Husband called me fat while pregnant how do I handle it?

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been an underweight girl, at the moment I’m 13 weeks pregnant and have gained 5 pounds so far.

my husband has always been into skinnier women.

during The pregnancy I’ve dealt with a lot of nausea and throwing up. Yesterday while throwing up I was extremely bloated, I guess a lot of food is not agreeing with me while pregnant.

well my husband has made it a point to let me know that I’m looking huge and that my billy looks so big that maybe I’m just getting fat.

i pointed out to him that I’m pregnant and just bloated, so I would appreciate him being a little sensitive.

He has been butt hurt about it since yesterday and I honestly don’t know what to do, I most definitely don’t think me being bloated while pregnant or asking him to be sensitive about it is wrong of me

[jshm2]

You just go down the "why" route.

Keep saying "why" to every answer he gives concerning your weight or size. You basically want to know if he's not attracted to you because of your shape, or something else.

Chances are he's just being an asshole and doesn't know women's bodies change over time. But if he's looking to ditch you, then you want to know it sooner.

[Pyrofox]

Just point out if you were to be skinny at this point it'd probably starve the baby so make up his mind XD. Does he really need you to be your normal self or does he want the kid o... o and watch him try to swallow his tongue XD.

[Apple1996]

Thats really fucked up. By 13 weeks it's normal to have belly. Does he want the baby coming out underweight with issues? During pregnancy it's normal to gain about 30 pounds so he needs to get use to you gaining weight. At the end you gain a pound a week

[caitycat21]

Does he not know how pregnancy works ? You’re literally pregnant with his child and he has the nerve to complain about your weight - rethink the relationship, this man does not give a shit about you ⚠️

[AaronKrieger]

Why would he be butthurt about it? Either you left out details or he sounds manipulative. I think it's something to talk about in an open conversation. It's not to debate over it, but for you both to understand each other better.

[YesterdaysChild]

@AaronKrieger It's all in the details or lack of them.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think anyone would fault you for slapping him up side the head.

That is just mean.

[Sweetsurprize]

You're so lucky you found a guy at your age who wants to settle down and have kids. I'm almost 40 and omg it's been a nightmare finding him! I may just do it on my own at this rate!

[Spongebobssocks]

Tell him to be a real man or you'll find a real one to replace him with. He put the baby in you. If he doesn't want to be a real man then leave. You aren't a lesbian right?

[Little_Bumblebee]

My heart breaks every time I see these kinds of posts...

[YesterdaysChild]

5 pounds? That isn't enough to even be noticeable on a pregnant woman. What details have you left out? Is this even true?

[Huntingnfishin]

If he is still pouting after calling you fat then I think you should rethink who the man is in your relationship

[artgorgeous]

So he called the truth and you can't stand it? Just ignore. Why so many people are so 'sensitive' nowadays.

[lilithscandle]

He commented on something out of her control as if it's something she could fix. She doesn't need to fix it. She is pregnant, and eating for two. Not eating enough food for her and the fetus can lead to complications at birth.

[Sasha0426]

@artgorgeous You’re right! You look like a small dick fuckboy who’s probably still a virgin. Don’t get mad and sensitive now since I was being honest.

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 Why all women try to use the same plot to insult men? It's always a small dick, virgin, etc. You need to have more imagination but you dont even try.

[lilithscandle]

@artgorgeous all women use the same plot because it’s typically how it goes. The kind of people who make comments like yours are typically incels. Incels are self proclaimed virgins who hate women and while they see women as sexual beings, don’t respect them as humans.

[artgorgeous]

@lilithscandle So you made such deep and profound analysis just based on my comment? You know, you probably would be a good candidate for debates with Jordan Peterson. By the way, did you see any offence in my comment? "The kind of people who make comments like mine" - what is so bad about my comment that made you triggered and make such conclusions about what kind of person i am? The problem isn't in me, the problem is you - you just can't stand the discussion, but instead you start attacking and offend people to prove truth of yours. Its a typical behavior of a child who never heard "no" in their life.

