Depressed over height please help. Do short guys even have a chance?

[curious621]

I'm 5'6 just about, closer to 5'7 with shoes. Growing up I got the odd height comment here or there but mainly from guys. I've been pretty depressed over it for the past few days and what makes it more depressing is that you're almost always the shortest guy in the room. When I read crap about how taller guys only have to put in 10% of the effort that short guys do and that most women disregard them straight off the bat. It hurts because it's not my fault I didn't choose to be a short. I still remember a comment from my brother's friend 'Wow you're small, I thought you'd be taller' I just laughed it off at the time but then reading all these posts about how women feel about short guys gets to you. I think it happens more when I meet someone my brother knows because he's a bit younger than me but he's 5'10 so people expect me to be the same height or taller. I've only started caring about height since a year or two. It makes it sound like manlets can only get get undesirable women. Yet at the same time I don't feel like in a day to day setting I've been discriminated because of it.

I'm 21 so I think I'm done growing. It's more worrying because you can't change height at least not if you don't want some doctor to hammer away at your legs. I still notice that I'm taller than half the women in public but then you have to factor in heels. I don't know what it is tbh it's just that some of the comments on reddit and the misc got to me, its like my brain changes every time I read something like that, like I get a deep sinking feeling. So if I've had a negative experience before I wouldn't attribute it to anything but now having read some stories I'd think it's because of my height somewhere in the back of my mind. I've rarely seen people shorter than me and thought that if I was 5'4 or something I don't know what I'd do, in fact I don't know what to do right now.

Just look at these some these girls who aren't even model material.

[Bvroon]

I'm short, about 5'2 or 5'3 I have been all my life, there is really nothing I can do about it, and while it would be nice if I were taller, the fact remains I'm not. So rather than being angry about it, I just deal with it. I have found that being myself and being comfortable with that is the best way to put others (even ladies) at ease, and while I'm certain I'm not the most prolific dater, (I'm presently married) I have been with a pretty broad spectrum of women, some short some not. My point is while not all of the relationships worked, it didn't seem to me that the reason those didn't work was based on my height. I have also found that if I make fun of my own height, it seems to help defuse any other sort of issues around that. I can laugh about it, and honestly I prefer it that way. I am who I am, I can't waste any more of my time worrying about things I can't change.

[Vanjasper]

Best thing you can do is stop feeling depressed, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Play the cards life has dealt you as best you can. Start working on your confidence, learn how to project confidence. Not arrogance, mind. At 5'6/5'7 you'll handle the majority of women. In a room full of people, it's never the tallest that stands out, it's the confident one. Being confident and happy with your lot, your personality becomes attractive. Women will look up to you, even taller guys will.
As for women in high heels, if they can do it, so can you. Get some shoes that add height. Tom Cruise does it, he's 5'6 at best and no shortage of women chasing after him.
I'm 5'7 in me bare feet, my girlfriend is at lest 3'' taller than me. Do we care? Not one bit. And no one makes any remarks!!!

[RJGraveyTrain]

I prefer a guy to be taller if I'm talking about ideals - but I've also been fully attracted to a guy who was also your height. Preference doesn't equate to "you must be this tall to ride."

What's worse than a guy being short is a guy letting it determine how he feels about himself. You said it yourself: you didn't choose to be short, and you can't change the fact that you're short. Time to accept it, work on the good physical traits you have and just find confidence. Will there be girls who might reject you for being too short? Probably - but that's life. Some people can't help that they're ugly by societies standards, they didn't choose that either but you probably wouldn't date them either.

Tis' life.

[estoydorado1]

Wow, they'd rather an ugly, boring, 6'5 guy than a 5'7", attractive, fun 1? I'm 5'2 and have been attracted to people my height before (although I was shorter the last time I was crushing on a 5'2" guy).
This height thing is getting crazy. The fact that women feel "protected" by taller guys is confusing to say the least. If his limbs are a mile long then all a smaller guy has to do is get in his space and start swinging. Height also means that the taller guy's center of gravity is higher than a shorter guy's which means the taller man is easier to knock over in a lot of cases.

[SomeRandomDudeOnline]

What is "reach advantage?" If a short guy actually does get inside, a swift knee to their face works very well.

[George111]

@SomeRandomDudeOnline A girl with logic at last. Your knee dude can't do shit most of you are lanky and weak as fuck. You may fool 15 year old girls and 20 year old stupid ones but not most men that work out and see how useless you are hidding behind the cm and when things get hard throw the insecurity card. If someone grabs you good luck moving your feet..

