I'm depressed. What can I do? Please help?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy on social media but he's not been texting me for a few days. Whereas we used to talk every day and i'm feeling sad. I'm attached to him right now. I think about him all day. I'm crying continuously. I can't think of anyone else but him... Is this love or obsession? Pls helppp😭😭😭😭

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. From what you've said, it sounds like you may be experiencing obsessive thoughts and behaviors rather than actual love. A few things that could help:

- Try distracting yourself with other activities like hanging with friends, watching a funny show, working out - anything to get your mind off him for a bit.

- Remember that you just met this guy online - you don't truly know him that well yet. It's normal to feel interested, but try not to define your self-worth based on his actions.

- Consider limiting or taking a break from contact if talking to him is making your feelings stronger. Give yourself space to gain perspective.

- Let friends/family you trust know how you're feeling so they can offer support. Don't bottle it up.

- Do things each day to validate yourself - good habits, hobbies you enjoy, acts of self-care. Remind yourself of your own worth.

- If the low mood persists, talk to a counselor. They can help identify unhealthy patterns and give coping strategies.

You've got this! I know it's hard, but you owe it to yourself to start moving on and feeling better. This too shall pass - stay strong, girl! Let me know if an extra distraction or shoulder is needed.

[katelynbrown123]

in my opinion you seem like you are infatuated with a person online that you have never met in real life. I know because I used to deal with similar feelings towards guys I would always see all the time at certain places even though we had never spoken. I once wasted 5 years of my life being obsessed and delusional about a guy who was older than me and literally waited until I was 18 so I would be legal for him but nothing ever happened and still never spoke. Once I actually started focusing on myself and not worrying about guys all time it gave me a sense of my own individuality and what I could accomplish on my own. Come a couple years later I met my now still current boyfriend when I wasn't looking for it and we have been 5 years happy now. I'm not saying just get over it because I understand we are all have humans and have feelings. Just don't be like me and waste your life away chasing after a guy when you know things are not going to workout but still have little thoughts in your head that it might. I would never tell you that easier said than done stuff because people who haven't been in situations like this don't really understand. Whatever you need to do to get through it in your own time and nobody else's. Honestly if you feel you like him just send him another text honestly about how you feel and see where it goes from there. If he does not respond for a longer time after that you deserve to find a better person. I know you will find the right person for you one day! Good luck! Sending love and hugs!

[DishLady]

You may have to unattached from him if he’s ghosting you like that!

[Asker]

Dammit i can't think of anyone else but him...😒 actually he told me he worked 12 hours a day. Also he sings. He often goes to a set of music video. But it's obvious that his priority isn't me...😒

[Asker]

However we weren't even flirting.

[Asker]

And he hasn't been active for days

[DishLady]

He’s lost whatever interest he had. You can try waiting perhaps three more days but it’s not healthy for you to be too clingy with someone you don’t know.

[Iron_Man]

Find a way or have somebody contact him speak from the heart when you get a hold of him meanwhile, if you need help go to a counselor and if you tell me, you can’t afford it there’s special deals out there for real cheap

[Asker]

Oh we weren't even flirting🙄 but i'm obsessed with him now😭 he doesn't even seem online. I'm afraid of texting him cuz once i texted a guy and he ignored me😭

[Iron_Man]

Get your best shot you have to try

[Asker]

I've never seen him in real life but why am i obsessed with him🥲

[Iron_Man]

It depends what you have talked about how long have you talked to him every day and how long have you known him?

[Asker]

I've been knowing him for almost 2 weeks. When we talked every day, we only talked a few sentences. He was telling me he was so busy related to his job🥲

[Iron_Man]

That’s nothing at all. That’s not enough time spent to get attached and you hardly talked.

[Iron_Man]

Find another guy he’s busy he’s not interested

[Iron_Man]

This never worked out from day one

[Asker]

Yeah it's very early. But i'm crying 🤦🏻‍♀️ on the downside I don't wanna talk to another guy😭 it hurts my heart..

[Iron_Man]

Talk to your parents you hardly knew him

[Asker]

He told me he worked 12 hours a day also he sings. He goes to a set of music video. Maybe he's really busy but it's obvious that his priority isn't me😏😏

[Anonymous]

I also talk to online male friend. He always texted me first but for 3 days he stopped texting first. Then he texted again and was frustrated with me that i do not text him first. I think u should text him once

[Asker]

But on the downside, he's not been active for a few days. I really dunno why so. I'm afraid of texting him cuz once i texted a guy. However he ignored me😭

[Opinion Owner]

maybe he is busy nowdays. and do not be dependent on others for your happiness. learn to enjoy your own company.

[Asker]

He told me he worked 12 hours a day also he goes to a set of music video. He sings. Maybe he really can't find time🙄 apparently his priority isn't me🥲 but now he's my priority. Cuz i'm thinking about him and crying😏😒

[Opinion Owner]

you should stop giving importance to other people. if you won't love yourself then who will. and please do not fall in love online. it's easy beacuse u imagine him being perfect but he is just normal person. try improving your self esteem and do not cry for people who do not value you equally

[Pennywise_6]

He is clearly pulling away.
Leave it and move with your life. The world doesn't have a shortage of men, you can find another.