Would I be an exception?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Since I'm not capable of having babies and I decide to get my tubes tied or removed, would they allow me to at 25+ or would I have to wait until 30? Or since I'm not ever suppose to be pregnant, they might make an exception for a young woman like me?

[integrale77]

Surely if your not capable of having babies then why have the plumbing removed if it doesn't work already.

Seems like a lot of inconvenience for the same result.

My definition of not being capable of having babies is not able to get pregnant unless you have a different concept?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

My case is not mentally capable.

[integrale77]

And what does mentally capable have to do with having a baby surely the body is fully capable.

The only mental aspect to having a baby is the caring for one after you have given birth?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It has to do with everything. Pregnancy is very stressful, scary, hormonal, emotional, etc. for a woman. Even through the birthing process it can be. If being pregnant with a baby would cause me too much stress, then neither the birthing process and caring for it would be any better. I wouldn't even be able to keep the baby since I cannot care for it. And there's no guarantee they'd get a good home either, that's something that can't be promised with adoption places.

[integrale77]

So basically your saying he idea of getting pregnant is stressful and you think being pregnant would make you distressed.
However this doesn't stop you from carrying a baby and giving birth i. e. you don't feel capable of having babies however your probably physically capable.

I assume you've never been pregnant so your making a number of assumptions based on what others have said. However how you feeling now might not be how you feel forever so taking a drastic choice so young could be regretted later.

Speak to a doctor maybe they could offer a more suitable alternative like a copper coil (no unnecessary hormones and 100% effective).

[dolemite58]

If you try to do anything like that before the age of 30 they make you jump through so many god damn hoops it’s insane, they’ll make you see a psychologist even. I asked about having a vasectomy when I was in my 20’s once and it’s like they want to discourage you from even considering it.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

In other words: the psychologist is the one that has to say and tell them "This patient doesn't have the mental capability of having & caring for babies. So, you need to give them it." Correct?

[dolemite58]

No more like this person is sane enough to understand the long term repercussions of a procedure that stops your reproductive abilities. I just don’t like how much they want everybody to be like cattle just cranking out children like there’s nothing else in life.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

That makes more sense.

[Apple1996]

There will always be a doctor that will do it. I've been asked multiple times if I wanted it done but I already have kids so maybe it's a bit different when you don't

[weebbutt]

If you're not capable I'm not sure why you would get them tied...

Either way, I don't think they have an age minimum for that other than adult

[PBandJ_Nerd]

To stop me from getting pregnant of course.

[weebbutt]

By not capable you just meant you aren't like behaviorally capable not physically capable I see

[NathanDavis]

hmmm...

capable or able to get pregnant? to develop babies? to birth a baby? to raise a baby?

it seems like something's missing here... details, that is... very specific context

[NathanDavis]

although, in either case... this is something you should be discussing with a professional in medicine

not to wonderful collective genius of G@G, lol

[PBandJ_Nerd]

No doubt I'd be able to get pregnant. Pregnancy, birthing, and abortion would all be traumatizing for me, so I'd rather not go through any of the three. Ever.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yeah, I know. Just didn't know if there was anyone like me or if anyone has heard such a case before. As doctors can't use the argument of "Oh, she'll change her mind." Since not being capable of taking care of babies is pretty much a hard no for any pregnancies.

[NathanDavis]

it seems to me like, yes... this is something you need to speak with doctors and therapists too

if any of this involves or can bring a trauma, it needs to be discussed with professionals and true care

[Agape93]

You can get it done. It'll be hard and a lot of states and doctors will lie and say you can't yet, but you can. I got a partial hysterectomy done in late 2019.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

My m9m told me my tubes being tied would be the best option for me. Since it's less risky and my body can still get periods. But pregnancy is still just 1% I believe.

[Agape93]

Nothing wrong with that, I lost my periods years ago lol but I also can't change my mind either. Never will but still

[OlderAndWiser]

Not capable of conceiving or not capable of carrying a baby to full term?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Not mentally capable

[OlderAndWiser]

Why would you need a tubal ligation? Why not just go with an implant contraceptive?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Because it's permanent. Slice, snip, sew and done (well, we know it's more than that). It only takes one operation and it's done. No need getting anything replaced. I'd basically be saving money by getting one, and if I don't have a period anymore then that's a bit more money saved.

[OlderAndWiser]

A tubal ligation will not affect your menstrual cycle.

my.clevelandclinic.org/.../4933-tubal-ligation

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why would you want to do that tho, is there's some form of health risk you are currently at that is pushing you to do so?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

So that way I don't have any risk of pregnancy. Since I'm not mentally capable, what would be the point of having my body being able to bear babies? It'd just be best to make it zero or 1% chance permanently. And so that way if I have any future partners that are male, I wouldn't have to worry about that risk since it'd be nonexistent. Plus, by the time I'm capable of having any kids I'd probably be an old lady by then (or at an age where going through pregnancy is very dangerous for the body). I mean, I doubt I'll have any but there's always an option to adopt a teen in the future. And they can live with me for however long they want even when they become an adult since they've never had a mom before.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Is there a reason you've all of a sudden decide to consider this, kinda weird, although if that's the decision you wanna make, you do you, personally I think you shouldn't, always having that door open to the idea of children in case the slim chances you get baby fever sounds like a good idea even if it doesn't end up being useful, I think it's something you should definitely think hard on, a big part of womanhood is wielding the gifted ability to make babies, just sharing a perspective.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

By the time I'm mentally capable of having kids, I probably would be 40+ and that's not ideal for pregnancy. At that point might as well adopt. Not just that but I really don't want to go through abortion. And with the way those laws are getting, I could be forced to carry a baby even if I can't & shouldn't. I find birth control scary so I won't be taking that stuff. If anything, I'll end up avoiding having a male partner due to just me knowing he can get me pregnant and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it. I'm not married or anything and I won't be having kids anytime soon. I'll be working on getting myself situated and out into the world for the rest of my 20s and my 30s. I'll have no time for a baby, I have to know how to care for myself and stuff first. Like I said, adoption is always open and I wouldn't care if the teen isn't biologically mine. They just need a good home and parents and everything. Not every woman should have a baby. Especially if we know we aren't capable of it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't think anyone really lacks the capacity of raising children, no matter if you are abused, tortured, bullied, etc. it's all about choices and how you make them and we all naturally know right and wrongs, if teens that haven't had their life settled have accomplished doing so I'm sure you can too, now it's fine if you aren't in the proper state of mind for it but the thing is that can change and if it does which the chances can be high depending on things, then you might make a mistake that you might regret if you for example ever find yourself in a place where you have a good husband, have a good foundation financially and y'all are ready to spice things up more, you can be cutting a rope that might be carrying many beautiful opportunities for you, you willing to make this decision to prevent bringing a child you don't believe you can take care of already shows you are willing to take big jumps, you are already thinking about a baby you don't even have, I think you should sleep on this and think about it deeply cause you don't seem to be at the proper state of mind and for some reason I believe it has nothing to do with children.

[WilliamPamer446]

what do you mean "allow you" to? its your life

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Believe it or not, some doctors will refuse to do it on people in their 20s. Why? Because of the old "you might regret it" bingo. Thankfully for me, I have found a doctor that is ok with doing it on young people, I will be seeing her today (request for bisalp). Quite a coincidence that today is the consultation and I get your comment. Lol But I have my folder with my reasons and whatnot, so it makes it easier for me to communicate. I have been anxiously waiting for this day since last month, but now I'm confident I'll get my surgery before Medicaid is taken away. I really do need this bisalp, it'll protect me as a disabled individual (to an extent).