How to motivate my girlfriend into being more healthy and fit?

[more_than_a_guy]

I am fit and my girlfriend is a bit overweight and she doesn't exercise much, and she started doing so with me, as a couple workout. But I don't think it's enough, as her sleeping and nutrition habbits need more change. Like emotional eating. On one hand I don't want to pressure her, we are only 3 months together. When I talk to her about it, I try to be positive as a journey of us both together. On the other, she needs to push a bit more for results.

P. S. I really don't want to break up with her over this, as we have a great connection I don't think I had with anyone else. I just want her to push a little more.

Updates

8 mo

I forgot to say, she told me herself that she wants to lose some weight and change. But her sayings and deeds are different.

[itsannalee]

She already over weight before you both together right? So why would you complain about her weight now?


It’s not like you started dating her when she was fit and slim and she changed. Date someone who fit on your type, not someone who doesn’t fit but tries to force them to do that.

[Anonymous]

The sad thing is that you can't. She has to want to do it for herself. As someone who is also overweight, it took a long time for me to want to get in shape. I've lost nearly 30lbs so far and have a long way to go but I'm doing it because I decided I needed to get healthy.

She's gonna have to want to do this for herself. She's gonna have to want to stop with the junk and eat less processed foods and more whole foods and workout more. Hopefully she will get there soon.

[BarryLiverstone]

You don’t. It’s only been 3 months, so keep the focus on yourself and celebrate when she does well. She has to be self motivated and driven to stay in shape rn. If you are still together in 2 years my answer may be different.


That being said make sure you work on the relationship and don’t add to her stress. Be a source of calm and peace to her this holiday season and let her make healthy choices on her own.

[Sonorous]

Say "Baby you know you look good. But tbh you'd look even better if you lost some weight. [friends girlfriends name] makes sure she stays fit for [friends name] & their relationship is absolutely boomin."

[Jellyshroom]

Well first of all please avoid pressure, like don’t make her feel like she needs to change to please you. Also you can try to be example saying things like

“I’ve been feeling so much better since I started working out regularly — it’s really helped my mood.” And you can just compliment her effort, she would love that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Like I told him, it’s really too soon for him to pressure her. Don’t you think if he was critical now it’s going to negatively affect her self esteem?

[Abbycado]

You let her live her life and encourage her to be more fit. As a fitness freak, I wouldn’t push it.

[curiousandhonest]

I also need the answer to this

[Anonymous]

Take her to the gym.