How do you forget someone?

[Anonymous]

I was in an abusive relationship many years ago. I was doing ok for a couple years once everything calmed down (he stalks me and has other people report to him what I am doing). i moved over 2000 miles away to an entire new state. Felt like i had a fresh start and wasn't scared anymore. I felt free for once. I was off the radar. I dont ever want him to know where I am at. I deleted and cut ties with most of our friends who probably still talk to him. Anyways, I had to move back to our hometown for financial reasons. I got myself a good paying job now and i plan on working my ass off so i can move away in 5 years. He saw me riding my bike recently; therefore, he knows i was in town. I had a panic attack. I dont want to go backwards mentally, I've made good progress and moving away definitely made me a stronger person. I feel like me living here, feeling scared again is not good for me mentally and physically. I feel like i have to watch my back all the time. What can i do to help me mentally until I can afford to move far away? I wish i could just forget him and everything he has ever said to me. How can i forget?

[WaterIsland]

Wow. This is really sad to hear. I wish finances didn’t impact people this severely.


Sadly there is no silver bullet here. Focus on yourself. Take whatever action you need to stay safe and healthy. And work to move back to a more stable situation.


The busier you can stay and the more things you can focus on besides that situation, the better off you’ll be.


I’d be working as many side jobs as possible to earn enough to move out again.


I wish I had more advice to give. It’s not easy to move on especially when bad memories surface again. And it isn’t likely something you’ll ever completely forget. But you’ve used it to create a better life for yourself. You can get back there. I know you can. Stay strong. Stay positive. And you’ll get there. Don’t give up.


If you ever need someone to talk to or anything, my messages are open. Absolutely no pressure, but just know that you aren’t alone. You got this!

[Asker]

I appreciate it. thank you

[LiamSawyer]

Difficultly if you loved them.