I'm depressed.. Any ideas what I can do to fix this?

[SillyMari]

So I'm in a deep state of depression i would say.. Constantly just crying over my hair for 2 days now.. I cut it very short and I hate it..

I'm don't wanna wait 1 or 2 years for it grow back to shoulder length again..

Any ideas to fix this mistake? Any ideas to make myself not as sad?

I just.. Feel like a failure who fucked up so big that.. i don't know..

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, there's hair extensions, wigs, hair styles that'll make it LOOK like you needed more hair to pull it off, even though you don't have that much.
I know just how you feel!! Back in June of `89, my ex-sister was getting married to an asshole and I protested the wedding. (I kinda cared about her back then. Now, she can jump off a skyscraper, for all I care!!) Mom insisted that I get my hair cut for the wedding! At that point, it was past my shoulders. Any time she cut it, she'd give me one of those goofy dickhead shaped disco hair cuts!! I kept telling her not to worry about my hair because I'm NOT going to the wedding!! She INSISTED that I am and that I'm getting my hair cut!!
A day or two before the wedding, she made me get my hair cut! I kept telling her that if she cuts my hair, I'm gonna shave it all off!! She cut it and, after she went to bed that night, I got my razor and shaved my head bald!! The next day, she got a look at my chrome dome and started crying!! Lol!! Then she threatened NOT to LET me go to the wedding with my head like that!! I told her, I had NO intention of going ANYWAY!! After the wedding, all the relatives came over to the house for a swim and dinner and, as soon as they saw me, they wanted to know why I didn't go to the wedding. I told them mom wouldn't let me go with my cue ball look and they said, "Oh, who cares? You should've come, anyway!!" So, the joke was entirely on mom!!
But, as soon as I started shaving it, I started crying about it but said, it's too late, now! I started it, I HAVE to finish it!
The day after the wedding, my band was playing an afternoon gig. I knew a couple girls that I'd just spent a few weeks living with and one had this very curly black wig that almost looked like a huge afro. I asked her if I could borrow it and she let me. On the way to the gig, I wore the wig, a very colourful dashiki, sun glasses and short shorts. While waiting for my second bus to get to the gig, there was some woman standing at the bus stop and she started out kinda close to me and I saw her, out of the corner of my eye, moving away from me as I took a small side step towards her. I wasn't TRYING to scare her, I just felt like changing how & where I was standing. As soon as I made that move, she moved away from me about a foot. Just to see if I was the reason she was moving away, I decided to move a bit closer to her and, again, she moved away from me!! Lol. I doubt she would've done so had I not had the wig on.
I got to the gig, set up my drums and played our two hours of the show. At the end of our last song, I was gonna stand up and pull off the wig. So, we finished the last song, Bob (singer) walked off "stage" into the back room behind my drums and never saw the reveal! But, everyone else did! They thought it was hilarious! My guitarist (the one in the video thumbnail) went back stage to get Bob and tell him what I did. Bob stepped out front, took a look at me and said, "Whachoo do to yo haid!!
Well, anyway, this is me about a year later.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/n2Xp-b9Yp8M

So, seeing as how you didn't cut it ALL off, like I did, chances are, yours will be shoulder length in about a year, not 2 or 3 years. Maybe even by Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Have a believer lay hands on your hair and pray for instant growth. My friends only grew a few inches but it was instant and on each further hand placement, it grew further. But better yet, fully invite Jesus into your life and discover what you've been missing as I did. Most have no idea the lengths the enemy has gone through to keep you from this relationship...

[IslaTheWitch]

it's not the last wrong decision you made in your life. Rather, try to focus on dealing with it and finding your strategies. It will be useful in the future.

as you mentioned, hair grows, and I don't think you need to wait two years. Probably in a few months, you will be happier.

it already happened, so crying won't change a thing. If you don't like your hair now, look for a bandana or any hat you will want to wear until your hair has a length that matches your needs

[sheikalana]

Your hair is not going to take 1-2 years to grow back unless you did a pixie cut. Spend a few months without cutting your hair and you should see a big difference soon. In the mean time keep your hair in a ponytail or bun.

[SillyMari]

It's a tad shorter than a pixie...

[sheikalana]

Still I'm hopeful is not going to take that long to grow. Why did you cut it that short?

[SillyMari]

I thought it would look good and be better for the extreme heat we usually have here in spring and summer.
I was wrong on extreme levels, as I look awful and I oddly feel hotter..

[sheikalana]

Be patient. You'll be fine. You can wear a bunch of stylish hats and bold earrings now.

[Mr_twoface]

Maybe get extensions or wigs? Go to a salon and ask them what can be done for it to look the way you want. Maybe they will give you another consideration and it will cheer u up.

Sorry to hear that you are not satisfied and its given you depression! Hang in their! Sending you virtual hugs!

[SillyMari]

It's at a length where there not enough hair for extensions.. You can almost see my scalp... o_o

[Levin]

Sounds like you're thinking the worst.

It's probably not as bad as you think.

It'll probably grow back quicker than you think, and that extra little bit of month to month growth will make it look a lot better already.

You just need to chill, man. What's done is done.

I'd also say maybe this is kneading some deeper feelings that you have about something? Explore those.

You will be fine. Chu got this girl.

[JacobJordan]

Do something that makes you happy. Yeah you made a mistake but it will grow back and as we approach summer your hair will grow a bit faster so take a deep breath you will be fine. I know it feels like the world is ending but you will get through this.

[DryGermanGuy]

If it's between crying for two years and getting a wig... get the wig. I have no idea what you were trying to achieve there, though. The last woman I witnessed doing something drastic like this, had a mental breakdown beforehand.

[SillyMari]

I just thought it would look good and be cooler.. But noo.. It looks horrible.. Looks like a living nightmare.. :(

[OddBeMe]

Well… could a mix. I have chemical issues in the brain. So pills help that.


Then they are environmental issues. My parents were a source of toxicity. Cut them out of my life.


Also a therapist got me thinking better myself. We are naturally so anti-us it’s sickening.

[strateguy632]

you are sad for a reason that differs from depression. comfort yourself that it will grow back.

[Unit1]

so you have DEPRESSion.

you know there are antiDEPRESSants out there, right?

It's right in the name.

[Ani_Axiom]

Look at a video of a burn victim doing her makeup. Her much greater misfortune will make you feel better about your self-induced one.

[Anonymous]

Are there any other reasons for your depression except for the hair?

[Anonymous]

If it makes you feel better I went balled and got depressed

[OtterMan68]

counseling
exercise
meditation
prayer

[swettannie]

wear some wig?

[Sam12348]

Being around nature helps me a lot

[NathanDavis]

therapy

[Anonymous]

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