Do you feel emotional pain or regret when you're when you're overcoming something from the past?

[Lynx122]

I mean not regret about healing but regret about the lost time in your life for example. And also just feeling pain that was maybe suppressed. Do you work on this consistently or just once in a while? I'm curious about your experiences :)

Thanks for your answers :)

[sage2021]

I work on myself while whatever is going on at the time during the time that it's happening and then I put it behind me and press on to the next thing because there's always going to something going on and I don't hang on to each thing because it will all accumulate and overwhelm me.

[Lynx122]

I have to really understand something before I can move on, so it makes it harder. But when it finally clicks it does feel good because I feel like I won't have to come back around to this issue again. And it can even help me with other things in the future. It does take a lot of work though XD.

[kitkatto]

I don’t have any regrets but I do feel the pain all over again sometimes when I look back at hurtful memories. I’m actively working on it though, my therapist told me that it’s a form of self-harm because I purposefully think of past hurtful memories in order to feel “something” other than numbness.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No not really.
I don't focus on my past unless its nostalgia or creativity fuel.
Trauma for me is only stressful during the incident, after its over I'm fine. As far as time goes, I can make more.

[Lynx122]

Hmm nice I wonder what that feels like :)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Not sure it feels like anything in particular. I still have a full range of emotions, but my mind is on the present, the future, and stuff I like, want, or create.
There is too much to think about, too much to do, there is no time for trauma dwelling or regretwhen I could be drawing, gaming, watching anime, making music, studying science, etc.

[Lynx122]

I didn't have a choice :) My current behavior was too affected by my past so I had to figure this out. But I understand where you're coming from :)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Not sure what that means but everyone handles stuff their own way. Try not to stress out too much though, its not healthy. You gotta have most of your life be what you consider positive stuff.

[Lynx122]

Yeah I just write about the difficult stuff more because it helps process it. But I'm good. I try and enjoy the journey as much as I can :)

[TheSpaceGnome]

👍👍

[NathanDavis]

it can be one of the challenges, sure... and it could take a long time to deal with both, but it is doable

[Lynx122]

Yeah I know. We'll get throught it :)

[OlderAndWiser]

Having mistakes in your past is inevitable unless you live all your life in a cave. Those mistakes are not a waste of time if you use them to learn some lessons and make yourself a better person.

[Agape93]

Pain, yes. I don't feel regret regardless.

[Anonymous]

Yes, very often.