Help coping physically and mentally?

[Anonymous]

24/7 I am in pain, of some sort or another. Pelvic Floor Tension, Vaginismus, Vulvodynia, Dysmenorrhea, IBS-M, Migraines (when bad Nausea & Vomiting), Insomnia (when Vulvodynia, IBS-M, & Migraines are bad), Kyphosis, Hypothyroidism, & Heartburn. The ones that affect me most often/worst are: Vulvodynia, IBS-M, Migraines, Vaginismus, PFT, & Insomnia. Most of the time they flare up at the same time. If I'm lucky, 5/7 days I'll only have Vulvodynia, IBS-M, & PFT pain. Only my boyfriend knows because I told him when he asked why I kept rushing to the 🚽 🤢/🤮/🩸/💩. I am very independent & confident, I conceal my pain/feeling like sh💩t well due to having a high pain tolerance, (+ I hate showing weakness). But it's exhausting & debilitating mentally/physically. Physical symptoms cause mental stress that exasterbates physical symptoms more leading to the rise in frequency & escalation of condition's symptoms severity & pain level intensity. Seems to just continue getting worse & worse, day by day, neverending. (I like my job, & in a decade, I stayed home from work once due to cough, COVID test was negative, I felt well enough to work, but she told me to stay home just in case.) Lately have had several mornings almost contacting manager to call in/cancel due to how bad it's gotten. To the point it's the first time I actually wanted to go to Doctor for my symptoms/pain I have had from these conditions for the last 20 years.🥺

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sis, I can't even imagine dealing with all that pain every single day. You're so strong for still powering through, but it's totally understandable why you're burning out too. A few things that may help:

- Gentle yoga or stretches when it's bearable - listen to your body but movement can help.

- Ice/heat packs, a hot bath, or even just lying down to rest weary muscles may provide temporary relief.

- Talk to your doctor frankly about how bad it's getting. Ask about a pain management plan - PT, meds, anything to take the edge off.

- Be honest with your boss if you need accommodations or sick time. They'll understand health comes first.

- Open up to your boyfriend for comfort and distractions when the mental toll gets heavy. Lean on loved ones.

Most importantly, don't be so hard on yourself. This is clearly impacting your quality of life, so prioritize your wellbeing over being "strong". Small acts of self-care add up. You deserve compassion and rest. I hope you start feeling even a little better soon - you've endured more than your share of struggle already. You've got this sis!

[Daniela1982]

I would say go to the hospital and check yourself in if it is getting worse. You are never going to be healed the way you are going now. Have your boyfriend take you. It may only get worse if you don't, so don't wait until you are stage 4 with something. Do it like yesterday!

[Asker]

I don't have good insurance, and he works 6/7 days a week and lives about an hour away, and I am no millionaire and don't have a car.

[Daniela1982]

Just take a bus or call an ambulance. The ambulance will be the most expensive option. One would probably cost you $1500.