How to find motivation to shower and brush teeth?

[Hi000vm]

I’m mkt depressed but I do have ADHD but it has never been this bad.

The last thee months I’ve struggled to get myself to shower in the days I’ve planned so I have split it up so I shower my hair the day before (on Saturdays) and my body thr second day. But I’ve only been able to do it one time a week. But sometimes I push my hair showering forward one week and my body a few days.

and brush my teeth is like every second day unless I’m going out.

I don’t understand what’s happened, it’s probably beacuse I don’t have a routine that makes me do it beacuse I have nowhere to be or do. I need help.

[Screenwriter]

You're not in school and you don't have a job? I suspect you're living at home. Your parents don't require you to contribute to the household by doing gainful work? Do you not have plans for your future?

It sounds like you're in the middle of a serious depression. You need to see a therapist and possibly a psychiatrist so you can get meds to lift you out of this. Not showering and brushing your teeth means you're at the bottom of a big low. You do need help. Ask to see someone, and once you do, keep at it until you make progress.

Remember, it takes many sessions to address ONE problem. At least 13. It will take you longer if you have multiple issues to work through. And you have to WANT to do the emotional work. This isn't easy, but it sounds like you're nearly there.

Be kind to yourself, but addressing this should be your job for the time being.

If you do nothing else every day, brush your teeth and bathe. Change your clothes.

Next, make it to your therapy appointments. At first, you'll just be going through the motions. But eventually, when you get to feeling better, it will no longer be an effort to do what 90% of the world does because it's necessary :They need to get to work, school, take care of the kids, the car, go shopping, plan their lives.

Get the help you need and you'll get out of this even though you might not feel like that's possible right now. I've been there. Good luck to you.

[Hi000vm]

No I’m unemployed and dont go to uni/collage. But I am trying to find a job. I don’t have any weekly or daily chores except throwing out the trash when needed & maybe cleaning the floor when asked.

Well I have plans of going to collage to get a good jobb, but non of the jobs or degrees interest me. Partly beacuse I have a low score to get into good collages and stuff, I did well in school and tried my hardest.

But I don’t entirely think I’m in a serious depression or in a one at all even if I may have symposium. I am able to get myself something to eat and make it. I have fun with my best friend and our other friend perfectly fine. Although I don’t find my old hobbies interesting anymore. But thanks for your concern and I totally get what you mean and where you’re coming from.
But It’s not like I’m feeling numb, sad or anything like that. I just feel normal (not sad or happy, but fine) most of the time. Although some small things at times can give me a spark of “dubbled” happiness that dosen’t compare to the usual happiness or feelings, but I don’t feel sad after the spark is gone. I don’t know what it’s called tho.

Thank you! I’ll think about it, even tho I feel that my situation is that serious.

[MemeSupreme]

you need meds bc building correct habits/discipline while off them is a bitch

[BadApple69]

Life is only as good as you make it. Don’t shower or brush your teeth and it’ll only make your life less desirable. Get out there and be the best you could be. Make life worth living and get out there and enjoy it. Don’t let medical BS slow you down.

[Sonorous]

My motivation comes from my health tbh. I notice that when my hygiene is good, my immune system struggle less. Which translates to a better functioning body overall since the body heavily relies on the immune system.

[Sonorous]

But also daily showering isn't necessary in my opinion. You ideally want to give your skins microbiome a fighting chance at getting stronger instead of washing them off everyday. Best to wash up when needed in my opinion. And ofc diet, the amount of times someone sweats, etc matters. I for instance eat such a clean diet that I could go week without showering if I wanted to & I'd just smell like the sweet walnuts that I eat or even the olive oil that I eat. But most people don't eat this clean so they'd need to shower more often. And I do believe that brushing the teeth should be a daily thing though. Ideally twice yk the usual in the morning & at night.

[bowenw]

Would it help if you had a friend or family member remind you to do deal with these things on a regular basis?

[Hi000vm]

Don’t think so since it isn’t like a choir that effect everyone besides me since my parents don’t notice

[Panthero80]

I would talk to your doctor about this. It is classic depressive symptomology.

[Hi000vm]

But I’m not depressed, I can eat and drink normally even if I know these issues that I mentioned are. Besides all the other times I had another symptom that was only feeling numb for 1-3 days it went away quickly so this probably will to when get a job that I need to take care of myself for.

[Panthero80]

it still wouldn't hurt to talk to your doctor.

[Hi000vm]

True

[dislikesmath]

I have similar problems for years I'm here to listen and help you I studied 5 psychologists.

[Staximus]

You have to just get up and make yourself do it like anything in life you want to accomplish

[Anonymous]

Set a repeating alarm on your phone to remind you every day in the morning and/or before bed.