How do I stop hurting?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend.

I had an online thing with this girl for several months. She is 18, a devout Catholic, never had a boyfriend, and never even had a male friend before she met me. She was perfect. I was torn to pieces when she met me the first time in person and rejected me. I fell apart when I learned she met another guy who she is now engaged with in a short period of time. I feel like I lost the best opportunity I was going to get.

Most recently, I found this girl who is 17 and almost exactly like Rachel. Her name is Emily. She never had a boyfriend before either, is Catholic, and almost like Rachel in every other way. Except, she had male friends before, but she didn't have any romantic bonds. We talked for a month and then we met me in person. She rejected me shortly after meeting me within hours.

I am just so crushed anymore. I feel like I am not going to find a woman without a romantic past (no first love or previous boyfriends) that likes me back.

I am so lonely and hurt anymore. I have almost given up on life and wish for an early death. I feel like I an losing myself.

[Curmudgeon]

You again? OK, I could cut and paste what I answered last time, but I think you can go back and find it. Anyway, just think on this:

1. You will always be alone to some extent. No lady can get entirely inside your head, let alone your body or soul. Get comfortable with that fact.

2. All women have pasts. Even if you are first to put Tab A into Slot B, she will have had some "guy crush" reject her, or something happened in her family that was emotionally an issue, etc.

[Curmudgeon]

3. Avoid "one-itis", which is the misguided belief that your wife or girlfriend can be your everything, from nursemaid, to business partner, to sexual dynamo, to best friend, to activity partner, to, well, your everything. She may be able to do some of those things, but never all of them. And even some of those things cannot be nonstop. She will need a break.

[TwinkleLily5]

Date someone your own age they probably think you are a pedo when they meet you in person, you are a grown man dating teenagers stop playing like a victim here.

[Inthecraphole]

Rachel was 18 when I met her in person... a legal adult. Both girls are at least age of consent. How come I am a pedo when Rachel is now engaged to be married at age 18?

[Inthecraphole]

Also, how else am I going to find an averagely attractive person woman who has never had a boyfriend before?

[TwinkleLily5]

You seem like a creep those young girls are probably into young guys not someone your age that gets online and whines about teenage girls turning him down

[Inthecraphole]

Tell me then how am I supposed to find a woman in her 20s that has never had her first love or a boyfriend.

[TwinkleLily5]

It’s possible you have virgins of all ages

[Inthecraphole]

I am not looking for a sexual virgin. I am looking for a woman who has never had her first love or a romantic bond with a guy before.

[TwinkleLily5]

Most virgins haven’t had that But I’m sure you are a troll lol

[Inthecraphole]

I am not trolling. I am a 27 year old guy who has never had a real girlfriend before. I want me and a woman to be each other's first loves.

[anmari2001]

How about you meet them I'm person? There is not the moment of surprise because of online chatting

[Inthecraphole]

I met both of them on person. Both rejected me on the first date.

[anmari2001]

I mean, instead of meeting people online, meet them in person, that way you are not wasting time

[Inthecraphole]

But what are the chances I will meet a woman that has never had her first love or a boyfriend before if I meet in person? At least online, I can seek women who are particularly like that.

[TwinkleLily5]

@inthecraphole Did you meet them in person first or online first? Online dating will definitely get you rejected faster on your first in person meet up. I did it to a guy because I felt no connection with him in person

[Inthecraphole]

@TwinkleLily5 I met both girls online first. One of them I met unexpectedly on a coding forum. The second I met on a Christian dating site. I am seeking women specifically who have never had their first love or a boyfriend before.

[anmari2001]

Well you can find that in real life too through conversation
It is not like catalog but could be more useful 😉

[Inthecraphole]

I just don't know where and how to meet women in person. I work remotely and don't have hardly any social connections.

[Recurrence]

Therapy

[Inthecraphole]

Been there done that for years