What was the hardest postpartum symptom or struggle you went through?

[emeraldsaphire]

I had my daughter a few weeks ago, and for the most part I think my recovery has been going pretty well. I don't want to get to graphic, but if you know you know. Lots of aches, cramps, messes and hormones. OMG the hormones. I've been crying probably like 10 times a day. The emotional disregulation has been the worst part. Like sure the cramps and bleeding and.. well other stuff suck, but I can deal with that. What is hard is crying for like 10 minutes because I saw a bird all by them self standing on the power line. Then all the fears about being a new mom. I've probably game planned almost every scenario that she could possibly go through. It doesn't help that I've not left the house in like 4 weeks. I went to eat with my husband a couple days ago and I have a doc appt next week, but other then that I've been home. My friends say I should get out, but that's kinda hard when you are recovering from giving birth. Heck I was really nervous to go to the dinner, even though I knew we'd be their for a very short time and I've been feeling a lot better physically. I got really lucky and got no tearing, so most of my worst symptoms have been emotional. My husband has been amazing! he's so great with our daughter. and he got everything ready for me. He's kept the bathroom clean and stocked with everything I need. He makes sure I'm able to get some sleep well he has baby duty. He helped me get the best pillow to sit on. And just so many small things. lol now I'm crying again.

Anyway What was your biggest struggle with your postpartum recovery?

[Anonymous]

When I had my oldest he got stuck and they had to dona vacum extraction, a lot of violent pulls. I got a 3rd degree tear as well as an episiotomy and was operated on for 4 hours a few hours after birth. I had so munch pain and could barely walk for weeks. The episiotomy was the worst. It took over 8 weeks before the pain and crampy heavy feeling when standing up/walking went away. I didn’t feel much for my baby. It took me 6 months before I started to feel love. I think it was because previous trauma related to a pregnancy that I lost.

With my second I got a second degree tear that was stitched. It was stitched to tightly and was so sensitive and stingy for weeks. I had to pee in the shower with the water going for a few weeks because the pain was too bad otherwise. I was also feeling some sort of depressive symptoms and had a difficult time bonding with and feeling love for my baby. The first night I spent crying and feeling like it wasn’t my baby and like I didn’t want it because it wasn’t mine, even though I logically knew it was. The feeling of it not being my baby went away after the first night but I still couldn’t bond. It took a very long time.

With my third I had an easy delivery and felt almost back to normal just a few hours after birth. No pain. Could walk, sit, cross my legs, dance and so whatever right away. I had a bad case of baby blues 3-5 days pp where I just kept crying, but other than that things went well.

[emeraldsaphire]

Omg that sounds awful, especially not feeling the love part. I mean it makes sense with all the trauma you had to go through. It's amazing that it's 2026 and still feel like medical care for pregnant women is just awful

[Apple1996]

The baby blues those first couple of weeks are terrible. Its from the hormones crashing after birth. You should try leaving the house more to distract you from the sadness. I have to be out often when im postpartum because of that

[Apple1996]

And to answer your question this time around with my 6th the worst thing has been that i developed postpartum OCD so bad to the point I could only eat in bedroom because I was convinced there were too many germs in my kitchen/dinning room. Also all water tasted/smelled like blood for a few weeks. It was so strange

[emeraldsaphire]

OMG, that sounds awful. I've not had postpartum OCD, but I've heard about it Also 6 kids, that's amazing congrats!

[Anonymous]

Just the constant crying and over emotional displays.

Like a week after giving birth my husband and I are having a netflix and chill, the baby fast asleep. Sydney Sweeny is running around in a bikini in anyone but you, I look down and he's hard as a rock so I decide to give him a treat. So im give a bj and he's getting into it and I look up at him and I just start getting emotional and crying uncontrollably with him in my mouth. He just pulls my up and hugs me and I tell how much I love him weeping uncontrollably and still jerking him off. It was completely weird.

[molonski2]

Postnatal depression, should be taken very seriously , all the best and congratulations, it can get better but it's tough.

[ABitShattered]

Postpartum Depression is pretty brutal. Having been on the partner's side of it, please seek help if you need it. It can be a great help.

[Phateemah32]

I had postpartum eclampsia after childbirth, which lead to 24 hrs unconscious and it makes me to have lost of memories.

[emeraldsaphire]

that sounds awful

[temu_shrek]

Never meeting my child.

[Mariogirl09]

Depression... psychosis. it was hell

[jahaims]

My wife went through psychosis during postpartum

[Iron_Man]

Congratulations on having a child.