Hi I’m a 15 years old teenager, I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for nine months and I was completely in love with him, I’ve struggled mentally before we dated from traumas and mental health in general. Our relationship was so beautiful and it was filled with love I was there to comfort him and listen to him and he had opened up about his past and whenever something bad happens he comes to me and tells me everything , but we had a small problem in our “perfect” relationship that we have different religions. This summer caca we were busy the first month and barely got time to text each other and I’ve tried my best to understand why he’s not texting me anything. Later on he started leaving me on delivered for ages and it felt like pure pain. I tried to be understanding but I just told him what’s bothering me and he said I was exaggerating it all. And then I was mentally going downhill cause I thought I was losing him, later on the day came which’s 29 July and he told me the truth saying he was avoiding me cause his parents told him to end our relationship and that we don’t have the same religion. I was in pain, anger, denial of all of what he had put me through instead of letting me know the truth. I was texting him everyday crazy and begging him to tell me the truth and what happened and then I gave up now we’re back to school and he’s calling me a slut, whore, bitch, hoe and way worse to everyone and victimizing himself that’s he’s the one who’s innocent and all that and I’m the bad guy in the entire thing that happened I just want to put an end for this so please help me.
I think you know the answer to this, but if you don't, I will explain. You leave him. He is a toxic person and not worth your time. I know what you are going to say to me, but it won't change my opinion.
Anyone who calls you a "bitch", "whore", "slut", etc. is not a friend and certainly not a boyfriend. The very second you realize this, the better you will start to feel. Not better because of what he has said to you but better because you know you have made the right decision to leave him.
You are very young. You don't need that sort of negativity in your life right now. Especially if you have struggled with mental health. That is just going to add to your problems.
I think you need to take a step back and look at what kind of person he is. How does someone love you and is a great partner then turn around and call you those names? They don't if they really care about you.
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First of all I'm sorry this happened. You are young and it sounds like this was an attachment not love. You'll learn as you get older that there is a huge difference. Also love doesn't humiliate you or try to tarnish your reputation. If he loved you he wouldn't do that and try to hurt you. Let it go, the religion thing may have just been an excuse. If not he is too impressionable and you can believe if it wasn't that it would've been something else he would've used.
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Basically you’re just a teenager underage take things slowly just keep him as a friend. Don’t put the pressure on your back you’re too young to be dating. I hope you get better soon. Focus on your schooling
Consult a mental health counselor at your school.
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People say horrible things they don’t mean when hurt. He’s clearly blind to how much damage that causes you, yet so easy for him to flippantly say.
You could *calmly* confront him. Tell him to stop spreading hate which he knows is untrue. Or just hunker down and ignore it.
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