Why do y'all use the worst excuses when someone asks if you want to date a fat person?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I saw a post asking if you would date 2 women. They looked like they were at a healthy weight, but the comments called them fat. I started to look up other fat posts and saw that this community does not like fat people. In fact a lot of disrespectful posts /comments came from women, like birth control side effects and pcos isn't a thing. Also that at least in America, our food has been genetically modified which has increase weight gain statistically here. I even made a post non related to weight on here but included a picture and my weight was commented on just to be mean. I've always been a little big, but as I've gotten older I had to watch what I eat and do compared to my skinny friends and still got ridiculed. To the point I thought I was actually losing weight from a new job and a new track routine. However it turned out to be cancer. When the cancer was gone the weight came back quickly.
I went to the gym and lifted weights, and did homemade food, but as the year progressed I got weaker until one day one side of my body became numb and I couldn't even bend without shaking. Going through Dr's. with the same "lose weight diagnosis. And with symptoms getting worst
A dr. tested me for sleep apnea which I do have.
Yes sleep apnea can come from weight gain, but it can also causes weight gain, pain and inflammation and can be inherited. My dad has it along with severe hypersomnia. So all that time I was trying to be healthy, I was hurting myself more because my body was not recovering. My MRIs show bone bruises on my thighs, fluid from inflammation in my knees and tendinopathy for my shoulders. Yet y'all look at my people and assume we don't care about our health and we waste our money & time for at least 1 doctor to listen to us. And y'all call us ugly for trying to find love or at least love ourselves.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I wouldn’t pay much attention to fatphobia. There’s not much you and I can do to stop it, and if someone’s like that I’d rather be fat to keep them away from me with zero effort on my part than befriend them and find out later. If they’re that shallow, we’re better off without each other.

[Nikki1989]

Men on here are full of excuses as to why they can't find a date. Calling someone fat is just one of them.

[seeyounexttuesday]

You don't like yourself if you're fat. Don't waste time worrying about other people when you have your own issues to work through.

[Asker]

That's not true
I love myself, but to get any health help, I have to be skinny and to stop assumptions I encounter before they know anything me, I have to be skinny. That's why I'm still trying.
I love myself enough to try and fight for a better way of life by removing those fatphobic obstacles that are rapid in society.

[seeyounexttuesday]

whenever you use the term 'fatphobic' I know you're a bullshitter.

[Asker]

Well whenever you assume I don't love myself because I'm big
I know you're spitting stereotypical nonsense found in people who don't like fat people

[seeyounexttuesday]

You don't love yourself if you physically abuse your body. This is a fact.

[Asker]

I'm not physically abusing my body
How was I supposed to know the difference between regular leg day pain and something chronically ill was going on with me.
Once I realized it wasn't normal
I investigated.
That's not abusing your body. That's just being unaware

[seeyounexttuesday]

Consuming more calories to the point where you are obese is abuse.

[Asker]

You're assuming I'm eat a lot of calories, and I don't have IBS and a slow metabolism

[seeyounexttuesday]

"slow metabolism" is just BS.

[jahaims]

Project much?

[Asker]

Definitely not cuz I've seen it