I offended my body conscious boyfriend. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I offended by body conscious boyfriend by mistake, and he said it was something that would stick with him for a long time. Long story short, he is huge on building muscles, and has been 'bulking up' in order to do so. THis has led to fat gain as well, which he is aware of, and often jokes about developing a double chin and a new roll on his stomach. I made an offhand comment in the same context, and he said it really hurt him, and how badly he wants to take steroids to get the perfect body. What can I do?

[AltTech]

He obviously doesn't know what he's doing. I bulked up from 190 to 235 with no fat gain and actually some fat loss. Its all in the diet/workout intensity/rest periods and water intake (1 gal per day).

Tell him to stop wasting his time with weight gainers, they aren't for average people, they are for underweight people. Regular protein powder like MyoFusion or AfterShock are the best post workout recovery proteins. Wouldn't hurt to take a preworkout stimulant and an intraworkout creatine either.

Even steroids won't help him if his diet sucks. If anything, it will build muscle, but he will have a very soft appearance and develop bitch t*ts. His water retention will be awful as well.

[Asker]

His diet is actually good, its just about the calories. This isn't really the issue I'm concerned with..

[Anonymous]

*BUZZ* That crap about "bulking up" with fat before you turn it into muscle is a lie. You can't just get heavy and then turn fat into muscle. Your body doesn't have a sci-fi matter rearranging system. Tell him that and maybe that dose of reality will help your relationship.

[Asker]

He's a personal trainer, and the fat gain thing just happens when you eat more calories to gain more muscle. Once you've gained the muscle you want, you 'cut' and lose fat. You can't lose fat and gain muscle at the same time. He realizes this.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, if he realizes this, then why would he be so easily offended? Maybe it's because he feels like he's doing this to impress you and you cut him short before he could produce the results. If you think you really offended him, maybe ask him to explain the process / steps involved and take an interest in his effort to improve his physique. That will at least show him you care.

[Asker]

I think just because deep down he has body image problems. He isn't doing it to impress me, its for himself. I think also because he's surrounded by it all every day, with his job. I do show that I care, and I worry about him because he already takes a lot of supplements (besides whey.. pre workout, post work outs, other aminos..) I just want to know how I can apologize enough to not make it affect him for the longterm, as it said it hurt him.

[Opinion Owner]

Unless he's crying himself to sleep nightly, I'm sure he'll get over it. Anger is more influential than despair, so men have an advantage with natural aggression to motivate them.

Get another man to talk to him. Men respond more aggressively to other men.

[Anonymous]

Once he gets on 'roids, he'll start hitting you for hurting his feelings.

[NonchalantBro]

lol

[Anonymous]

thats just stupid. same kinda thing as if I call my sister a bitch, that's totally fine. if you call my sister a bitch, then we have an issue.