My fiancé has mental disorders and uses hard core prescription drugs occasionally should I be worried?

[kareenakapur]

my fiancé checks boxes in so many ways but I am worried about his mental disorders.

1. Panic disorder which he hasn't had in years but has prescription Xanax for which he uses whenever he's extra stressed.

2. ADHD and takes adderall randomly when he has shit to do but he works well without it sooo I don't know if he fr has ADHD

3. Random other prescribed controlled substance pills that I don't know how old they are. He doesn't take often.

4. Depressed 3 years back and almost took his own life by wanting to take pills. I don't know should I be worried about his mental disorders. Is this a big red flag that I am taking lightly?

[VyacheslavSokolov]

I do not much about mental health, but I guess mental health treatments and therapy takes years to work. It has been 3 years since this event happen and you mentioned he been working well without some of his medications, so I am assuming he is showing improvement, maybe? Again I do not know anything about mental health stuff.

He has you a lover which is one his support system and maybe his family or friends. He is getting married and he is working at his job well as you mentioned, so maybe his mental health is getting better with the treatment they are giving him.

[kareenakapur]

his depression was after his girlfriend broke up with him. yeah he goes to therapy off and on. He is just finishing medical school so starting his new residency job and making money so I'm worried about how his mental health will be to the shift of this stressful job.

[Anonymous]

Your fiancé's inconsistent use of prescription drugs, combined with past suicidal thoughts, is a serious red flag. You need open communication, professional evaluation, and possibly couples counseling before considering marriage. Prioritize your safety and well-being.

[kareenakapur]

yeah he offered premarital counseling he loves therapy and goes off and on. His suicidal thoughts were when his ex girlfriend broke up with him.

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask on gag you're ignoring your gut instincts.

[WhitneySnow]

Those sound like red flags. Or at least yellow ones.

[NathanDavis]

everyone should be concerned and consult with a doctor... a professional

[kareenakapur]

he is a doctor too tho

[NathanDavis]

the ones who need the professional help and care the most... are doctors themselves...

[Mark987]

How long have you been engaged? The decision is completely upto you. Help him as much as you can? if you find you're at your end you can't help him anymore, unless he wants it then you have to let him know. It's a really sensitive subject.

[OneViewpoint]

Well, I'd be running for the exit. But that's just me. Look forward to a challenging future.

[Jordi2525]

I don't understand your question. Should you be worried about yourself, that you are with him, or about him, or about both of you?

[kareenakapur]

me with him

[Jordi2525]

But what do you suggest? Apart from me giving you advice or support, do you want to help him or leave him?

[HungTexan]

I’d be concerned!

[Pterodon]

Big red flag.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm sorry but he has too much going on for me