What would make your spouse think and say you are fat 4 months after giving birth?

[hennessyjs27]

Im curious as to why a man would tell his wife she is fat 4 months after having a baby. Is it just cut and dry or is it stemming from a deeper issue? I have 20 lbs to go to be back to pre pregnancy weight and I have always been on the thinner side and I returned to my pre pregnancy weight 7 months after having my first child. I'm confused why he didn't even give me a chance to get back. To make matters worse I had a c-section and couldn't start working out until 10 weeks after my son was born. What's the deal?! Could it be that he is just over me and I don't do it for him anymore?

[PhilaPenn]

That was rude. He could be really turned off by fat, but there is a way to approach the subject in a dignified manner. Especially since you recently had a child. Some actresses look good 30 days after delivery but they have personal trainers and time to devote. That's not realistic. As a husband he has to understand that there are things you just don't say to the woman you love. 4 months isn't that long. Poor judgement on his part.

[hennessyjs27]

I guess it would make more sense him saying that to me if he was thin...hes not fat...but in my opinion people shouldn't say things to otbers wgen they themselves need work in that very area. I'm 27 and he is 36 we have 2 kids, he seen how quickly I lost the weight after the first chold so it's not like he could think I was going to stay that way. I gained a good bit both times but I have 2 boys who were 8.9 & 8.8...just trips me out!

[PhilaPenn]

Thats rich. So he's not even in shape? He's got a lot of nerve. I'm careful with what I say to women I date. I've learned that girls take certain things to heart. Weight is a delicate issue. If I wanted my girlfriend to lose weight I mightsuggest we do some exercise together. Maybe play tennis. But that sucks that he just threw those words out there.

[Anonymous]

Wow he's such a jerk for saying that. He should appreciate what you and your body went through to give birth to HIS and yours child. Don't tolerate his belittling you, that's not right.

[hennessyjs27]

In your opinion as a man if you felt this way would it be just because it's how you felt or would it be because for whatever reason your just not down with her anymore?

[Opinion Owner]

It doesn't mean he's not down with you anymore. Maybe he was just grumpy about something else and just said what he knew was gonna hurt your feelings.

[Anonymous]

"Could it be that he is just over me" How has he been through the pregnancy? Has he been supportive or cold and insensitive? Maybe you should get over him, be the one to end it if you are not happy.

[hennessyjs27]

He was awesome throughout pregnancy..very attentive and sympathetic. I didn't start to notice a change in attitude and demeanor until about one month after. I guess that's what's so confusing to me.

[snowangle]

Well that's insensitive. I'm not sure why he would say that, but I hope you spoke up and let him know it bothered you.

[hennessyjs27]

I did and I stressed to him that I just had our baby. He apologized and said that he shouldn't of said itbut the fact is he did say it...can't take it back now!

[Blueeyes81]

I don't think he's over you or anything. Could be he was angry and used that as a way to hurt you, Could be he made a bad joke. Mabey the sex hasn't been there since the child's birth and he's frustrated. Don't read to much into it. He was an ass for saying it but I don't think he's done with you and the kids.

[hennessyjs27]

The sex has been there..3 weeks after..and unlike most married couples that we know who the husband complains about the lack of sex I am just the opposite...he gets it ANYTIME he wants it..literally. And not just sex..pretty much whatever he wants in that department. And it was said to me after I found something in his phone...wasn't looking through it just looking something up on internet because mine was dead...and was told that was why he was looking at what he was...

[zalew]

He's a f***ing a**hole, plain and simple..