Is anyone else in here the fat friend?

[Needsomeonetorelate]

I kind of just need someone to relate to me I’m not a girl ask guy person I just need someone to talk to, or to at least relate to me. I’ve always had a belly and Been bigger than my friends. This is a pic with me and my two coworkers at the beach and as you can see There is a clearly a difference in waist diameter 😔. They are both constantly trying to get me to go to the gym with them but it’s really not my thing. I definitely eat a hamburger and have a few beers when they have their vodka soda and salad when we go out. I've just always been the chubbier girl out of all my friends and I’ve just gotten used to it. But for some reason it’s starting to drain on me and I’m wishing I had a small waist and a fit body like the rest of them. Is anyone else going through this?

That’s me the pale one on the left with the big belly.

[dancoop]

Well I am not a girl and I am thin, so I am not sure I can relate. But I can tell you what I think, for whatever that is worth so here it goes. For starters, I have always preferred chubby women over thin ones, and I know that there are a lot of guys out there that feel the same way. I sincerely believe that men are naturally disposed to prefer chubby women, this makes so much more sense from a biological and evolutionary standpoint. However, as we all know, contemporary society pushes an extremely unhealthy and unnatural vision of body size on everyone, women in particular. This also means that men are less vocal about liking chubby women because they will be ridiculed for doing so, I have seen it happen more times than I can count. I mention all of this not because I assume men are your primary concern, but because I am familiar with the backstory. But I really admire that you live as you see fit and do not let your friends pressure you into changing who you are to appease society. I think your vision of life, enjoying the food you like and taking all good things in moderation, is a more philosophically appealing view on life. I like the Latin saying, “Vivamus, Moriendum Est” which translates, ‘Let us live, since we must die.’ That self-acceptance is extremely attractive. But I can definitely see how years of the non-stop media, social, and cultural pressure can make even the strongest of us begin to doubt who we are. But I would say stand your ground, and make the choice to be happy with who you are, all else will follow in time. And for the record, if I saw those girls on a beach and were to ask one for a phone number, it would definitely be you, the belly is very cute (you wear the bikini even though society says not too, which is a venerable tour de force of self confidence and also very appealing).

[ImSoSquishy]

I used to be the fat friend in my tight circle of friends until a few years ago. Now all my close friends are fat or getting fat, and I'm the fit and athletic one.

[nerms123]

I used to hang out with these really skinny girls and I’d always say I’m so fat and they’d always say no or just laugh. I did lose some weight but I just accept I’ll never be that skinny and honestly I don’t want to be. However I also don’t want to be fat. I think being slightly chubby is ok. Maybe just try to lose a small amount of weight but you don’t need to be exactly like them.

[Anonymous]

I am fat but judging by the pic u defo are not, u look amazing

[3lewa]

Yes that's definitely Me.. and and yes I wish I go back to have a good body.. but still have no problems.. and yes u r beautiful so if u really wanna go fit.. then do it for yourself. Not for anybody else

[Anonymous]

The girl in the white bikini top could be your body goal. How does the one on the far right who's cut off look?

[ChefCurry]

Your friend in the middle is hot. Also you can't complain when you know what the problem is.

[owens97]

but the fat ones r sexy

[Fuentes]

Go lose the weight then

[Anonymous]

Don't complain, if you're not going to change

[GermanGuy87]

oh that sucks lol

[GermanGuy87]

I think the body of the girl next to you IS possible if you got disciplined about it

[mermaidia_lol]

Not anymore.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

What do you mean

[mermaidia_lol]

I'm not the fat friend anymore.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

Oh you lost weight congrats

[mermaidia_lol]

Thank you! And I do understand how you feel. It was depressing for me, but I decided, with the help of God, that I didn't wanna live in misery anymore. And it was a lot easier than I expected it to be. He gave me the strength I needed.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

I’m getting to the point where I really don’t like it

[mermaidia_lol]

Then do something about it. Live differently.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

I agree

[Needsomeonetorelate]

Congrats on losing the weight

[mermaidia_lol]

Thank, again! I wish you all the best.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

Can I ask if your friends were ever mean to you about it

[mermaidia_lol]

No, they were really good friends.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

They slap my belly Somtimes or like poke it

[Needsomeonetorelate]

They constantly tell me I’d be so much cuter if I lost weight and they tell me my belly messes up their pictures

[mermaidia_lol]

In a playful way, right?

[Needsomeonetorelate]

They jiggle it a lot

[mermaidia_lol]

Well, I can see how that can be a bit condescending. Maybe tell them to stop if you don't like that.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

Well I do but then they are like, “ well we don’t have our own to play with.”

[mermaidia_lol]

Stand your ground.

[Needsomeonetorelate]

But they just grab my tummy

[mermaidia_lol]

Get new friends

[Needsomeonetorelate]

Did this ever happen to u

[mermaidia_lol]

Never.

[Anonymous]

You look pretty hot.

[Anonymous]

You’re ok