[lilithscandle]

Your psychoanalysis of me is so incorrect. I wasn’t offended by anything, I was speaking generally and stated a fact about incels and why women have the same insults, “small dick, virgin, ugly reject”, because that’s the actual definition of incels. I don’t know if you’re an incel, i don’t know you. I only know the basis of your comment and how it can be interpreted. My “deep and profound analysis” had literally nothing to do with you, and I never insulted you nor portrayed being offended.

You simply asked a question, and I answered it. Moving on.

[artgorgeous]

@lilithscandle Ok, but what is wrong with a comment like "So he called the truth and you can't stand it? Just ignore. Why so many people are so 'sensitive' nowadays." What is wrong with this comment? Are you sure you're addressing me and not Sasha0426?

[Sasha0426]

I can see why no woman wants you. Not only is your dick TicTac size put you’re probably short. No woman wants a short guy that’s emotionally and mentally abused his partner by making them feel like shit.

[Sasha0426]

*but

[Sasha0426]

I’m sorry you feel insecure about your height size but you know what I said is true. And you can’t get mad at the truth 🤷‍♀️

[Sasha0426]

And if you really want me to kick it up a notch, I bet that’s not even you in your profile. You’re probably an ugly, fat, cratered face troll who lives in his mom’s basement. And the only friends you have are My Little Pony dolls and you masturbate to child pornography.

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 So you think 6'1 is a short height for men? I wonder how tall you are.

[Sasha0426]

I fucking doubt you’re 6’1, you fucking little ugly ass troll. I’m 5’5, so way taller than your 4ft ass.

[lilithscandle]

Why are you asking me? I just said you asked a question and i answered it. I’m not worried about Sasha0426.

I replied to you original comment and already told you the issue with the “truth”. I’m not surprised you even felt that way since men are less empathetic and less altruistic to begin with.

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 How much are you willing to bet? i am ready to bet right now $1k to prove that this is me on the photo. Whereas you will just pass and quietly remove your profile to not be embarrased.

[Sasha0426]

I ain’t removing shit 😂 I bet you call yourself a “nice guy” but your words say otherwise.

[Sasha0426]

The way you talk to women is the way you talk to your mother.

[Sasha0426]

Oh, but that’s ok because you’re “6’1” who makes “6 figures” and you’re such a “nice guy.” Am I right?

[Sasha0426]

And you think women should be honored to even have you in their presence. Typical stuck up asshole. Do us all a favor and NEVER reproduce. You’re that type of guy who would abuse his own partner.

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 I never told that i'm a nice guy. Women's fantasies as usual. You like to twist the words noone ever said. So, are you willing to bet $1k? How much you are ready to bet and lose? Don't switch the topic.

[Sasha0426]

Well, duh. I figured you weren’t nice by the way you treat women in general and your own family.
Oh boy. I really pissed you off 🤣 Well, to be fair, you did tell me to be imaginative. So I did. I don’t know what you’re so mad about and why you want to bet money with a stranger you don’t know.

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 You pissed me off? Its what you think, because you are willing to think so. Go through the conversation once again, and take a look again. Why i want to bet money? Because i am sure i'll win lol. Who doesn't want tax-free $1k? You can't piss off a person by just throwing rude words, it doesn't work like that. You just embarrass yourself, because you make yourself look like an idiot.

[Sasha0426]

Ok 🤷‍♀️

[artgorgeous]

@Sasha0426 That's what i thought. Never bet with a female. They'll always find an excuse.

[Sasha0426]

Wait, you wanted my money that badly? Yeesh didn’t know you were a scammer 😬 And all over your profile picture too.

[Sasha0426]

Good thing I didn’t accept.

[Sasha0426]

Your parents must be so proud of you as well.

[Anonymous]

I would be reconsidering the marriage. If this is what he says early in your pregnancy, I would hate to imagine how much more unsupportive he will become as the pregnancy progresses.

[lilithscandle]

Are you dating a child? What the hell is he butt hurt about? Jesus Christ.

[Surely]

Maybe you should remind him that he had a lot to do with your condition.

[Asker]

I did lol

[BarryLiverstone]

You are early into the pregnancy, does he see that much of a difference?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like somebody's a bit hormonal to me.🙄

[CrimsonAngel09]

Divorce his ass.

[exitseven]

You should shut him off until he apologizes.

[In_Trance]

how big is your Billy?

[Luckycharms12]

Is he stupid