How can I convince her to exercise with me and make similiar changes to her lifestyle as me in order to lose weight and build muscle?

[Anonymous]

I (30m) was 260 pounds at my heaviest. I was sent to a weight loss doctor and dietican for counseling. They recommended Ensure total protein meal replacement shakes because I commonly skipped meals, and this was a way to keep my motablism going while providing minimal calories for the replaced meal. They also really harped on me getting exercise. I started out by speed walking, about 3 mph, and laps at the mall. After 3 to 4 weeks of this, I decided to walk outside. I live in an area with lots of hills, and I happen to live at the bottom of one very large hill that is about a mile and a half long. I walked it every day this week. I am currently down to 225 pounds, and my smartwatch is giving me details on my progress. While I am not happy with how slow the numbers on the scale are going down, it turns out it's for a good reason it's slow. I am putting on a good bit of muscle while losing fat.

My wife (29 f) weighs, and I can not give an exact number here, but I know it's roughly 300 pounds. I encouraged her to drink one of my meal replacement shakes since she skips meals all the time. She said its taste/texture is so off-putting that she is disgusted by it, so she continues to skip meals. I ask her to go for a walk with me, exercise being the main goal, and she either says no, or she is completely dissenterested in the exercise portion of the walk and comes to a complete standstill to focus on pokemon go, usually either catching stuff or battling team rocket. For context, when I am walking, I am able to maintain my pace of 3 mph and play Pokemon Go.

How can I get her to actually focus on doing whats good for her body and joining me on this weight loss health journey?

[Anonymous]

Keto. Keto. Keto. She needs to drop the sugar and eat lots of fat and protein. I lost 17lbs in less than 2 weeks by doing keto/omad (one meal a day). If she doesn't like the ensure maybe she should try Premier Protein Shakes. They have so many different flavors that are delicious and high in protein.

Get her to see success stories on YouTube and Reddit of people who did Keto/OMAD. It absolutely works.

As for the activity level. Let's see how she does with keto first and then slowly get her to incorporate exercising into her regimen. The keto alone will make her drop weight quick and possibly make her get motivated to start working out along with the keto diet.

[Anonymous]

Could be she is depressed over her weight and has no self esteem to even bother. Keep encouraging her. Has she maybe seen a doctor to enlighten her on her weight? I went for blood work and at my smallish size, I knew I had to lose 15 pounds. My good word on my blood tests gave me more of an incentive to even mark down a regiment of my weight loss and my bowel movements which are important to me. Keep trying or she will end up on deaths row with perhaps putting on more weight. Especially one who sits all day and eats.

[Asker]

Well she has insulin resistence. She was 350 pounds at her heaviest I think, but spent some time on the wegovy shot which brought her down to where she is at. She stopped losing at this point and its been months. She hardly eats and skips meals constantly, but she does eat a mug of ice cream 2 to 3 times a week right before bed. I try to warn her against doing this right before sleeping, but she doesn't listen. My doc told me it will just make you gain body fat because (insert medical reason). I honestly think she hit the point where it won't do her any good anymore to just "eat less" she needs to still keep her calories down, but eat meals 3x a day and snack on a piece of fruit or something, or a protien shake like I do along with exercise to keep her motablism up. Its so hard to get her to do these things though.

[Opinion Owner]

I she on any kind of mind meds or health meds?

[Asker]

She will only take gummy's or stuff that tastes ok that she can chew. She is on metformin. Her doctor says she is both iron and vitamin d deficient, but she hasn't taken those even when prescribed because they have come as a pill. Recently we found an iron and vitamin d gummy over the counter she seems to like so I have high hopes for that. Her iron and vitamin d deficency has her sleeping for 12 hours a day sometimes. Midnight to noon

[Opinion Owner]

Not bad. No mind drugs or anything much. However, More weigh gain can eventually lead to sugar and heart problems... Keep working with her.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank You, True Blue and Good Luck. xx

[ProbablyClueless]

All you can do is make the offer. Make the offer. Make it fun. Make it easy. Make it a social thing. She has to be the one to decide that she wants to put in that work though.

[Anonymous]

Maybe decide to train for an event together like a 5k run or walk. A common goal will help. Or ask her to join you on walks but ditch the devices. Remind her it’s about health not looks. You don’t want to imply she needs to lose weight but more so should want to be healthy. Good luck!

[HelpfulWoman]

-You can't.

[In_Trance]

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