The thing is, he is saying it in a nice way. He tells me he wants me to be healthy, that he wants to be able to pick me up and carry me up the stairs in our house one day, etc. I know he loves me very much, and I know he is not saying any of it for the wrong reasons, but I can't help but feel like crap about it. He used to tell me also how hot I look in my old pictures and how he'd want me to look like that again, and I told him that was a sh*tty thing to say, and he apologized. He said he thought that would encourage me to diet and exercise, he legitimately did not think it sounded bad in my head. But anyway, I can't get over my own self-consciousness and thinking he only wants me to lose weight so I can look hotter. And honestly, even though I would love to be skinnier, my current look does not bother me enough to keep a strict diet and exercise. I absolutely hate healthy food and exercising, just how I am. I don't know how to get him to stop making comments about my weight, because I don't want him to think that I don't love him enough to do something for him. He even stopped smoking for me, so I feel like I need to show him also that I care and am willing to do something to improve my health. But GOD do I hate when he brings it up, because weight was always an area of self-consciousness for me. How can I help myself not be bothered by his comments? How can I convince myself that he only wants what's best for me and trust in his good intentions?
Bf keeps telling me to lose weight, I can't take it anymore
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