How to deal with family members body shaming me?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps I’m not being body shamed, but I feel this way. Maybe it’s positive criticism and they mean well. But I won’t lie and say that I don’t feel hurt. I have a health issue that causes me to fluctuate in weight constantly. I’m treating it but it a long process. My family constantly comments on my body and say how bad I look. I’ve grown used to such comments since I was a child, but as an adult weirdly enough it hurts even more. Speaking to them about it doesn’t help that much. But I’m trying my best not to let it bother me by brushing it away. What can I do? Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Ok so I don’t know everything that’s going on here. From what you said you’ve been like this since you were a child, you said it’s a long process. How long? Because honestly if this was happening as a child it’s been maybe 10-20 years, I don’t see why this hasn’t worked yet. When you say it’s a long process because of a health issue I’m assuming you’re taking some sort of meds or something medically to help you fix this. Again it’s been 10-20 years, why is it taking so long? At the average age that women tend to live, you’re about 1/3 of age through life. I’m not saying this to put you down. I’m just asking this because non of what the other respondents said is going to help you. Someone said stop talking to them, which I’m sure isn’t what you want. Someone said tell them to stfu, I’m sure you don’t want that either. I understand you’ve been going through a lot, but have you truly dedicated yourself to fixing it? Whether that means eating right, exercising, etc.

[Asker]

I have a chronic disease that I’ve been diagnosed with since 11 years old, so it can’t be cured, just managed. The meds that I was put on before caused me to develop moderate fatty liver disease, so I had to stop it before it worsened. Right now I’m trying to cure my liver as well. I’m back and forth on various medications and one side effect is weight changes amongst others. I’ve also developed high cholesterol problems even though my diet is seemingly quite healthy. Last week I was 10lbs lighter than I am now, so I’m quite used to it and understand why it’s happening. My family thinks If I workout 3 times a day it’ll prevent me from gaining weight but it doesn’t work like that. If I push myself too much my cortisol (stress) levels increases which negatively worsens my condition.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand. I work in the medical field. It’s easy for people to judge w out knowing what someone is going through. The thing though is never giving up. You’re allowing yourself, your life to be stuck where it’s at in this point of your life because of all this negativity. I know it’s hard hearing it, especially from people who mean the most to you. But you need to find a way to endure that, to move on. Whether they accept your reality or not is on them, you know the truth. Do what you need to do. If they don’t believe you then that’s on them, but you have to try to let that go because their negativity is holding you back. Forgive them for their ignorance or stupidity or whatever you want to call it. Not for their sake, but for yours because this is all dragging you down.

[Anonymous]

Pray and seek Gods guidance. Rebuke the generational curse that is the likely cause and rebuke what they say in the name of Jesus. Pray that they will find love, acceptance, empathy and compassion. Each time they say something like that you can politely rebuke it and say you don't like it, you do not consent to their comments and each time ask them to stop. If that does not work you can just be silent. But the real solution is likely to be found in prayer but I don't know about your belief and / or faith. Faith will be required at the foundation of such prayer.

[butterly248]

Gotta stop speaking to them. That's what I had to do :(

[slatyb]

First tell them that you don't like it. If they won't stop, then spend a lot less time with them.

[Anonymous]

Ok, that's freaking weird.

[Anonymous]

Catfight💀

[In_Trance]

tell them to stfu