[Anonymous]

It's true that plenty of women have issues with dating guys who are shorter than them. But like you said, you are still taller than most girls so I really don't think it's a problem at all. What might be a problem is you overthinking it. Just don't try to compensate it with false confidence and you'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Wow when you said short I thought maybe like 5 feet. I was thinking honestly yes I would have trouble finding a 5ft guy attractive. Then I read you're 5'6, was thinking wow thats not even bad. Id personally be fine with it. But I am short, I am 5'1. Perhaps thats why I am okay with it.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

No, you're pretty much hosed. Life isn't fair. Women are still following the instincts and mating strategy that they used in the Ice Age, and that includes height requirements.

Maybe you'll find a girl that likes short guys, but I'd just concentrate on enjoying your hobbies and not put any time and energy into women.

[LordXzythos]

yeah, listen to him ^

[Scott9]

Where I live (Vancouver, BC, Canada), you basically have to be 6' and up for the line share of the women here that would otherwise date me. Luckily I manage due to the amount of foreigners here.

Go to Asia, problem solved. They are often much less caught up on height and the other superficial stuff the women here would never admit to.

[JohnDoe3000]

Height matters somewhat (but a handsome face is much more important, for example), but as a 6' guy I can tell you >90% of your rejections/her-not-noticing-you come from reasons other than your height. You're just mostly limited to girls up to 5'6", which is probably the majority of them anyway.

[ChocEyes1]

I'm as tall as you are and never had any problems. 90% of the time, girls are the ones who take iniciative with me. At work, at the gym, at clubs, in public. Especially because I don't chase girls, I'm chill as fuck.

Look, I'm not saying that to be cocky, just to let you know the real world is different from what those stupid internet forums say.

[Ssr1368]

Relax. I am 5.7 and happy af. That's irrelevant, really. I just arrived from having dinner with a 5.4 girl. On Saturday I met a gorgeous and brilliant 5.2 girl. Just for the record. Stop worrying and enjoy your life ;)

[Anonymous]

Bro i think it plays a very small part in atrracting women as half of the girls are still shorter than you and many are like 5 foot only i can give you my example i am tall myself but not good with girls theyjust say that i am tall but they are not at all attracted to me just stay confident and i have seen tons of guys your height even shorter with hottest girls groom yourself properly go to gym and be fit and tone your body believe me girls will find you attractive good luck bro👍👍👍😊😊😊

[Opinion Owner]

I just saw the video bro don't think too much about it its just few girls only there are many girls in the world and a girl should like you for what you are not your height best of luck😊

[JCT666]

Well, your pool of potential girls is going to be a lot smaller than a tall guy's potential dating pool and always will be. So if you want to do serious dating, you're going to have to work very hard to achieve that.

[curious621]

So you're saying it's near impossible?

[JCT666]

Not entirely. It just won't be easy. I'm 5'6, so I know exactly what I'm talking about.

[curious621]

I never expected it to be easy. It's just odd because I hear some people like you say it's very hard but then others who are the same height like 5'6 say that it can be overcome by lifting and improving social skills. They say it's harder but not something that you'd need to put extreme amount of work into. But stuff like going gym I don't count as extreme work

[Maddie_Kay]

If you want an honest answer, I find it attractive when guys are taller than me, as most women do.

[curious621]

But wouldn't 5'6 still be taller than most women?

[sparkdog]

How tall are you?

[JHAYES317]

Well then should short men just become priests and take a vow of celibacy then?

[AlwaysBelieving]

You're fine dude. I'm 5'4" and I LOVE my height. Though I wish that I were a little bit taller, I'm good. I'd date a gal that's about 5'8" or so since I'd want to be able to kiss her when the feeling struck me.

[Unit1]

Pretty much you are handicapped. But on the bright side you filter out the shallow women, who like only care about height like some shallow guys only care about looks.

[Nightinggale]

Yes you still have a chance. Height is important to most women obviously, but I've seen short dudes get women too. Work on your confidence and that will help tremendously

[Kayyy1027]

never pay attention to what women say. pay attention to actions. if she's interested she's already taken your height into account.

[rjroy3]

If you're short you just have to have a little more attitude lol

[Anonymous]

of course. if we only consider height, they'll have less chances, but they'll still have chances. and you're not so short.

[bThatGirl]

I don't think that height really matters in something like this. I think that it depends on your personality. Although some girls probably find it attractive like Maddie_Kay. I don't think it matters

[Nahid1234]

i am almost 19 years old and i am short. i want to be taller.🙍‍♂️🙂🙃😔😢😭🤦‍♂️

[almadafie]

I was at my best with girls when I was 5'7, it's tall enough

[Anonymous]

Most ladies don't want to have short manlets as children. It's instinctual.. even if they aren't thinking about it.

[MarcusBorino]

I would date girls taller than me!

[kelly_coward]

No one cares and no

[timesplittersxsxd]

Just ignore this vile creature asker, she is a nasty ugly drug addict troll who wants putting down.