People say I will not get girls as how I look, what y'all think?

[TheSpectre]

Good afternoon, friends! In the last 5 months, I managed to lose weight from 130 kilos to 110 kilos (or 282 lbs to 246 lbs).

I am 1 meter and 80 cm (or 5'11) tall and have a wide body that has been God's gift to me since infancy. Even when I was a child, I was like that but, I was not neither too overweight or too thin, but after corona, I got a lot of extra weight.

But then I said it can't go on like this. I applied to a dietitian. I took help and now I am happy about my health and with myself again, I have finally made peace with myself and I continue on this path (careful eating and exercise). The last time i checked i was 112.7 kilos yesterday, thanks to the awesome and delicious barbecue.. CHEAT DAY BABY! 😅🤣😋

But while I continue like this, most people come to me and say that i cannot and will not find a girl with this physique and appearance.

What do you think? Do you think I can, even if just a little? I just want honest answers.

You may look at my profile pic for how i look, weirdly, GaG doesn't let me add photos here due to gallery permission denial...

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

you have some interesting attractive features to your face

your body is fine. nobody cares about your body

they care about your face and your brain and your johnson

ok so here's my advice. "be who you are"... and what i mean by that is
see yourself in the mirror and be that person. Know who that person is and just accentuate the features you have

from what i can see your most interesting features are your hair eyebrows eyes and smile
i would try to make all that work to your advantage.

add in some nice clean stylish clothes a good attitude, maybe some money? and you're good to go

[TheSpectre]

Yeah that works. I always wear fresh clothes, maybe 2-days old max clothes if i am away from home or something. Other than that, always trying my best to stay fresh and clean.

I dont work yet so it might be a problem. No money no girls. Guh. 😅

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

confidence is what i was trying to get at. i guess i was trying to tell you how to get there. but yeah confidence is a major factor after they have noticed you

money helps by allowing you to just go do whatever it is you want to do
avoid gold diggers

[TheSpectre]

Hmmm... Yeah. Confidence too. I forgot about that. Well i do have the confidence but then it suddenly disappear due to having second thoughts.

Yeah been there done that.
One of the girls was like, give me 10 bucks and i will kiss you.

I was like HELL NO! 🤣

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

confidence is a skill
you need to practice it to develop its strength

think of it as similar to speech
practice speech in front of the mirror
but then notice how its different when you're talking in front of others

practice your confidence
practice it in front of others, and study how you act.
practice confidence purposefully with intent, just like how you do exercise workouts
know when you are doing it
study yourself
watch your improvements

if you maintain focus on your confidence it will develop stronger and wider

its going to be an array of tasks
from learning about yourself, to learning about others
to accepting yourself, to accepting others.

confidence is very similar to wisdom

if you "know" you are the best chess player in the room, then you are "confident" that you are the best chess player

so with experience comes wisdom and with wisdom comes confidence

and the best way to get experience is to do shit
so be brave! and experiment! good luck bro!

[Billlewis]

I think they're crazy. At a shade under 6' and at 240 something pounds, I you sound like the prototype for exactly what many women are looking for nowadays. I'm going to start following you, and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well, Sir. Thanks very much.

[TheSpectre]

Hmm i dont know Bill.
Seems i am NOT the prototype they are looking for. 😢

[Billlewis]

The only thing that separates you from your dreams is your perception of yourself. If you decide that you're a badass, and that even the most attractive women would be fortunate to date you, they'll be lining up for a chance at being seen in public with you. Don't believe me? Try it.

[TheSpectre]

I dont know... I ain't in any women's league.

[electromagnetic]

Congratulations on the weight loss keep it up.
I don’t rate ‘how do I look’ questions. I’m just here to congratulate you on the work you put in.

[TheSpectre]

Thank you, i appreciate it.

[TheSpectre]

I am between you two girls about giving the MHO but i am giving it to laly520. No hard feelings, yeah?

[electromagnetic]

lol. I don’t care about MHO. But thanks for the consideration.

[laly520]

u look fine n in my opinion u could pull a girl
just focus more on keeping ur self esteem high

[TheSpectre]

Why thank you so much.

[TheSpectre]

I was between only two girls about giving the MHO but i am giving it to you. Hope she does not feel hard feelings.

[laly520]

thanks ^^

[Truthatanycost]

Knowing how to build attraction is what will make the most difference providing you are healthy.

[Kreneman]

Nowadays, there's always somebody for somebody meaning women of today have changed dramatically whereas any type of guys can get a woman especially a hot woman. Dating can still be hard but at the same time you really don't have to try so hard like it was over 20 years ago. You have great height, your weight is not really problem as long as you have a good average figure, and if you use wisdom in your talking game, you will pulled a woman forsure.

[exitseven]

You're doing great. More important, you are gaining confidence, a win win.