How to cope at a wedding with an eating?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend's sisters wedding is in one month now and I am so anxious about it. As far as I know there isn't going to be a meal just a big party which I really hate.

I have really bad anxiety so I am probably going to drink which is not good either. Or I am going yo drink and not eat as I don't eat in public meaning I am probably going to get loads of food and hide somewhere and eat it all then make myself sick.

Obviously all are not great. I'm dreading it. I am forced to go. I can't afford therapy and even if I could my anxiety is too bad to speak to people. Any ideas on what to do please?

[Honesttguy]

You stress yourself out. To me it seems simple, i would take 1 or 2 shots of strong liquor wait for 30min to kick in and thats it rest you can drink some juices, gives u calories and something in your hand to feel like u fit in.
And grab some snacks like nuts or cookies to eat, you can eat those while standing and no one will pay attention cus its not full out meal with knife and fork its just snacks.
Now get relaxation from two shots and have something to snack of calories + good to have hands full for lowering anxiety.

[Asker]

I get what you mean and thank you 😊

[exitseven]

okay-you need to tell yourself not to drink. Make sure you have a good breakfast before you go. Maybe steak and eggs. It will keep you from getting hungry. Tell your boyfriend about your concerns.

[Asker]

I appreciate the help but I don't eat breakfast and I have to drink otherwise I will be anxious all night. My boyfriend knows about this but thank you again

[exitseven]

Eat breakfast anyway, even if you have to get up a little earlier. It will help your body regulate blood sugar and make you feel better.

[Asker]

I get what you mean and thank you 😊

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

Is this an eating disorder or an IBS disorder where you’re hungry but afraid to eat because your stomach will get sick afterwards?

[Asker]

No Ihave bulima

[Asker]

I can't eat in public. I am going to be anxious as it is so I am going to drink and I don't wanna pass out from not eating. I also don't wanna have loads of food and eat privately as I will probably make myself vomit afterwards

[Opinion Owner]

So why not eat before or eat after? Regardless your stomach is going to be empty, so why worry about it during the wedding? That’s a level of anxiety you just don’t need. If it’s causing you that much stress then maybe you shouldn’t go. Unless you’re in the wedding then they’ll just have to understand that your mental health comes first. If this is a money thing then pay it back when you can. If your boyfriend will get mad or whatever then maybe he’s not good for you because someone who has your best interest at heart and understands your struggles wouldn’t put you through an ordeal they know will trigger you, just for the sake of not going alone.

[Asker]

I have to go and it is not a money thing

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you “have” to?

[Asker]

Because him amd his whole family will make me feel guilty about not going

[Opinion Owner]

If your boyfriend will get mad or whatever then maybe he’s not good for you because someone who has your best interest at heart and understands your struggles wouldn’t put you through an ordeal they know will trigger you, just for the sake of not going alone. You have to be more concerned with your mental health than a guy, and if you love him more than you love taking care of yourself then that’s a huge issue. This isn’t me trying to make you feel bad, just giving you some tough love. You are going through so much trauma right now trying to prepare for this, it’s just not that serious. What’s serious is what you’re going through, not a freaking wedding.

[Asker]

I get what you mean and thank you 😊

[lawhawk]

Have you talked to your boyfriend? Maybe he can help you. He can keep you from drinking and when you want to eat he can get food for you both and you go sit outside somewhere.

[Asker]

I get what you mean and thank you 😊

[bowenw]

Can you eat before you go and limit yourself to non-alcohol drinks for the most part?

[Asker]

I get that but then I will be bloated and I will have to drink to help my anxiety

[bowenw]

Would you be okay with one alcoholic drink per hour?

[Asker]

Yes but I have to eat with alcohol as I havw low blood sugar

[bowenw]

Is there some food you could bring from home to keep it in your purse?

[Asker]

Np sorry

[bowenw]

I think you will be better off to find a way not to go to the wedding.

[Asker]

I get what you mean and thank you 😊