focus on. Then I realized that after I cut, that temporary distraction goes away and then your sadness comes again. It doesn't make anything better. It just makes things worse. Because now you look down and see your scars and you will get reminded of the sad memories. So there's really no point in doing.
I haven't done it since i was 16, and everything is great for me. I'm happy

Anonymous · Answer

The night is darkest just before the dawn. And I promise you, the dawn is coming.

Even though its a film dialog, it contains meaning.. the realization of this is the reason I'm standing up now...

Whatever your problems is, I promise you, THE DAWN IS COMING

Mofunfour20 · Answer

You need more a more progressive habit. Instead of tearing down, build up. There's a lot of dopamine within progress

Pyrofox · Answer

Well the boyfriend hasn't asked about the scars out of respect. For you.

thetraveller · Answer

u are kind of addicted to paint nd blood arnt u i would suggest get something soft nd musshy start pinching it as hard as u can whenever u get the craving to cut urself

Ahmed_Sy15x · Answer

My younger brother used to do these pointless and stupid things when he was 14... it's just your age... he stopped when he became older, and i did such non-sense things like this when i was 14.

NYkid27 · Answer

I think the best thing to do is seeing a psychiatrist. Mental illness is a real medical condition so it should be treated by a professional

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

Step 1- don't pick up cutting utensil Step 2- repeat

Anonymous · Answer

You need to seek help... I used to do it... I didn't stop till I completely cut my wrists open. Talking helps.

nath2316 · Answer

Need to go again to a therapist,  What do u get cutting yourself?

Anonymous · Answer

I cut my self too... The best thing is that you should stay away from knives and be happy 🤞

Raveen · Answer

i also did those things :D

Anonymous · Answer

it is better to see a therapist

Anonymous · Answer

why cut yoruself when u can suck my cock instead?

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