How do you live a decent life borderline personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

I've been diagnosed with it since I was 18. Very violent and loveless family life. I have a hard time with relationships, do I don't have any. I have fair weather friends. No one I would really open up to. I really don't go out much. I'm on social security, but I did earn a bachelor's degree while on it. How do I live a decent life with BPD? It's going to be there forever and I know no one will ever understand that I'm not dangerous. There's the stigma with BPD that we're dangerous and violent. I'm not either. I don't tell anyone I have it. It just seems that it makes your life completely unbearable and you're never going to be stable.

[petitedollbabee]

Therapy has been the biggest thing that improved my life. I was diagnosed at 20, but prior to that I’d tried many medications and found them all to make my symptoms worse, so I stopped taking them. But I found an amazing therapist who helped me, I was doing regular sessions with her for 9 years, and these days even though I don’t see her anymore due to her retiring, the help that she gave me is engraved into my brain. I no longer struggle with most of the symptoms that I used to. Im able to maintain healthy relationships and friendships. I don’t struggle with intense mood swings, and when they do occasionally happen, I know how to redirect myself and calm down. I have no interest in self harm or un-aliving myself anymore. Life is good and is worth living.


It’s an ass of a condition. And people hate on it so much. They generalise us to be violent, manipulative, unstable, the list goes on. I don’t tell most people that I have BPD because these days I barely show signs of having it, and I don’t need people seeing me in a hateful light.

[Agape93]

My girl has it, aside from some issues we get along just fine.

[Agape93]

It's hard but can be managed with a good partner, medicine and DBT

[Asker]

I'm never going to have that partner. I don't believe in love and never have. How do I do it by myself?

[Agape93]

By going to therapy

[jahaims]

Therapy and meds