How to stop getting in these funks?

[Anonymous]

I sometimes get into a way emotionally/mentally where I just feel anxious or sad about life as a whole. I think the whole world is thinking about every wrong move I’ve done and everyone hates me but isn’t saying it or is planning to hurt me in some way. Why is that? No matter how many times I tell myself I’m fine it doesn’t work.

Updates

+1 y

In fact I’m in that mood right now and I left my job after hanging out with friends and I passed my technically ex and she was with her friends and they still talk to me but I felt like they were talking about me. I just don’t know right now who is a real friend or faking it for the moment.

[Secret6620]

You seem to be a bit depressed.

I think it would benefit you to speak with a professional to see if you are suffering from depression and get a treatment plan that works for you.

I suffer from manic depression so I know exactly how you feel. I really hope you feel better though.

[AssholeNumberOne]

More common than ya think, bro. 👌 Right here

[Asker]

Do you have a way of stop or lower the impact it has on your energy or mood?

[AssholeNumberOne]

I have best friends who I never dreamed I'd be this close with to comfort me.

[AssholeNumberOne]

Honestly, they're always just what I need. Need advice making friends?

[Asker]

I mean like I feel like I do have friends but I often question if they’re true friends. Mostly because of the friends I’ve made in the past. Really any advice is useful to me. Thanks by the way

[AssholeNumberOne]

Welcome. Well, the way I made friends with my current besto was texting him (when I got his number) when I didn't think he wanted to text me back. That's my current advice for anyone looking to make friends.

[AssholeNumberOne]

And bro? I got all my best friends this way, and they tell me I deserve things I never let myself believe I deserved. I can hardly believe em when they say so.

I'm telling you, man. These are the keepers.

[Asker]

Ok ok I see I could try that. So what do I text just like hey what’s up kinda stuff? I’m a awkward texter 😅

[AssholeNumberOne]

Yeah. Be interested in their life, ask em questions. People love questions about themselves. And, in turn, gradually open up bout yoself.

[Asker]

So how do you stay a safe space between caring about the friends life and nosey? Because a former friend of mine was really nosey like she wanted to know every aspect of my life from doctors appointments to who I talked to and when, to what I did the entire day everyday. Yes she liked me and I told her I didn’t like her like that and she wouldn’t be ok with us being friends. ANYWAYS.. not trying to be like that

[AssholeNumberOne]

Keep to the general for the most part while you're getting to know em. However, keep it entertaining by telling em exactly what happened to you in a funny story you're telling.

[AssholeNumberOne]

Make sure you have their consent before sending a long story tho.

[Asker]

Yeah lol probably don’t want a random paragraph text message from a new friend 😂 but ok I’ll try that recently I’ve made a group of friends probably not friends that I’ll keep for life but for the meantime. I’ll test these tips on them for a little bit

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have a punchbag. Whenever I feel low and think about stuff, I go punch that about for a while. Going for a brisk walk can help too.

[Asker]

I take walks and my thoughts are better but then when I get back they continue. It’s just thoughts like everyone is after me kind of thing when no one really is that I think

[TommyMountainFigure]

You agree that walking helps. what about reading? That can be a relaxing form of escapism.

[Asker]

So here’s the thing about reading I can’t read for long without my thoughts wandering everywhere. My friend told me it’s probably adhd but I don’t want to label it yet. Same with movies. I’ll be reading then I’ll get a text or something and I’ll check and go back and forget what I read then will be like whatever. But walking definitely helps

[TommyMountainFigure]

Next time you read a book or watch a movie, make sure the phone is in a different room and you can't hear it ring. As for losing interest, it's probably something to do with it being a boring book/movie than ADHD. Reason I say that is because that happens to me as well and I don't have it.

[WhitneySnow]

You might be depressed and a little paranoid. Therapy might help with that.

[WhitneySnow]

Tbh I get the same way sometimes and therapy really helps me. So does talking to friends.