Feeling guilty after eating a lot (too much?)

[Anonymous]

I think of myself as a person who likes to look good, and in order to look good, I feel I should look like I have a weight that fits my frame, I'm 1m65 and I weigh 52 kilo (so according to Google that's 5 ft4 and 115 pounds).

When I was younger I was chubby, my boobs came in fast and I freaked out, so stopped eating, my friends thought I was about to have an eating disorder. Now, years later, food is still an issue. When I hang out with friends at their place, I have some crisps or a slice of pizza. I've been trying to eat a bit more because I heard comments that I'm too skinny. I used to weigh 50 kilo, now I'm a good 52 I think but now the issues start. I bet you can't even see I gained two kilo's, but it bothers me. I feel guilty when I eat and I don't want to fall back into that trap of a disorder. Anyone else who understands how I feel? Someone who felt the same way and knows how to get over it and live with it? No rude comments please.

[toulouse]

youre dominated by a thought.

it helps if you care about/ control something else in life. something noble you can dedicate time to. make a schedule for yourself so you don't have time to worry about things that are not productive.

dont eat crap that way you won't have an excuse to fixate on food or weight.

make a meal plan that is healthy and suits your weight. make an exercise plan, then schedule th rst of yuor time with things you must do and things you enjoy doing. the bulk of the time should be spent on things that are productive imo. you'll have more respect for yourself and judging yourself by a kilo or two, will make less and less sense.

part of the issue is your perseverating, the other part is its over something that is useless. your life your productivity worth accomplishments won't change from a fluctuation of a few kilos yet you have it in top priority at this point.

you need to do things in a way that can start to shift where your mind focuses imo. as well as dong things so that while you're shifting no great changes occur with the weight to again give you an excise to ma it a top priority.

i think your best bet is to set thing up so that your body stays healthy and consistent then your mind will have the freedom to cis on important matters.

what that is will be up to you. use this as an opportunity to discover yourself or what you want your world to be like and strive for it.

theres no reason yo need to be a slave to unproductive thoughts we all have recurring thoughts that block us, but the trick is learning how to let them go.. not dominate you. and you made ned to replace them with something else to begin with. right now you're stuck in a brain loop. you need to break it and form healthy paths.

be reasonable. don't think of yourself as a person who likes' to look good. think of yourself ho looks good because you tae care of yourself. then k a more serious question bot who you are. you are a person who likes to 'insert something worthy here'.

evryone liks to look good. you can't make a living off of thst unless you pln o model, but evn still you are more thsn how you look andtm that particulsr thought is occupying too muh of yuorsel.

id a;so advice npt gaining or losing eight because of comments from others.

if you felt you had control over your life in the first place you would not be fixating over something that does yo no good. and doing things to yourself because of others is only going to increase your sense of loss of control.

take responsibility for your actions. be organized. get comfortable with how you are and work to find out more about who you are.

no big changes physically will help give your mind time to relax and shift focus imo. being healthy helps you feel good not guilty. and having other obligations- than looking good- will hep put kilos in perspective. having other interest swill occupy your mind in a healthy positive confident way. rather than uncertainty doubt and guilt prevailing.

good luck. ;-)

[weallhavequestions]

The problem with eating disorders, is that you can give them too much attention or power. Obsessing over them can actually hurt you! So what's a girl to do about this?

First, you should have a workout plan. Something that you do several times a week. This will curb excess eating by burning what you intake. Then, you should focus more on how healthy you are instead of how much fat you do or do not have. Health is more important, and it's easier on the mental stress.

For example: Tuesdays are junk food days. But Wednesday-Friday, healthy healthy. Saturday, one junk snack. Sunday-Monday, healthy days.

You also need people in your life who are positive, who aren't judging you by your weight (but who will encourage you to live a healthy lifestyle). Feel free to add me for tips or if you need someone to talk you out of beating yourself up.

Don't feel guilty!

[Asker]

Thanks! I do go for a run a couple of times a week, but didn't go today because I wasn't feeling well and then I over think things: "I shouldn't eat too much today because I didn't go for my run". I do have people supporting me, it's not like they're: "god you look skinny" but one of my best friends worries about my health, she knows everything about me and how I used to be so she knows how I feel. But you're right, some days I should be allowed to eat something "nasty" as long as I stay healty.

[weallhavequestions]

If you consistently workout, the only thing you should be worrying about is a consistently unhealthy diet. Do you eat cookies every day? Are you obsessed with twinkles? If not, you're fine. If you gain 2 pounds, you're fine. Just add another mile somewhere.

If you gain too much, run harder, or make one day an especially healthy day. Get yourself into a routine. Make allowances for "failures" so that you don't hate yourself. For example, if you junk out on a Wednesday, then let that b junk da

[1ibiz]

Retarded ass answer!

[1ibiz]

Eat the right food and it doesn't make a difference how much you eat. Eat junk and every single bite will affect. Its quite common sense!