How do you overcome anxiety?

[Anonymous]

I go through phases. Sometimes I’m totally good and I look back and think damn why was I upset?

And sometimes, like right now, I feel like something is wrong with me and everyone hates me (thanks anxiety!)

And then stupid things like my friend not texting me back confirms it for me and I feel like shit.

How do I overcome this? Any advice would be appreciated.

And by the way I’ve tried meds and therapy in the past, it’s helped me but I tend to relapse sometimes.

[Still-alive]

Yeah this is still something im trying to overcome. i've gotten better but still need improvement. i think the art of self talk when you're feeling those anxious moments is something that helps a lot. try to think things through logically. Like 'he hasn't texted back in 12 hours' well maybe he has an emergency. Maybe he can't get to his phone. that kind of stuff

[Asker]

I mean the my friend ghosting me situation isn’t helping but I tell myself she’s a shit friend keep it moving 😂

[Still-alive]

yeah if the friend ghosts don't disturb the 'dead' and let em be lmao

[Asker]

Love that 😂😂😂😂 I plan on ghosting her back when she eventually reaches out (when it’s convenient for her). If she confronts me I’m going to use your line about disturbing the dead lol

[Still-alive]

oh gosh i do dislike that when they only contact you because THEY need you. and of course they are never around when you might need them.

yeah i think you're better off without her lol. sounds like a headache

[Asker]

Yeahhh exactly

[AimeeKyle]

Try to focus on the things you have control over….. which is your personal actions and your reactions. When you have downtime, focus on you.

And just an FYI….. although I don’t even know you…. I am certain your friends don’t hate you. People just get busy with their lives and lose track of time and priorities sometimes…..

[Asker]

Thanks… I think there’s a difference between ignoring your friend and only reaching out on your terms and when you need them vs being busy.

[AimeeKyle]

There definitely is,,,,, but you have no control over how others act/react to you. If people treat you poorly or in a way you don’t like, don’t whoa out it, devalue them, find others.

[Asker]

So true. Thanks

[StalinsThoughts]

Fighting anxiety is an active process, so you have to confront your anxious thoughts and make yourself aware of how your anxiety is skewing your perception of events. For example, if your anxiety is telling you that your friend not texting you back means there is something wrong with you and that your friend secretly hates you, fight back and remind yourself that you don't actually know exactly why your friend hasn't texted you back, and that you shouldn't jump to conclusions. Remind yourself that your anxiety is picking the worst possible explanation because that's just what it does, but there are thousands of reasons why your friend hasn't gotten back to you yet and you should think about the various other innocent (and much more likely) reasons why. This should help keep you from always assuming the worst and keeping yourself open to other possibilities for things that seem bad at first glance.

Just remember that your anxiety is always trying to make you jump to conclusions and convince you that the worst possible explanation for everything is the only explanation, but the reality is often far more mundane and innocent.

[TonyMetal___86]

You can overcome anxiety when you think about my words towards you and when you think that everyone hates you, you must remember that i'm here and never said that i hate you, in contrary i always see in you an amazing rare girl 😊

Princess rapunzel must always think about my words and for sure there are others who are like me that treats her the same, such people will always makes you feel happy and relieved because we like you and we speak the truth about you and this truth about you is very beautiful and will eliminate all thoughts that might makes you feel anxious...

[Asker]

Aw that’s so kind thanks so much!!!

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome 😌

[MementoMori777]

You aren't the only out of place here, the world is basically going to shit, it's not you, it's them, they seek for happiness but they don't even know what they are seeking for, you know what you are seeking for so when you find it you'll know, it's seems like nowadays people see the good traits and qualities as flaws, it just shows that it's the world changing on us not us changing on them, don't change G

[MementoMori777]

It seems that if you aren't a cheater, a scumbag, toxic, fake, delusional or bias then you are going to have trouble in this world cause it has rotted and we are in the center of it, it's just the way it is

[Asker]

See that makes me sad because I want to be happy and I want to enjoy life and I want good relationships

[MementoMori777]

Don't we all, you can get it but its gonna get harder to find as it seems that dating is becoming more and more irrelevant and people don't want to put effort in anymore, I know you'll find someone, until then enjoy life how you can, after all you don't necessarily need someone else to be happy, one step at a time and one day at a time

[Asker]

Yeah I mean in romantic relationships and friendships

[MementoMori777]

Yep.

[Pterodon]

You have to be self aware. You have to know when you’re in high stress. Then sometimes all you can do is white knuckle it. It means you’re self aware enough to know high stress is coming and you shut your eyes, grit your teeth, hang on tightly and trust it’s only temporary and will pass

[Asker]

I love that…. I can definitely tell when my stress levels are high. I am going to choose to be kind to myself and look at it as temporary… thank you

[Pterodon]

Message me anytime. I’m following you

[Asker]

Thanks so much! I’ll follow you back

[lightbulb27]

Are you PMSing?

Can you stop thinking about the future and what people think of you, and focus on now? Does prayer, doing something relaxing, or helping others help... to get your mind off of you?

[Asker]

Funny thing is I’m ovulating I should be in my prime 😂

[Christoff92]

Mediation is the key 😌

[Mark987]

I have suffered from anxiety for so long.. breathing exercises help a lot. Meditation has helped me a lot. It's only been two months.. but when you feel being anxious go to youtube, and put on some meditation music.. close your eyes and try not to think of anything but breathing in and out...

[Guardian45]

So you may have an anxiety disorder, like me, but you need to get it diagnosed and treated. I have found a regular routine schedule of sleep, exercise and diet helps to start. Then also consider meditation, yoga, Taichi, or Mindfulness.

[Asker]

Yes I’ve been diagnosed before… thanks!

[Guardian45]

You're welcome

[Blackcupcake]

I don’t think you ever fully “e”overcome” in a sense where it’s completely gone, but you can learn to manage it so that it does affect you as much by learning more about yourself

[belle_kai]

Cognitive behavioural therapy. Its a known treatment to help your thinking patterns associated with depression and anxiety

[AsaKyo]

It's impossible unless you go through exposure therapy and are willing to get out of your comfort zone

[DarkLegacy]

Have had similar problems in the past but it was largely caused by drinking too much. Problem was i drank alcohol to suppress it

[Alex8736]

it's a chemical imbalance where it can be genetic the most common thing i see with patients is a cross of anxiety disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

[Marked_Man]

Breathing exercises, quiet spaces, meditation, therapy and sometimes medication as needed.

[KrakenAttackin]

Start by speaking with your doctor, potentially for medication, and to get a referral for a counselor.

[MrCommodore]

I found that MMA/BJJ training helped.

[Jmmmfi4]

The gym helps me a lot